RhondaLea

You have become at least one woman's hero, and I expect I'm not the only one. You're a good guy, dude. I wish there were more of you. rl If you don't know where you're going, you should know where you came from. Gullah Proverb

Aren't they all? My experience with the guys who will actually talk about it is that they all have different preferences. I've met guys who like a little teeth. I've talked to guys who like more suction, less suction, faster, slower, "suck my balls," "leave my balls alone." It's like...can you make up your collective freakin' mind, so we know what to do? "An art form" for one guy can be a "lousy blow job" for the next one. And it's the same thing when you reverse it. I love telling the story of the guy who informed me quite seriously that he knew what would please me because it was what all women want. I started looking for evidence of a subscription to Cosmo. If you're intimate enough to have sex with another person, you damn well ought to be intimate enough to talk about what you're doing to each other. rl If you don't know where you're going, you should know where you came from. Gullah Proverb

And we're obliged to post a picture because...? I've sent some out. Graphic ones. To people I trust. Just for the fun of it. But posting naked pictures here for anyone to look at? Not a chance. rl If you don't know where you're going, you should know where you came from. Gullah Proverb

If you generally do not post about sex, you won't have a problem. If you do, some people will take it to be an invitation. rl If you don't know where you're going, you should know where you came from. Gullah Proverb

I was talking to someone about that the other night. That's exactly what it does. It saves a lot of time, but sometimes the manner of weeding is unpleasant. Nice picture, btw. rl If you don't know where you're going, you should know where you came from. Gullah Proverb

My lip is zipped. If you don't know where you're going, you should know where you came from. Gullah Proverb

This is the best day ever! I think I may print this and frame it!

If people would just stick to polls that everyone can answer instead of skewing the polls so that the high volume answer fits a preconceived notion, we wouldn't have this problem. If you don't know where you're going, you should know where you came from. Gullah Proverb

Just for today, I love you, Chris Cowden. That was awesome. rl If you don't know where you're going, you should know where you came from. Gullah Proverb

It isn't likely that upon meeting a woman after posting such pictures, she will say to you: "So, how about you eat me?" Or call you on the phone, talk to you for an hour, and then, out of the blue say: "How about some phone sex?" Or just start putting her hands on you in a sexual way. Or any number of other things that have really happened to me, in the real world. That's what I mean by "not safe." rl If you don't know where you're going, you should know where you came from. Gullah Proverb

I don't think agree with this statement... It isn't ok for guys to be "slutty"... IMHO... even though in our society it is accepted Let me substitute the word that was actually implied by what came later in my post: "safe." It's safe for guys to post those pictures. It's not safe for women. rl If you don't know where you're going, you should know where you came from. Gullah Proverb

Wow!!! You mean you don’t really want to have group Anal Sex with every guy here?? I am so disillusioned. All my hopes and dreams Smashed in a single post. I really, really like you.

I would post the same kind of picture you did, but not anything more than that. It's just not safe with some of these attitudes running around. If you don't know where you're going, you should know where you came from. Gullah Proverb

Yeah, but it's okay for guys. It's not okay for girls, thus: A woman who gives off what a guy perceives to be a "slutty" vibe, and the next thing you know, he thinks he's entitled to get some. From her. Even if all she's ever done is answer his email. I've had this happen. It sucks. I had pretty much forgotten about it until that last very poorly constructed poll (which got me to thinking about a lot of things), but I have really had guys think they're entitled to a piece of me--in the real world--because of things I've written online. rl If you don't know where you're going, you should know where you came from. Gullah Proverb

Any guy who hasn't got it in him to give instruction and to talk about what he likes deserves a crummy blow job.

That is a relatively decent synopsis. Nope. Rebecca was there, not me. And maybe one or two others? You won't catch me dead in Texas. rl If you don't know where you're going, you should know where you came from. Gullah Proverb

I did ask the question, which is where the whole nose thing came from. But you keep defining abortion incorrectly. I tried not to be legalistic with you, but unless I just address each thing you postulate individually, I can't really argue, because you haven't made a coherent argument for anything. And this was just laughable. rl If you don't know where you're going, you should know where you came from. Gullah Proverb

Wow, something to be proud of and aspire to.What about the innocent people that did not do you wrong, did you take the same conviction to publicly apologize on here for that? Second that. rl If you don't know where you're going, you should know where you came from. Gullah Proverb

