Nataly

That's living on the edge DUDE... I hear man-flu is about 100000 times worse than the common cold.. Do you have some kind of death-wish?? I'm with mrwrong - you are crazy!!! "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

30 DAYS! Well it depends on how hot and willing your friends are. I mean sure you are nice and all and cool with having a bike Nat but.....30 days! You know men do have needs! Needs that need to be needed to! Do you guys remember the Seinfeld episode when Elane and George gave up on sex. She got dumb and he became super smart!

30 days?? Holy mother of god.. Is that considered "waiting" these days?? I mean.. I've known the guy somewhat for a couple of years, but I don't know him *that* well.. So 30 days to me seems like a pretty quick hop in the sack! I mean, fuck.. I've had 1 or 2 flings in my life but that was ill-considered and on vacation - which everyone knows doesn't count!!! Yeah.. Like I said.. I'm taking things s-l-o-w. "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

Hmm.. I think maybe that didn't come out right.. What I meant was that I would really like a very good friend/companion.. I would like something to develop out of a caring friendship.. It's not that I don't want to be romanced.. I just don't want a rebound relationship.. You know the kind.. Where you're so used to being in a long-term relationship that you try and find that kind of feeling too fast with someone new. So maybe I'm kind of not really ready yet.. That being said.. A friend of mine surprised me over the weekend with a confession of having feelings for me

I think it's a bit odd, but then I'm not really into the whole Facebook thing. On a separate note.. The *weirdest* thing happened over the weekend.. I agreed to a coffee date (not someone from match.com) for Sunday, only to meet up with a mate on Saturday night, who confessed he had had a crush on me for a while but he thought I was already in a relationship! I felt a bit awkward about breaking the coffee date on Sunday, but since my friend told me about his feelings for me I thought it would be slightly wrong to give him a chance *and* go on a date with someone else the next day!!! How random!! Isn't it always the way.. It's like job-hunting.. Just when you're ready to give up, you get two really good job offers & you're not quite sure what to do!! Oh dear.. "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

That would be sweet, wouldn't it? Mwaa ha haaa!!! You bunch of numpties!! Love the fishing analogies BTW! "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

You?? Intense?? I find that *shocking*! "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

Some fair points here.. But I have to say.. Not all "homebodies" at socially inept - I'm not. I just to *enjoy* crowds.. I prefer smaller groups. I'm a very independent person - I don't rely on other people to do the stuff I want to do.. I just go and do it. But I'm finding that more and more I have long days at work and I'm drained and tired when I get home.. A lot of the social things I used to do just don't appeal anymore.. Also, I used to always be in male-rich environments but the tables have turned and I now spend all my time with women.. So no.. Obviously I don't expect my ideal match to fall out of the sky. But my ideal guy also isn't a social freak who spends all his time clubbing and partying.. So yes - I do think there is a (small) possibility that my match *might* just have the same idea as me and try this online dating thing.. I totally get that I'm not going to meet anyone from my own living room, but honestly, in my view, I *am* putting myself out there. Shit.. Don't forget that I'm only starting out here - I've NEVER dated in my life.. I've never needed to.. I used to do tons of activities that were in male-rich environments, but more and more I'm hanging out with girls, so it's not so easy anymore. I mean, christ.. I'm still a little bit recovering from a severely broken heart, so I think on balance the fact that I'm even thinking about dating is a small step in the right direction. "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

Ah Shah.. All your advice involves me doing stuff I *dislike*.. What are the odds of meeting my equal whilst doing something that simply isn't my style??! I'm sorry, but it's not that I'm being lazy - I'm just not prepared to behave in a way that's totally opposite to who I am.. That's NOT the way to meet the right person.. Anyway.. It's not like I'm desperately seeking a companion - it would just be really nice. The whole point of this thread is that I'm trying online dating and it's proving to be quite entertaining (and not really in any good way).. So I thought I'd share my experience.. Shoot the shit.. Have a bit of a laugh/whinge about it, etc.. No offence, but *this* isn't exactly the best place for dating advice!! Edit to say: In fairness, there *has* been one or two good ideas on here, so bonus!! "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

It all contributes to creating stronger, more resilient strains of diseases.. I studied some of this stuff at uni - scary, but *fascinating*. Trouble is that there is no "proof" in science.. Only "evidence" and "strong correlation". Can you show me some evidence from a peer reviewed journal linking vaccines and the evolution of superbugs? Of course I can't show you some peer reviewed journals - one, you're quite far away.. Two, I haven't kept any of my university stuff.. But I did study the spread of diseases and vaccines did figure in there. Whether it was published in a peer-reviewed journal.. Who knows?! Not all good theories are published in peer-reviewed journals!! At some point all the cleverest scientists believed the earth was flat - doesn't mean it ever was! I'm sure if you bothered to look you either would or wouldn't find stuff on it in a peer review publication.. Have fun because there's no way in hell I'm going to bother with that!! "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

Yeah, I thought about that.. But it's the whole crowd thing again.. I like 1-on-1, but 3's a crowd But I get what you mean.. Maybe I'll just take up a new sport that is testosterone-rich.. Like climbing?? Why not? Probably be more fun than blocking 12 fuckwits per day on Match!! Ha ha ha!! Anyway, I didn't really post this for dating advice from you lot - more for entertainment value.. And BTW, you've all made me laugh LOADS, so THANK YOU

So...go to a cafe? Go to a smaller quieter pub. Go to where you want to go with your potential date. Some times life is simple we just make it complicated because we are afraid. Dude.. Seriously?? I don't like "going out" so your suggestion is for me to "go out?" I should just start hanging out at cafe's and quiet pubs?? Single people don't just sit around waiting to meet people - that's crazy. The whole point is that the stuff I enjoy tends to be solitary (or full of women).. Running, yoga, reading, curling up to watch a DVD, cycling, riding (though I only just started).. So I'm trying something new. I thought maybe there are people out there like me.. Solitary types who like sharing their solitude.. Wouldn't really expect you to understand - you seem to think attractive girls just whimper and 20 guys fall at their feet just begging them for hot sex.. 'Cause after all.. Easy sex is all anyone wants, right? "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

