tigra

I wouldn't know. I've never been shot in the eye.

Hey- I didn't name names! I didn't even mention your post about the waterproof mascara!

I don't disagree but I can walk away from this site if something upsets or offends me, or if I feel like a post has crossed the line into nasty sick creepy territory. (It happens sometimes.......) If that happened at work and it happened a LOT, my options would be kind of limited. I need my job and can't just get up and walk away.

What he said really wasn't anything- regardless of what he meant, it could be interpreted in many ways, most of them completley innocent. If you had responded any differently, it might have been YOU making the inappropriate comments. I think laughing it off and NOT commenting was the best thing to do. The thing about SH in the workplace is that there is a really fine line between having a sense of humor and offending people. You really have to know the people you are working with to know how a comment like that will be taken. If even one person gets offended, it can be considered harrassment.

The real question is whether or not the "out of network" and pre approval for services apply in an emergency situation when you are out of town or X number of miles from home.

Leather Tuscadero? She was way hotter than her big sister Pinky!

The way my insurance works is if I am more than 90 miles from home and its considered an emergency, it is covered. When I was injured and treated at the "local" hospital, including surgery and an overnight stay, I only had to pay my standard co-payment, but I did need to stay on top of my insurance company pretty much throughout my whole recovery. Its very easy for the clerk processing the bills to put one in the wrong pile- you know the one that says "DENIED" in big red letters? And there are a LOT of bills associated with a broken leg. I assume you provided your insurance information to the hospital that treated you? And that the doctors at that hospital determined that it was in your best interest to treat you there that day instead of releasing you and having you go to your own doctor or hospital 2 hours away?

They're pretty funny about their routines. Apparently, there's a book out there- All Cats has Aspergers? My aunt told me about it. I'll have to look for it some day. It might answer a lot of questions!

I remember him from that show. Sooooo cute and he reminded me of at least 2 major crushes I had in high school. Now I'll have to check out that band. There are singers I could listen too all day (or all night) but I don't know about a romp. I do sort of have a thing for the guitar player in Collective Soul. Really hot in a bad boy/ Jared Leto kind of way ........ I don't even know if he's a decent guitar player, but if I am at one of their shows, I don't pay much attention to the lead singer at all!

Consider yourself lucky it is right outside the box. She could choose your shoes, the middle of the bathroom floor, your pillow .......... I had a cat who would poop right in front of me- where ever I happened to be at the time- if the litter box was dirty. And to be fair, he only did it when the litter box was really bad. My ex boyfriend and I both had a bad habit of deciding it was the other one's turn to clean it ...........

There is nothing undignified about accepting a dinner invitation. Its kind of sad that you think there is. And there is a huge difference between going on a "date" and expecting a man to support you or buy things for you "just because".

What rules exactly? And why make assumptions about someone you've never met? I think my definition of "manners" is a lot more clear than your definition of "dignity." If I invite someone to dinner, I provide a meal. I do it because I want to and not because I expect anything else in return. What's so wrong with expecting other people to do the same? Why twist it into something it isn't?

Its not about feeling "entitled" to anything. Its about basic manners. Do you invite someone to dinner then ask them to stop at the store, pick up the food and cook it? (Actually, I know someone who would but.........) You should be able to do something for another person without making that other person feel obligated. You should also be able to accept a nice gesture without feeling any obligation. A meal or a movie should not be so complicated that a person's dignity is compromised. Personally, I'd rather stay home alone than go out with someone who made me feel like he was buying more than dinner. I've also made it pretty clear that I don't have a problem picking up the tab. But, it comes back to basic manners- if you ask someone out, you should expect to pay. If someone asked me out, I would not expect him to hand me the bill at the end of the meal.

That's a rental, not a date. If you "let" her spend the night, I guess that would make her a rental with "option".

Well, luckily I've never been stuck at Ruth Cris and unexpectedly handed the bill.

There is no mob forming- why so dramatic? You made a large sweeping generalization about women in general and people called BS. Get over it.

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Thank you! I knew exactly where this will be going just as I made my first post - I'll be getting lots of "love" from the ladies ... Women don’t want to hear the truth on this one. We advocate equality and bitch that as a society we’re making little or no progress in that direction. At the same time, when it suits us, we want to be treated as helpless prized possessions that need to be taken care of. Well … we can’t have it both ways ... O I think you are making a huge leap from accepting a "date" to playing the helpless card, and that's YOUR issue. I haven't seen a single female post to this thread that they expect the man to pay all the time. Not a single one. All relationships involve a certain amount of give and take- dating, friendship, work colleagues, whatever.

I'm in favor of alternating and paying my share, I'm in favor of being financially responsible as a couple, not over extending or going out for meals you can't really afford. But I don't think I could live with a running tally of who is paying for what, down to the penny. I think that's a very interesting definition of "dignity" too. And seriously? Expecting the person who asked me out on a date to pay is not undignified, not at all. Continuing to date that person and never offering to pay, or even saying "Thank You" is.

ding ding ding ding ding ........... we have a winner here! If you are a single lady and actively dating, you really should be prepared. We're not just talking about birth control.

Finally ... a woman with some dignity!!!

If a man asked me out to dinner and expected me to pay half when the bill came- I would pay for my meal, even if we went someplace I couldn't really afford. I'd be shocked and taken aback and I wouldn't go out with him again. That's rude. Don't ask someone out if you can't afford it! Going "Dutch" can work when you are already in a relationship or maybe when you are poor broke students and you know its "Dutch" long before the check arrives. For normal "dating" - not so much! If I ask, I pay. If he asks, he pays.

I think in a first date, even first few dates situation, the person who asked the other person out pays. When you are actually dating or in a relationship, its a little different. If I go to the movies with my SO, he might buy the tickets and I'll buy the snacks. If he picks up the tab at a restaurant, I leave the tip or vice versa. If I spring for theatre tickets, he gets dinner. If I want to go someplace special, I pay. If he wants to take me to the auto show- he pays. That's how it should work, IMO, especially when both people are working and there isn't a huge difference in their incomes. I think even if I was dating a millionaire, I wouldn't let him pay for everything all the time. Honestly, I think you let the behavior continue for too long. If she's never reaching for her wallet and never even saying "Thank You", that's just not acceptable, I don't care where she is from. She won't spring for coffee, a few beers, popcorn at the movies, a tip? That's ridiculous! One way to put a stop to it is to stop taking her to places or events you really can't afford. Take her to the $3.00 movie theatre with the 2nd run shows, a taco stand instead of a steak house, that kind of thing. If she questions it, let her know you need to watch your spending. She'll either be OK with the less expensive dates, start pitching in if she wants to go someplace nicer, or dump you. All of that is better than you feeling used and taken advantage of.

Very true. But that reminds me of the Sex and the City episode where Miranda was dating a guy from her weightwatchers group.

You know what? I LOVED the New Orleans coffee when I was in New Orleans. I brought some home but it just didn't taste the same. I think it needs to be consumed in New Orleans with begnettes.