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A lot of groups can relate to that. First Class Citizen Twice Over

Sure, I haven't always been married, and at times I've hung around more gay people than I do these days. For a while I had a whole gay social circle. But that still doesn't make me an expert on gay people in general. It just means I have more of the statistically meaningless anecdotal evidence than you do. But by and large I've been attracted to friendships with mature people with good heads on their shoulders, gay OR straight. First Class Citizen Twice Over

Are you asking me personally? I hardly represent the gay community. I'm a monogamous, married man. I have nearly zero rational basis to make statistical or societal arguments about gay people overall. Oddly, I don't think any of you have any more basis than I do. Likely even less. I'm just smart enough to know what I don't know. First Class Citizen Twice Over

I'm reminded of all the Far Side cartoons where kids/husbands/dogs are shown hearing what they want to hear. What owner said: "Bad Fido. You pooped in the house. You're in big trouble. You're not getting your doggie treat today. Bad dog. Bad bad dog!" What Fido hears: "... .... ... ... .. .... .... ... doggie treat ... ... .. .... ... ... ...." First Class Citizen Twice Over

I'm going to assume you meant That's probably just a typo but it does change the meaning almost 100% so it's worth making sure. First Class Citizen Twice Over

Do you always keep to the topic of a thread? Is that why you earlier said "I don't see this as a gay issue" even though the first word in the thread title is "Gay"? Oh, it's so much fun to play loose with logical fallacies. I can see why people enjoy it so much! First Class Citizen Twice Over

Perhaps in another thread you can demonstrate this theory with some other examples that support it. For instance, could you cite some derogatory stereotypes of black people, cripples, or women that have a rational basis? First Class Citizen Twice Over

That's a very strong statement; to some extent it's probably true. In a less dramatic way of putting it that might be more palatable, a long-term, society-wide ostracizing of an entire sub-community is going to encourage that community to create their own society with its own rules, mores, habits, and fashions. Heterosexuals shouldn't be surprised to learn there's a foreign society lurking in their midst. They encouraged it. So is it any surprise that this exiled nation has a bitter attitude? An uncommonly cynical nature? A rebelliousness? In some extreme cases, this comes out in anti-social ways, in others it's just irrational. The more the larger society disenfranchises the homosexual, the stranger the results become. First Class Citizen Twice Over

Oh! I thought I was making an oblique but relevant comment on the sociology of the original post. Thank you for your correction. I'm sure I'll grow with your guidance. Don't give up on me. I would have loved to have seen this before your edit! First Class Citizen Twice Over

Thank god gay marriage has been trounced. There's no telling what societal acceptance of monogamous gay relationships might have done to the general ethos in the community. First Class Citizen Twice Over

It's fascinating that a thread which began as a request for marital advice (at least on the surface) has degenerated into implied murder threats. Remind me to always flatter marines. Rhino, you're absolutely right. Whatever you said, it's right. Go Rhino! And my advice to the wife: Get out while you can. First Class Citizen Twice Over

My husband taught me an important thing: When you start talking about your relationship problems with others, it's already over. First Class Citizen Twice Over

Married and happy but a vote of the peepul has imposed an involuntary divorce on us. Ironic, isn't it? First Class Citizen Twice Over

Of course. But the interesting thing about professional help is it often doesn't help. First Class Citizen Twice Over

Oh, I give up. First Class Citizen Twice Over

Analogies have this fascinating quality of having both pertinent and irrelevant aspects. The irrelevancies make one vulnerable. When making an analogy, it's best to determine first that your audience is looking to understand what you meant rather than waiting to pounce. For instance, a friend can say, "Life is like a bowl of cherries" and you'll be interested to know "In what way are they the same?" But if an enemy says it, you'll think about ways they are DIFFERENT so you can call them on their error. "Life isn't anything like cherries! Cherries contain 14% sugar solution." Analogies about Hitler are particularly susceptible to this problem as you can easily see a useful similarity while your enemies nitpick a difference. First Class Citizen Twice Over

This speaks for itself. First Class Citizen Twice Over

Holy jeezus. This thread? I forgot all about this. I was feeling mighty passionate when this one came around the first time. Lessee.. just for old time's sake, here's last night's meal: My husband just bought me an All-Clad 6-qt sauce pan. If you don't know what that is, I couldn't explain it for you. But if you know, then you KNOW. It cost more than 10 jump tickets and will last forever, (unlike 10 jump tickets which will last a day.) To break the cherry on my new pan I made an okra, lentil, and pork stew. I carmelized good farm onions, shallots, and garlic with imported fines herbes (another present!), while simmering (low & slow) moroccan lentils, okra, pork rind, and chopped pork loin in my homemade herbed chicken stock. Finished the stew with brandy-soaked chopped fois gras, the brandy, olive oil, butter, good salt and great pepper. Then (just to be over the top) I roasted a new zealand rack of lamb at 500 degrees, deglazed the pan with pinot noir and more stock, reduced, and topped the lamb and stew. Served with baguette to pick up the last drops with. We served this to a friend we don't see very often. Special nights deserve special food. Of course I think EVERY night deserves special food. First Class Citizen Twice Over

Too much investment to find out what the hell the thread's about. First Class Citizen Twice Over

Gee. My Macintoshes have never been affected. Nor has my FreeBSD box. Nor any of the other Macs or Linux or FreeBSD machines in the office. Whenever I'm at a friend's house or office they beg me to clean up their windows boxes because I own a high tech company. It's like asking your friend the Mercedes mechanic to spend his free time keeping your decrepit Yugo running. You poor people. I really feel for you. First Class Citizen Twice Over

I write a check for $835.00 and another for $1496.00 for internet connections every month. First Class Citizen Twice Over

If you change your name when you get married and then the government invalidates the marriage, does the name automatically change back? First Class Citizen Twice Over

Designing for 8x6 doesn't mean you're designing for 8x6 monitors. It means you're designing for a reasonably sized window. Just because someone has a huge monitor doesn't mean they want their web browser window to fill it side to side. 8x6 is an excellent, readable width. Don't break it. 750px wide is standard for a good reason. Even on large monitors. For a good analogy, notice that even though newspapers are printed on large paper, the columns of text are narrow. Trust the designers. They know what they're doing. First Class Citizen Twice Over

Choosing to take refuge in the eye of a storm doesn't mean you're pro-storm. First Class Citizen Twice Over

The republicans have tasted blood and they LIKE it. First Class Citizen Twice Over