RhondaLea

I'm a little late with this, but I'm guessing that you're still in high-stress mode, so I suppose it's still timely. Just keep telling yourself: This too will pass. It may feel like forever, but it won't be forever, and when all the stress is behind you, you'll still be here. Hang in. rl If you don't know where you're going, you should know where you came from. Gullah Proverb

We could buy a duplex together. That would almost be worth braving the snow and ice.

How quickly do you require them to respond? I have a load of unanswered PM/email/IM type stuff. Most of it is not intentional. If it is intentional, I've made that clear to the sender before I ever got that one last communication. Trust me, if you are unable to send me a PM, it does not mean I want to receive an email or phone call from you. Otherwise, it's just a) I'm overwhelmed or b) I'm depressed. I find it much easier to post than to PM. A PM (in most cases) requires me to put a fair amount of time and thought into a single individual. Often, it is those people I care about the most who have to wait the longest. And sometimes I respond to people I have no interest in just because I'm trying really hard not to be rude. Finally, it has happened that people I fully intended to reply to got buried under a slew of incoming messages, and I didn't even find them again until days later. OTOH, a round of PMs or emails has to come to an end sometime. If it's the 15th exchange on a single subject, do you really want a reply? rl If you don't know where you're going, you should know where you came from. Gullah Proverb

the problem being that it requires a majority to support your property rights, and HOA participation is low, so there is great inertia. Kinda sounds like a microcosm of the rest of the world to me. I guess my next question would be: why buy in a community where you don't like the rules? Which just brings us right back around one more time. I actually wouldn't mind living in a community of like-minded people--which, of course, presupposes that there are enough people who share my particular brand of crazy to make up an entire community. Not likely. rl If you don't know where you're going, you should know where you came from. Gullah Proverb

Which one? If you don't know where you're going, you should know where you came from. Gullah Proverb

I still don't see in either article where the plan was to restrict lot offerings to Catholics, but only to restrict sales of certain items, including cable TV. I don't see how that compares to the example given earlier about all-white country clubs, which do, in fact, restrict membership (is that still legal? I didn't think it was). So what I'm seeing is that a man is putting his money into creating a community where only like-minded individuals would want to live, and I still don't understand the problem. It's not what I would want, but I don't have to buy there. The whole HOA argument isn't one I get either. While it's true that builders draft the original set of bylaws, bylaws aren't deed restrictions, and when the community is released by the developer, the homeowners can agree to change those restrictions. Everyone has a vote. Deed restrictions are another matter, of course, but they're generally less specific than the bylaws of an HOA, dealing largely with fencing and the number of and kinds of animals permitted per household, for example. But you can find such things in the zoning laws everywhere anyway. The reason for such rules is that there's always a bozo somewhere who insists on infringing on his neighbor's right to quiet enjoyment. In an era when people refuse to exercise common courtesy in places where the living space is small, I'm not entirely certain there's a better solution. And in the end, the answer remains, if you don't like the restrictions, live elsewhere. I'm as much against discrimination as the next guy, but I don't think that's what this discussion is about. rl If you don't know where you're going, you should know where you came from. Gullah Proverb

I don't know if I should congratulate you or yell at you for not letting me know the time had come. I'll think of something else. Glad your back safe and sound--and even graduated, for all that you did an end run around me.

Okay. I don't get this. Any woman who does Kegel exercises should have almost complete control over the tightness (or looseness) of her vagina. My own opinion that doing (gentle) Kegels on an erect penis is a whole lot more fun than using a man-made device. rl If you don't know where you're going, you should know where you came from. Gullah Proverb

I didn't figure you were. I just figured you found my raw fish aversion...a little odd...which it is. You should explain to her that it is by protecting ourselves from germs that we make ourselves sick. "Everybody's gotta eat a peck of dirt before they die." If you don't build up a resistance to germs (by exposure), it weakens the immune system. Down with antibacterial everything. rl If you don't know where you're going, you should know where you came from. Gullah Proverb

Bridge Day '98. rl If you don't know where you're going, you should know where you came from. Gullah Proverb

http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/articles/A5490-2005Mar27.html From the article (which is far more thorough), the answer to your question: Wisconsin is one of at least 11 states considering "conscience clause" laws that would protect pharmacists such as Noesen. Four states already have laws that specifically allow pharmacists to refuse to fill prescriptions that violate their beliefs. At the same time, at least four states are considering laws that would explicitly require pharmacists to fill all prescriptions. The American Pharmacists Association recently reaffirmed its policy that pharmacists can refuse to fill prescriptions as long as they make sure customers can get their medications some other way. If you don't know where you're going, you should know where you came from. Gullah Proverb

