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This is a fantastic idea - you should put this over in the WF under the household hints thread! I bet there are a lot of single moms who need to know they have a wasp gas chamber available to them!! "...I've learned that while the "needs" in life are important (food, water, shelter), it's the "wants" in life (ice cream, chocolate, sex) that make it worth the effort." Kbordson

That 3rd photo is like a postcard or poster shot...really great! "...I've learned that while the "needs" in life are important (food, water, shelter), it's the "wants" in life (ice cream, chocolate, sex) that make it worth the effort." Kbordson

Good move - hang in there!!

Glad you'r O.k. too - just curious, was this your 1st cut? I always wonder how I'm going to react when I have my 1st. You seemed to have a pretty calm response. "...I've learned that while the "needs" in life are important (food, water, shelter), it's the "wants" in life (ice cream, chocolate, sex) that make it worth the effort." Kbordson

Loved Whoopi and the Bum! "...I've learned that while the "needs" in life are important (food, water, shelter), it's the "wants" in life (ice cream, chocolate, sex) that make it worth the effort." Kbordson

To Bob and Shannon's family: I did not know her but reading through the posts, I've come across so many lovely sentiments about her. One poster who knew Shannon but never got to jump with her said: "I will feel you as the wind on my face on my next jump, and it will be our first jump together" and: I'll use an adjective someone else used "enchanting"; what a truly enchanting person she was to have inspired such an outpouring of emotions from so many, and she will forever be in the hearts and minds of the people who cared for her. Bob, the interview you did on the newscast was so lovely and honoring to her. My most profound condolences to Bob, her family, and friends. My prayers are with you as you deal with this tremendous loss. "...I've learned that while the "needs" in life are important (food, water, shelter), it's the "wants" in life (ice cream, chocolate, sex) that make it worth the effort." Kbordson

Yah, it's what you think it is...it's really the best for the mixin' of things - if you get the top-of-the-line one it comes w/dough hooks and a couple of different attachments (like pasta maker) and a heavy-duty motor. "...I've learned that while the "needs" in life are important (food, water, shelter), it's the "wants" in life (ice cream, chocolate, sex) that make it worth the effort." Kbordson

My condolences and prayers to Dave and his family for their loss. "...I've learned that while the "needs" in life are important (food, water, shelter), it's the "wants" in life (ice cream, chocolate, sex) that make it worth the effort." Kbordson

My condolences and prayers to his family and friends "...I've learned that while the "needs" in life are important (food, water, shelter), it's the "wants" in life (ice cream, chocolate, sex) that make it worth the effort." Kbordson

I have to agree whole-heartedly...I have, for the sake of my cooking-like-Martha Stewart fantasies bought a KitchenAid mixer, a good set of pans, a rotissery...but do I use them??. No, not really. The food I make never tastes as good as what other people make for me! "...I've learned that while the "needs" in life are important (food, water, shelter), it's the "wants" in life (ice cream, chocolate, sex) that make it worth the effort." Kbordson

Oh, bad boy...you weren't packin'! You need to sit down and let Jennr8r have the "talk" with you - she knows all about condoms!! It's not Anna Nicole, is it??? "...I've learned that while the "needs" in life are important (food, water, shelter), it's the "wants" in life (ice cream, chocolate, sex) that make it worth the effort." Kbordson

My God...don't you just want to grab those sweet cheeks???!!! It made my day too...babies usually do!

Have you guys seen "The Little Zoo that Could" on the Animal Planet? It's amazing to see those episodes and what they went through trying to haul all those exotic animals out of the way of 3 hurricanes, and then try to rebuild the place. Unfortunately, the zoo seems to be fairing better than 3/4 of the people (people affected by the hurricanes) they still have no homes, but the animals do. "...I've learned that while the "needs" in life are important (food, water, shelter), it's the "wants" in life (ice cream, chocolate, sex) that make it worth the effort." Kbordson

What a sweetey-pie! It looks like she has red hair and green eyes??? "...I've learned that while the "needs" in life are important (food, water, shelter), it's the "wants" in life (ice cream, chocolate, sex) that make it worth the effort." Kbordson

2-ply gets my vote. The only thing the 1 was ever good for was when you T.P.'d someones house in high school. Edited to add: I guess I've always been lucky when stuck in a stall...it's always been like the Seinefeld episode where I could find a "spare square". It never occured to me that someone would have to go for their sock or underwear! "...I've learned that while the "needs" in life are important (food, water, shelter), it's the "wants" in life (ice cream, chocolate, sex) that make it worth the effort." Kbordson

OMG....that was so LOL funny!! You're right - we need more cowbell! Thanx...I really needed a great belly laugh today!

ahhh...great news! We're all happy to hear it!!

Well...it's 7:02am where I live and it looks like it's going to be a gorgeous day where I'm at. I hope the it's the same for you and that everyone was able to get some sleep last night. And most especially that little Dilla is MUCH better today. Prayers were said...

I second, uh, third that emotion.!

