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You're right. Appropriate PMs have been sent. Jen Arianna Frances

Well... all I can say is that not everyone is as perfect as your parents and that every kid is not as perfect as you Jen Arianna Frances

Its seems that way sometimes huh? I think we need more guys like that though Jen Arianna Frances

True, but if he had kept them at the schools they were at rather than moving them for a very marginal amount of money then the other variables of meeting new people and starting in a new area of the country wouldn't have been there - thus increasing the chance that the influence of mom and dad (and close familiy for that matter) would have had a great impact. Jen Arianna Frances

Sorry about that Kev - really. I didn't mean that post to go specifically to you. Its an attitude that I strongly disagree with, and it was wrong of me to express it in those terms. Jen Arianna Frances

I'll disagree. I see a 'priority shift' with the last few generations. It used to be people concentrating on what was good for the family rather than what was good for them. My uncle for instance wanted a better job so he took my then 13 and 15 year old cousins and moved them across the country to San Fransisco. My then 15 year old cousin dropped out of highschool and is now in prison - the then 13 year old lives at home and smokes pot all day... All the while my uncle and aunt work 50+ hours a week at their jobs. I find this stuff fascinating... I should have majored in sociology or something Jen Arianna Frances

It takes effort on both halves. If you do your research you will find someone who is willing to put forth the same effort as you - thats the key. Working together. Marriage is a team sport. Jen Arianna Frances

Yes, because they had not only my brother and I but also 20 years of marriage built up together before that. Its called work, but its worth it for them. The reason I say I can't be sure is becuase I can't even be sure I'm going to wake up in the morning. I can't even say that I won't get hit by a car on my way home today.... Ya.... I noticed Jen Arianna Frances

Exactly! I have fun with my husband every day. How refreshing it is to know that I'll be able to have someone who loves me to come home to. And the sex is great! Having had sex with the same person for 5+ years is fantastic - he learns what I like and I him, and we never have boring sex and can communicate more openly than a newer relationship. We have lots of fun. As far as your question about dating guys other than my husband - your question was about me dumping someone. That relationship was the only one I had dumped... all the others dumped me. The important fact you're missing is that I found someone I want to spend the rest of my life with - someone I always want to put before me. Thats how marriage works - and society seems to be missing that. Jen Arianna Frances

well... then people are marrying very selfish superficial people also. People doens't change THAT much in 20 years. And even if you do then you should have had enough foresight to marry someone who loves you completely, for they will love you for all your changes. And I know this becuase i see it everyday in my parents and the people I work with. Jen Arianna Frances

IMO, this is skewed. Nothing is going to rosy and wonderful 100% of the time. Ask anyone who's been married more than 20 years. My parents had 7 years of pure hell (I know I was there). Yet they're still together and over the weekend they were holding hands and cuddling like newlyweds. What a refreshing change from your type of attitude! THis attitude is very prevelant in skydiving actually. Kelly you were there one of the times - but I've had 3 different skydivers tell me that I'm going to get a divorce because my husband doesn't skydive. Why is that? For most people, they become very selfish and stop looking at the relationships "big picture" and let their little world take over. Thus a divorce happens shortly after. I can't say for sure it won't happen to me (divorce that is). But I can make for DANM sure it won't be because of skydiving. Jen Arianna Frances

Sorry, Kev - this was direct solely at you, as this is something I've heard from MANY people. Ok, its selfish. Very selfish. You're kidding right? I hope you are. The benefits are too much to mention, and the pitfalls are very few, if you have that open honesty, communication and compromise that is necessary. I see you've never been in a relationship that means anything. There will come a time in your life when you will realize working your job has NO loyalty to you, yet a relationship does. Yes. I found out he was engaged. Afraid of being alone? Yes! I'm afraid of being alone at 60 - when all my friends have their family obligations and I'm home alone. But it is not the only reason I'm married. The experiences you get in a relationship outweight the negatives if you are willing to give it a shot. That means putting someone other than yourself first, in many cases. Jen Arianna Frances

Where does this belief stem from?!! It truely pisses me off to read this! I have members of my family who have been married 50+ years - why is that? Was marriage easier 50 years ago? My parents have been married for 29 years - was it easier for them than the relationship my husband and I are starting? NO! Pure and simple. IF YOU WANT SOMETHING TO WORK - YOU HAVE TO WORK FOR IT! Just like anything else, it takes work, compromise and honesty. Fuck those petty excuses like "we're not supposed to be together for 80 years". Why the hell not? You've spent 20 years with someone... why not spend the next 20, 30, 40 forever with them? Something attracted you to them in the first place! This is such a selfish attitude! Its that same attitude that breeds kids going to school with guns - parents are too wrapped up in their own little world, be that work, relationships or whatever to see that they have a child that needs help. Same thing with a relationship - stop being lazy and selfish. Jen Arianna Frances

Don't leave the girls off the hook... imo, a girl who cheats is an asshole too Jen Arianna Frances

10 of 11 - I thought the consititution was 1776 also. Jen Arianna Frances

Just 1 3 credit math course - cause I'm going back to school full time in the fall

ewww - is it supposed to be an edible one? Jen Arianna Frances

I happen to like Switchfoots "Dare you to move" Jen Arianna Frances

Looks like you had fun Well.... it was fun for those that watched the two of you Jen Arianna Frances

woah... that is seriously cool Great job HH Jen Arianna Frances

So thats why huh? Danm you! Jen Arianna Frances

good to know I'm not alone! Now... its bright and sunny outside. How wierd! Jen Arianna Frances

wow - the thunder and lightning seems to be right over the building... loudest ones in recent memory this stuff is so cool!! Jen... ya, I know, I'm wierd Arianna Frances

I've only been in one hale storm in my life.... today marks my second.... HUGE hale - very cool! Just waiting for the windows to break and we can go home Anybody else have rotten weather? Jen Arianna Frances

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