It all contributes to creating stronger, more resilient strains of diseases.. I studied some of this stuff at uni - scary, but *fascinating*. Trouble is that there is no "proof" in science.. Only "evidence" and "strong correlation". "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

Umm.. It wouldn't be rude, but not incredibly perceptive either.. The whole point of trying out the online dating is that I don't like crowds and I don't like "going out". I like doing stuff, but a lot of it isn't conducive to meeting new people.. Take running for instance.. Easy to *share* with someone.. Difficult to *meet* people whilst you're doing it.. Get it? If I were casting my net at clubs, I can't imagine I'd find what I'm looking for.. I absolutely *hate* going clubbing.. "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

Being yourself works every time.

Look.. We all know VB can be a moody bastard, but I wouldn't feel right ignoring that kind of message even if it was just drunken babble.. It might be serious drunken babble. So VB: for the record, we love you, ya moody cunt!!

Oh my god, that's GENIUS!!! Ha ha ha!! A "dating" phone!!! "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

Fiew!! For a moment there I thought you'd figured out that I'm really a big-ego'd gold-diggin cunt!! "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

Is anyone else bothered by Virgin Burner's message below from this evening? Dude - whatever it is, don't be like this.. I'm worried.. Plenty of people love you.. Seriously - it can't be that bad. "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

Hmm.. What girl wouldn't fall for this: "What people have said about SkyBastard: 'you really are a cunt' 'you're beautiful, in a fucking ugly way' 'your book was a scintillating read, rife with novel anecdotes and oodles of fuck you. - five stars' 'you'll go a long way - this is a big catapult' 'marry me skybastard, then marry my mummy' 'Actually, I do know why you are so popular. It's because people are stupid' 'i'm going to fucking fuck your shit cunt life up' 'you've got the nicest arse i've ever seen, mind you, i'm blind' 'i wish i was you, you're so awesome'" "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

No no.. I mean when you set up your profile, you have to select all this stuff about your ideal match and rate it's importance.. So I answered all the questions, but none of the questions were about the stuff I really care about.. Anyway.. How does one filter and search on personality?? Doesn't seem to work.. I've done a bunch of searches, but am not having much luck. Yes, I've taken the lead and messaged some people.. Still finding it hard to "read" people's personalities online.. For obvious reasons, I'm reluctant to give away personal info like my phone number, because I think there could be some scary people on there.. Maybe the trick is to go on some coffee dates?? I don't know.. I guess I'm not "down" with the whole modern way of dating.. Well.. Never mind the modern way - I didn't get it in the traditional way either!!! "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

Yep,cause part of what you wrote here makes you seem like a gold digging cunt, but I'm sure you aren't. I mean some people here think I'm an asshole but that just isn't true at all. Thing is, when I went though the criteria of what would appeal, I was 100% honest.. But all the criteria are superficial.. So.. Height.. Well, Ideally more than 5'10.. Important? Not very.. So for everything I selected, I had to be honest and put down my preferences, but then equally had to select "low" on the scale of how important it was.. The one thing I rated as "very" important was on smoking and drinking.. It *does* matter to me very much if a guy smokes or drinks a lot - BIG no-no.. As a result, there was little narrowing of the pool of candidates.. But then.. None of the criteria was: sense of humour (super important); cheekiness (very important); physical chemistry (extremely important, but impossible to discern without meeting the person).. So even though I get a blurb about what I'm after, etc.. Well, I don't really know, and my stats would suggest anything'll do anyway!! But obviously when reading a profile, the only thing I'm seeing is the obvious stuff.. I'm not very good at reading beyond the bloody obvious to find the "true" character of the person.. "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

Here's my point of view, for what it's worth. I say hang on to your rig. You're unlikely to be able to afford getting another one for the next 15 years, and the money you would get from it would likely disappear in no time anyway.. It's sort of a "drop in the ocean" in terms of what you will owe, but it's MASSIVE in terms of what it would take to save up and have all at once in order to buy it again in the future.. I think you're better off having a source of steady income to minimise the build-up of debt. If this course is intense, then you just need to work bloody hard for it. It's one year, right? People can't sustain full-on schedules for a long time, but if push comes to shove, if you set your mind to it you can get through one really tough year. Have you considered prizes/scholarships instead of financial loans? Have a look.. Some prizes/scholarships are really obscure and specific - some you might be eligible for and get by virtue of being the only applicant. I put myself through a full bachelors on this basis - came out with zero debt. Word of warning, though: it was fucking hard work. But that's just me.. "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

Well, I picked Match.com because it was the most obvious one. And because I'm not a seasoned "dater", I figured it would be easy enough to navigate and it would probably attract other non-experience "daters" as well.. UGh.. My point isn't that I'm somehow pissed off or disappointed in the whole thing.. I guess I just don't understand how it all works.. I mean, I never really dated when I was younger anyway, so it's all a bit weird.. Maybe the real problem is that I'm not really looking for a relationship.. I'm just finding I'm not meeting people and I feel tired of sharing all my time with my girly friends.. I love my girly friends, don't get me wrong.. Oh, I don't know.. Anyway.. It's weird!! "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

I guessed the relation, but had never heard of her.. I don't "get" twitter.. I mean, on a theoretical basis it makes sense, I suppose.. I just don't get why someone else's life would be so interesting you'd want to know about it on that level of detail.. Guess that's why I've never read or purchased a tabloid/celebrity magazine.. "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss