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The Scarlet Letter?[confused] I was a fornicator not an adulterer!! Even in the baptist church, I was taught that to have premarital sex is to cheat on your future husband/wife. No shit?? I never even heard that one in Catholic School. My favorite was "your dead relatives are watching you". Well I hope theyre getting a good show

You shameless hussy, you . . you . . . painted woman! Funny how that church is run by a bunch of people calling each other Mother and Father when they never will be. And they wonder how I became so secular. That is a very interesting way of thinking about it!

If you don't mind my asking, what type of counselor told you that? By any chance were you told that during church-based "premarital counseling"? Or was it from a professional counselor unconnected to any church or religious organization? Yes, Catholic based, I figured that was the case: "Pre-cana", which for the uninitiated, is a mandatory pre-marital counseling session, to permit a marriage to be sanctified by the Catholic church, conducted by ... a priest. You know, the clergyMAN who is not and never will be married, is presumably (probably? ostensibly?) a virgin, and has taken a vow of lifetime celibacy. My wife was raised Catholic, so for reasons mainly of family politics, she and I attended a pre-cana mediated by a priest. He was a nice guy and all; he did his best, and did have some interesting things to say, but when it came to expressing his opinion on marital relationships, he didn't have a freakin' clue because he simply was not qualified to know what the heck he was talking about. A big, fat waste of time. If they want people to know the official Catholic stance on marital issues (like: condoms will send you to hell), they can hand out a pamphlet. You know, you cant get married by a deacon too... who can be married.. One thing I really dont like is being told that Im making sex a chore and a loveless act by being on the pill... Come on folks, there is more than one reason to be on BC, if it happens to prevent babies too, so be it!

When we had to go through Pre Cana in 2000, I was so scared my priest would find out we moved into together before our wedding date. I was 32 years old at the time and my hands would shake when we would talk to the priest. I remember having "the story" worked out with my ex-husband that I was living with my Aunt Linda, who was the Matron of Honor, and even changed my address to her house with the Parish Office. I was so afraid I wouldn't be allowed to get married in my church if they found out we were "living in sin". LOL... The first night of Pre Cana we walked in and there was 2 couples with the women obviously very pregnant, like at least 6 months pregnant. I had no idea if you were already pregnant you could still get married in a wedding Mass. Shows how much I know... The Natural Family Planning speakers were a real hoot, too. Yep... We live together... We wont make it all the way to Pre Cana, but we did fill out the workbooks we were supposed to bring and all the paperwork (that included individual counseling with the priest)... Pre Cana isnt until the 16th though and do to some drama we're opting for a courthouse wedding before that

The Scarlet Letter?[confused] I was a fornicator not an adulterer!! Even in the baptist church, I was taught that to have premarital sex is to cheat on your future husband/wife.

If you don't mind my asking, what type of counselor told you that? By any chance were you told that during church-based "premarital counseling"? Or was it from a professional counselor unconnected to any church or religious organization? Yes, Catholic based, as someone guessed earlier in the thread. He is Catholic, but neither of us believe that... And to Bolas and theonlyski... Skype will be our friend doing those long deployments

Yeah ... totally . So its okay for a woman to cheat but its never okay for the man to cheat? I dont believe anyone said it was ok for a woman to cheat... Unless youre of the state of mind that masturbating is cheating (yes, we were actually told that during our premarital counseling...).

You mean you've never heard the one about why women smile so much in their wedding photos? Lucky told me in another thread... the options thread maybe?

If only that were true! No kidding, I was going to say, that was not the kind of marriage that I was in. You mean my fiance will stop putting out once we get married??? Shit. This isnt cool. Wedding cake, the #1 killer of sexual appetite... Are you calling me fat? If the size 20 fits . . . Now Shah won't hit on her... Thats a problem how? Shah is far too bald for my taste (shah you know we love you right? in that awkward cousin kind of way)

If you aren't already, that is... Well considering Ive seen my GYN about 27 times in the last three weeks, Im pretty sure I would know if Im preggers by now... Gimme two weeks and I'll let you know if we've got a baby Stalder on the way. Princess is letting you keep your name? Well... no... but itll be a stalder baby until we set a damn date. Jeez louise this wedding crap is absolutely ridiculous. HOW in the world to ladies plan a weddding for 1-3 years?!! I mean really, I would like to know.... Yall need to have a good old fashion Alabama wedding... Requires a couple dozen cases of PBR or Budweiser, a shotgun (which, I believe yall already have) and a drunk hillbilly named bubba to do the ceremony. Nah, all you need is Cap'n Cuervo (he's an ordained minister) a few friends and do it at the beach. NOW I find out Cuervo is a minister! Turtle did offer... I think he counts as an alabama bubba....

That should be entertaining... THAT is AWFUL. I dont stay in hotels unless I absolutely have to... I really get creeped out... Gonna reserve you a honeymoon sweet at a hotel that doesn't have a toilet lid. That is cruel.

If you aren't already, that is... Well considering Ive seen my GYN about 27 times in the last three weeks, Im pretty sure I would know if Im preggers by now... Gimme two weeks and I'll let you know if we've got a baby Stalder on the way. Princess is letting you keep your name? Well... no... but itll be a stalder baby until we set a damn date. Jeez louise this wedding crap is absolutely ridiculous. HOW in the world to ladies plan a weddding for 1-3 years?!! I mean really, I would like to know....

THAT is AWFUL. I dont stay in hotels unless I absolutely have to... I really get creeped out... There are even hotels where the rates are over $100 per night that aren't worth it. Tip: go to the newest one if you can help it. Yeah, even very expensive hotels freak me out...

THAT is AWFUL. I dont stay in hotels unless I absolutely have to... I really get creeped out...

Ok, so I dont like the part about never seeing the end of the jug, but thats a pretty neat idea. A quarter for every time you have sex

If you aren't already, that is... Well considering Ive seen my GYN about 27 times in the last three weeks, Im pretty sure I would know if Im preggers by now... Gimme two weeks and I'll let you know if we've got a baby Stalder on the way.

Ok, so I dont like the part about never seeing the end of the jug, but thats a pretty neat idea. A quarter for every time you have sex

Ok, so I dont like the part about never seeing the end of the jug, but thats a pretty neat idea. A quarter for every time you have sex

If only that were true! No kidding, I was going to say, that was not the kind of marriage that I was in. You mean my fiance will stop putting out once we get married??? Shit. This isnt cool. Wedding cake, the #1 killer of sexual appetite... Are you calling me fat? Yes... Asshole (

Ok, so I dont like the part about never seeing the end of the jug, but thats a pretty neat idea. A quarter for every time you have sex

sexually, sorry, I thought that was obvious. Hey, Ive never been married, so I really wouldnt know about any sort of shut off with regards to marriage. And without asking I wouldnt know

Nice, Cyndi If getting married makes me stop wanting to have sex, Im going to be pretty damn pissed. Im too young to not want sex. Im sorry to all of yall who experienced that....

What do you mean by "Shutting you off"?

If only that were true! No kidding, I was going to say, that was not the kind of marriage that I was in. You mean my fiance will stop putting out once we get married??? Shit. This isnt cool. Wedding cake, the #1 killer of sexual appetite... Are you calling me fat?

If only that were true! No kidding, I was going to say, that was not the kind of marriage that I was in. You mean my fiance will stop putting out once we get married??? Shit. This isnt cool.