I have a germaphobic friend that was really convinced in college, she had a tapeworm She won't eat sushi, either I am by no means germaphobic, but as I mentioned, I've had plenty of exposure to raw fish. (I also know that one day the raw clams and oysters could get me in a lot worse trouble.) I guess it's the difference between what you know is there, based on what you read, and what you've actually seen with your own two eyes. Speaking of germs, I was a really bad mom--I used to let Beck put rocks in her mouth (and other things, although I drew the line at cigarette butts). I'm also the sort of person who can pull maggots out of a raccoon with one hand and eat gummy worms with the other. I never said that I'm not a little weird. rl If you don't know where you're going, you should know where you came from. Gullah Proverb

Well, yours surely isn't working for me. rl If you don't know where you're going, you should know where you came from. Gullah Proverb

Man, hasn't anyone noticed how much worse name brand (Domino's, Pizza Hut, etc.) is than your average corner pizza place? You shouldn't need a political reason to avoid them. That was my first thought. I looked at a Domino's pizza once, and I felt sick. The last time I ate Pizza Hut was probably 20 years ago, and it was only one time. rl If you don't know where you're going, you should know where you came from. Gullah Proverb

There's a precedent: http://www.oldandsold.com/articles24/america-49.shtml The former is usually filled by the overflow from the latter, who object to the Ocean Grove restrictions. Ocean Grove is unique, and was established in 1870 by a Camp Meeting Association of the Methodist Episcopal Church. Here many thousands, both young and old, voluntarily spend their summer vacations under a religious autocracy and obey the strict rules. It is bounded by the sea, by lakes on the north and south, and by a high fence on the land side, and the gates are closed at ten o'clock at night, and all day Sunday. The drinking of alcoholic beverages and sale of tobacco are strictly prohibited, and no theatrical performances of any kind are allowed. No bathing, riding or driving are permitted on Sunday, and at other times the character of the bathing-dresses is carefully regulated. There is a large Auditorium, accommodating ten thousand people, and here are held innumerable religious meetings of all kinds. The annual Camp Meeting is the great event of the season, and among the attractions is an extensive and most complete model of the City of Jerusalem. If you don't know where you're going, you should know where you came from. Gullah Proverb

I didn't see in the article that there is any intention to violate the above provision. I don't know how comfortable a non-Catholic would be living there, but unless they refuse to sell to non-Catholics, the issue, if any, will lie in the commercial lease restrictions. And that will surely be interesting. (And I still don't see anything wrong with it.) rl If you don't know where you're going, you should know where you came from. Gullah Proverb

I think the ACLU needs to get a grip. Isn't this almost exactly what the Pilgrims did? rl If you don't know where you're going, you should know where you came from. Gullah Proverb

To be dishonest is to manipulate the truth. Therefore it can be said that being dishonest is being manipulative. That being said some questions there is just no correct answer. There was a context for my statement, as follows: It depends. Is it something the other person really needs to know? Honesty for the sake of honesty alone is often manipulative. Some people can't wait to be "honest." They lie in wait for innocent people with whom to be "honest," usually to obtain a particular result. rl If you don't know where you're going, you should know where you came from. Gullah Proverb

You mean that all those naughty PMs I send are going to end up public? rl If you don't know where you're going, you should know where you came from. Gullah Proverb

are you sure you woudn't rather be both? Well, if the choice were being dishonest and manipulative or being a crackhead, I guess I'd go for the former. rl If you don't know where you're going, you should know where you came from. Gullah Proverb

Yes, Jef. We know. The question, however, is not what, but whom? rl If you don't know where you're going, you should know where you came from. Gullah Proverb

It depends. Is it something the other person really needs to know? Honesty for the sake of honesty alone is often manipulative. I'd rather be dishonest than manipulative. rl If you don't know where you're going, you should know where you came from. Gullah Proverb

Y'know... I noticed some of the differences between my daughter's life and my life, but I didn't realize how different it was until I read this. That was my childhood. I wouldn't be a kid today (or even 20 years ago) for anything. rl If you don't know where you're going, you should know where you came from. Gullah Proverb

Post something controversial. You'll get plenty. rl If you don't know where you're going, you should know where you came from. Gullah Proverb

Or never. That's because people get buried. I've got about 1500 incoming PMs in my Inbox, and that doesn't even include those PMs I've sorted into individual folders. Sometimes it feels like it's snowing friggin' PMs--from some people. I'm slowly going back through and getting caught up, but I also know what you're talking about, and I thought I'd answered it. Guess not. rl If you don't know where you're going, you should know where you came from. Gullah Proverb