Nataly

"There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

Mate, some of what you say comes dangerously close to PA's.. You don't have to say "Nat is stupid", but saying "airing out personal shit is stupid" when you're clearly talking about the personal stuff I'm airing out.. Well, it's a not-so-subtle way of saying "Nat is stupid", isn't it?! Doesn't take a genius to figure that out.. "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

That is of course always a possibility, but he doesn't think that is the case, and from what he has said about her, it seems unlikely to me as well. I dunno.. If I had gotten pregnant by my ex (accidentally or otherwise), I seriously don't know whether I would keep it or not. Impossible to know for sure unless you're actually in that situation, I think. "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

You went into detail about very personal stuff about this guy. If I was a betting man me thinks he wouldnt like that stuff talked about on this website or any website. That's your opinion. "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

Oh god.. That's terrible.. Some people shouldn't ever get a licence.. "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

Well, you're of course welcome to your opinion. I've aired out my "personal crap" on here before and found I got some very good food for thought. (Also got some crap mixed in there as well!!) As for being rude, selfish, insensitive and downright wrong.. Well, I personally feel that if the person in question ever read my posts and found them offensive/upsetting, then yes, in that case I agree it would be everything you say. I don't think I've said anything that would have that effect, however. "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

That's fucking weird.. Mind you, it's all good as long as it turns you on "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

I have always resented the pressure, hassle and expense that is attached to New Year's.. To me it's just another day.. Everyone *else* can spend all their money on ridiculous cover-charges and over-priced drinks - I'm just going to quietly indulge in a beer or two whilst watching a DVD in the comfort of my own home..

Yeah.. It started in Oct, really.. Spent practically every weekend together since then, and more recently we've see each other 4-5 days per week. He has a few emergency shirts/underwear at my place and even has a toothbrush here.. I feel like we're only *just* starting to know each other and now he's moving & there's the whole baby thing.. *sigh*.. But you're right about the emotional crutch thing.. I certainly don't want that to happen... Good point. Maybe I should just get a dog. A dog might pee on the carpet and chew up my stuff but it will never break my heart!! "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

He's into similar "adventurous" sports... It's cool because I "get" his love-affair with water (surfing/scuba-diving) and he "gets" my passion for the sky.. He's been a biker all his life and I started the process of getting my full motorcycle licence literally days before we met - it's been a dream of mine for years. We're quite like-minded, except that he has really *lived* his life, whereas I've spent years being WAY too sensible and am only now starting to do the things I've put off all this time.. I respect that he's had the gumption to go for it whereas I've held back too many times.. "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

Ok... Some interesting points - thank you. (And I also agree with the next post - it's only "drama" if I call it "drama".. It's just that it's a lot to take in..) I know that until he split up with his ex, he was flying out to see her every weekend, so he's more than prepared to do at least half of the travelling. As for how he feels about me.. Well, he's the one who is really insisting that we should keep seeing each other. Bear in mind this is the same guy who rode my motorcycle 4.5 hours to get it back to London for me on one of the coldest days of the year with only summer gloves on his hands because he really wanted me to get my dream motorcycle.. I'm just a bit torn. You're right to point out the timing of the pregnancy.. We met just a few weeks after he split with his ex - they were together for 2 years. At first I approached the relationship with caution because I worried on some level he was on the rebound.. But I have to say, I really admired the way he spoke about his ex. He was very complimentary about her, but said that for the last 6 or 8 months he realised that there were long-term problems and eventually he had to admit that it wasn't working out. I loved that he didn't have anything mean or bad to say about *her* - just characteristics about them together that weren't compatible. Now we find out about the pregnancy thing and.. Well, I guess I feel a bit insecure about it. He's going to be linked to this other woman forever. A child is not a small thing.. It's not something that goes away or can/should be forgotten about. It's a big deal. There you go.. One long rant deserves another!! "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

Is he this guy? Small world. http://www.dropzone.com/cgi-bin/forum/gforum.cgi?post=3760631;sb=post_latest_reply;so=ASC;forum_view=forum_view_collapsed;;page=unread#unread Ah ha ha.. Nope.. It's what prompted me to post, though. This will be his first kid. He's pretty traumatised about the whole situation. He's older than me and wants kids, but he broke up with his ex (before he knew she was pregnant) because he didn't see a future with her. So it's upsetting him that this child is going to be born in a less than ideal environment.. He wants to do the right thing, but doesn't know what that is. It's really eating away at him.. "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