Well, I am surprised by your friend's anger at you because I thought since he was aware of her drug use and seemed to have taken a tough stand (he was insisting she work to pay her fines), and that he had made a moral judgment about her drug use and was prepared to back it up. His anger toward you says it's one of three things: 1) He doesn't really believe she has a problem - he hasn't seen the light. 2) He knows she has a problem (I believe he does or else why would he come to you and ask why she came back shaking - he knows something is up), but doesn't want to deal w/it for some reason - maybe he's almost worn out w/her and knows dealing w/this will signal the end of their relationship, and he doesn't want to face that, so at the moment it's easier to project his anger and frustration on you. 3) He knows she has a legal problem but doesn't care about the moral issue - maybe he doesn't believe taking drugs is wrong; maybe he doesn't care if she takes them as long as it doesn't cause him any problems; maybe he's addicted to his own drugs of choice (even if prescribed), and doesn't want to draw attention to himself by having to deal w/her. It's a shame, no matter which of the 3 it is is, that he is choosing to dump on you rather than face up to the situation. You did the right thing, it wasn't easy - but you knew it wouldn't be. The only comfort you may be able to take out of this situation is that as their problems continue to escalate, which they are most likely to do, that you will be able to put your head on your pillow every night knowing you threw up a red flag. Oh, and P.S. - NONE of this is your fault for God's sake. Keep reminding yourself of that. You're a good friend with cancer trying to step outside your problems to help them. Addicts are outrageous in their self-absorption. "...I've learned that while the "needs" in life are important (food, water, shelter), it's the "wants" in life (ice cream, chocolate, sex) that make it worth the effort." Kbordson

I'm sorry you got that initial response to your post...there a lot of people grieving on the forums today, and emotions are running high, understandably. Having had 2 family members (dad and brother) surrender the majority of their adult life to an addiction, and another brother who lived the last 10-15yrs. fairly impared, I can tell you the bottom line that you have to understand about addicts: 1. Their utmost concern is feeding their addiction. 3. You cannot fix this. Trying to fix it evidence: -you hired her to "help" pay fines. -you left her alone w/drugs to "build trust" -you don't want to "tell" her husband. -you don't want to "report" her. These are all actions that you are taking. I'm not trying to slam you for it, only trying to point out how you may be complicet in enabling her, and I know you don't really want to do that. You are very invested in trying to help a friend, and this is very honorable, but take the advice from someone who's lived in this war zone my whole life: she has to feel the impact, the full impact of her actions. If there is one tool that I've seen have any success in stopping this freefall (absolutely no pun), it is letting the addict feel the brunt of their actions, early and hard. Just make sure that whatever help and support you offer is not trying to run interferance - it will not help, it only prolongs the agony. There is no easy way, only the best way. IMO, you have to: 1) Confront her. If you didn't take the drugs, she did. You also have to realize that since you are sick, asking for replacement drugs from your doctor could be viewed as you having a problem coping, and could put you on "watch" by your doctor. Saying "my friend took them" is a very common phrase we hear in the medical field by those addicted to prescription drugs seeking to get more. 2) Tell her husband: you care about him so you have to let him know this event happend. Otherwise you leave him to waste time thinking things are O.K. He has to know where he stands so he can make a judgement of what to do next: either continue to help her or save himself - he can't go down with her (**Remember there is no easy way here** ). He may decide he can't take anymore, but that may be just the wake-up call she needs: it's better that she be divorced and alive; better she be in prison for a few years than dead. I hope it won't get as far as divorce and/or prison time. But the only way to stop this run-away-train is to try to hit the brakes with confrontation and the effects of consequences. With any luck, being in her face will stop this. She'll get angry at first, but in time, when clean and sober, she'll thank you. If not, then that means she still hasn't decided to take responsibility for her actions, and that is ultimately where the responsibility lies - with her. You are a good friend...we should all be so lucky as to have one like you. Good luck and prayers for you and all the situations you face now. (sorry this is so long but I felt it necessary) P.S. When I refered to her feeling the full consequences in a"hard" way, I don't mean to imply that this should be done in a ruthless way - you know, screaming and name-calling. To use a phrase that comes from my sunday school days, "speak the truth in love". I don't see you as an unsympathetic person, and I didn't want you to think that I was one either - it's a hard world we live in and we need each other. "...I've learned that while the "needs" in life are important (food, water, shelter), it's the "wants" in life (ice cream, chocolate, sex) that make it worth the effort." Kbordson

I'm new to the forums and did not know Shannon, but clearly by the expressions of grief she was cherished by many...most especially you. You, and everyone who knew her, have my deepest sympathies in this tragic loss - your in my prayers. "...I've learned that while the "needs" in life are important (food, water, shelter), it's the "wants" in life (ice cream, chocolate, sex) that make it worth the effort." Kbordson

Great video - hope you win! "...I've learned that while the "needs" in life are important (food, water, shelter), it's the "wants" in life (ice cream, chocolate, sex) that make it worth the effort." Kbordson

I did not know Tamsin...but I would have like to. After looking at all her pictures and seeing her sweet face smiling back, and reading all her friends expressions of joy for her easy laugh and kind heart, I wish I could have counted her among friends. For her friends, and especially her family..you have my deepest sympathies. "...I've learned that while the "needs" in life are important (food, water, shelter), it's the "wants" in life (ice cream, chocolate, sex) that make it worth the effort." Kbordson

... like lamb's to the slaugher, eh? You men can't live without us, admit it, no matter how much you gripe! "...I've learned that while the "needs" in life are important (food, water, shelter), it's the "wants" in life (ice cream, chocolate, sex) that make it worth the effort." Kbordson