Just so I'm perfectly clear, her post sounded very young and naive to me in its tone, especially the last line. As I said before, I wanted some clarity about where she was coming from. I got it from a totally different source. Abortion, by definition, is more than the killing of an unborn baby. I've never terminated a pregnancy, but I've had several spontaneous abortions. Killing has one definition. Murder has another. Otherwise, you've turned all the soldiers who are in the service of this country (all countries) into murderers. And they're not. I have a lot of trouble with the concept expressed above, btw. Your example of the escaping slave is just one reason. I would call that murder, even if the strict definition of murder does not apply. So then it becomes a moral judgment...and that brings us right up against the argument here. A woman can relate to a father/son relationship by empathizing as one who has had a mother/son relationship or even a mother/daughter relationship. It is also possible to learn something of what such a relationship is about by listening and using empathy. Without having experienced it, it remains somewhat foreign. Dismissing it as irrelevant, however, is another matter entirely. The bond between a father and a son should simply be assumed to exist unless there is evidence to the contrary. But someone who has never been a mother (or a father) cannot really understand the wide range of emotion that comes with parenthood, or the sense of responsibility one feels for one very small life. Most people understand their own parents a lot better the moment their child is born. A non-parent cannot understand the compulsion that a mother would feel to put herself in harm's way for her child. It isn't merely an idea: "I would die for my child", it's a physical compulsion. I have known women who have had abortions because they believe they cannot provide a decent standard of care for a child at that time. Female rabbits actually reabsorb their embryos in such conditions, but human females aren't able to do it and must find mechanical means. To this you will say adoption, and to some extent I agree, in a case where you're not asking a woman to carry a defective baby, or a product of rape or especially incest. With that aside, I've known quite a few adopted children. Some have had very good lives. Others have not. And then there are the horror stories we read about in the newspapers. Would you want to be the mother who gave up her baby to Joel Steinberg and Hedda Nussbaum? rl Edited to add: I'm not advocating for abortion instead of adoption. I'm telling you that for some women, an abortion is as much a way of protecting their child as is running back into a burning building to rescue their child. It's a very personal decision. If you don't know where you're going, you should know where you came from. Gullah Proverb

The prohibition against people murdering people is very practical. It makes it reasonably safe for most of us to have business and social dealings. The government is not legislating morality, but is mandating an environment the vast majority has agreed will prevent society from breaking down completely. There are those, however, who feel they are exempt, which is why we have penalties for murder. There are also situations when killing (vs. murder) is looked upon as being the only practical and possible solution. War comes to mind. The government doesn't care about your hypothetical serial killer's moral stance on prostitution. And your hypothetical serial killer will still think he is morally correct when they strap him down on the gurney and give him the needle. We don't have prohibitions against "crimes against persons" for high and mighty moral reasons, although there are those who might think so. It's just the idea of "you don't do to me, I don't do to you" institutionalized. rl If you don't know where you're going, you should know where you came from. Gullah Proverb

There is a difference between killing and murder. I wanted to know how she differentiated between the two. Some people do define it differently. One of the first principles of good debate is defining one's terms. Part of what we're trying to establish here is if an unborn child has rights and when those rights begin, right? No nose to swing at without that. And when does a fetus develop a nose anyway? Based upon the content of her post, she sounded to me like someone who has never had to be responsible for a child. It is very easy to be blindly idealistic about what you have not experienced. As it turns out, however, she has taken quite a bit of responsibility--at a very young age--for some children, although they are not her own. To me, that fact makes me more inclined to hear what she has to say than someone who is just talking out their ass about things they know nothing about. A question is a question, at least where I live. Wanting to know where someone is coming from is not an argument, but the basis for constructing an argument. Once you know where someone is coming from--once you understand their argument--you can make a counter-argument, not before. rl Edited to add: Dude, what facts? I don't even understand what you just said here. If you don't know where you're going, you should know where you came from. Gullah Proverb

Happy Birthday, Jef. I hope you have a perfect day for this birthday. Tell your mom for me that I said thank you for giving me such a good friend. Many more. Hugs, rl If you don't know where you're going, you should know where you came from. Gullah Proverb

And only one was naked, and it was posted by a guy. I think if you look at the recent poll, it will answer your question nicely. I don't think anyone wants to be perceived as a piece of meat. rl If you don't know where you're going, you should know where you came from. Gullah Proverb

Well, Chris, I have an addendum for you: SC doesn't get me worked up, but a very poorly constructed poll in the Bonfire managed to get me wired yesterday. It's a hot topic for me anyway, but because it was skewed in the construction, it sent me into orbit, even to the point of making me a little incoherent in explaining exactly what it was that pissed me off. So I guess one just never knows when one's sense of calmness will be disrupted. rl If you don't know where you're going, you should know where you came from. Gullah Proverb

None. Ever. How many colds have you ever gotten? How many times have you had the flu? What other communicable illnesses have you had? Is an STD any different from any other disease? You do what you can to protect against it, but sometimes you catch something anyway. One of the first women ever to die of AIDS was a girl who picked it up from the very first guy she ever had sex with when she was 16 years old. It's not like there's some quantitative rule--sometimes you just have bad luck. Why do you have to defend your choice to remain celibate until marriage and why do you put others in the position of feeling defensive about their choice to not remain celibate? It's a very personal decision and not for anyone to sit in judgment on. But we've had a real run on that in the last 24 hours, so I guess it makes perfect sense. rl If you don't know where you're going, you should know where you came from. Gullah Proverb