Nope .. at least wait for the Break Off alarm and you set that at a place where you are comfortable. It's not only good to talk but vitally important. All the best Nataly Thanks mate.. As always, great advice

He does and will. He's got that part right. I just think its REALLY weird that his ex told him he didn't have to be involved if he didn't want to considering the fact that he is very involved in his daughter's life. +1. I find it absolutely terrible. Of course I don't know the whole situation, but how could you be a real father to only one of your children? Especially if they're both from the same mother? Doesn't sound like a very good situation.. "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

Yeah.. I mean, the way he is handling the ex and the mom is very respectable. I also appreciate his willingness to be flexible on the whole travel thing with regards his new job. He's a really decent guy and crucially he has been 100% upfront with me about everything, which I really appreciate. Obviously, the fact that his mom is sick isn't anything I hold against him. Nor is the fact that the ex is preggers or even the fact that he's moving to a different country.. It's just that with all of this going on I kind of feel like "the other woman".. Plus he's pretty impulsive and I'm not - I over-think WAY too much. It might be a great mix, but not necessarily.. Dunno.. Edit to add: he is the father. "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

I've been debating about posting this, but hey.. Maybe someone else will see some humour to it.. So I've been seeing this guy. I've mentioned him before.. It's the motorcycle guy (who took me on the most awesomest first date *ever*).. We started seeing each-other in September. Then it kind of fell apart & I went on a couple of dates with other people. Then we got together, talked things through and ever since then we've basically been inseparable.. Here's where the drama sets in... He has his own business and his current contract ended just last week. He was offered a role in Amsterdam and he took it. He really wants us to keep seeing each other.. In theory, Amsterdam is only a cheap flight away - in practice, well, the long-distance thing doesn't really appeal... But that's not even the worst thing.. He found out last month that his ex is pregnant. In fact, she's due in March.. And lastly, his poor mother is dying of cancer so he's been spending a lot of time with her lately. On the one hand, he's intelligent, kind, fun and we really, really click. On the other hand, his life at the moment is one big mess and I have no way of knowing if it's just bad luck or if it's a pattern repeating itself.. *sigh*.. Not sure what to do on this one.. "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

I put "more than one year".. That being said, I watched TONS of porn and took care of business myself on a regular basis.. I don't think it's healthy to go completely without for more than 24 hours! "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

That was painful to watch!! "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

Ha ha ha!! Thanks mate! Everybody loves a nice pair of boobies - I'm gonna have to eat more cheese to get them back.. Ahh.. The things we have to do to make you men happy.. "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

All I got for Christmas is what I bought for myself.. But I have to say, given I bought myself a Kawasaki Ninja, it's pretty much the best Xmas *ever*!!! Oh, and I got the most awesomest card from LisaH - LISA YOU ROCK!!

I felt that way about 2008.. Everything about it sucked - I felt like my world completely fell apart.. But I put it all behind me and 2009 was SOOO much better, and 2010 looks even more full of potential.. 2010 will *definitely* be your year

So around the xmas holidays, I can't help but look back on the past year & reminisce about all the good and the bad things that have happened.. First of all, it seems like only yesterday I was in Canada celebrating Christmas 2008!! But I digress.. High/lowlights for the year for me include: BEST -Embracing living in London after 4+ years & exploring this city for the first time. -Spending less time at work & more time with friends. -The new job (with nicer people). -Getting back into shape (physically and mentally). -Passing my motorcycle theory & driving tests. -BUYING MY MOTORCYCLE!!!

Ah ha ha!! Good one!! Tell him to look it up on ebay! "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

Jesus.. That sucks. It sucks even more that it's the second accidental pregnancy with the same woman.. Hmm.. On the one hand, I feel for your friend.. On the other, I think a simple condom could have prevented the whole bad situation.. Still.. I think most of us are guilty of poor judgement now and again, so getting on a high horse is probably a little bit hypocritical!!! "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

Never tried anything but alcohol and a cigarette, both of which I'm not a big fan of.. I don't mind at all if others do it, as long as it doesn't cause them or those around them any suffering/heartache. I'm pretty anti-drugs to begin with.. It's not a moral objection - I just personally feel that some things don't belong in my system. I feel the same way about processed or artificial foods. I think drugs numb or enhance feelings/symptoms that are there for a reason & I prefer to deal with those feelings rather than escape them. I don't even take aspirin when I have a headache! I would take drugs if it made sense - like to fight cancer or alleviate unbearable pain. I would also try it recreationally if I was really, really curious about it's effects but so far I've never felt that impulse. Basically, I think there isn't much point. But then, I wouldn't really know!! "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss