Nataly

AHA, but if he wanted more sex, he would have to talk to her, no? We can flip that right around and say if she wanted to talk to him again, she should give him a booty call. It's a two way street. Yes, true.. What I don't know is whether they exchanged numbers or if she just gave hers.. "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

AHA, but if he wanted more sex, he would have to talk to her, no? Edit: That's just made me visualise talking *during* sex.. Ha ha ha!! "So, the weather was nice today, huh" "mmm hmm.. oh yeah.." "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

I use the handicap loos I reckon they can hold it in just like anyone else, and if they can't they probably don't need the loo anyway 'cause they've got a portable little bag or something.. [runs away] "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

OMG you crack me up!! High-fiving Whale noises "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

I thought that was pretty obviously implied in the question.. But nonetheless, there *could* be reasons why he didn't call even if the sex was great.. I don't know.. I don't pick up random people at the pub, and I'm not a man!!! How would I know why one would or wouldn't call??! "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

Awww.. I shouldn't laugh.. But I just did "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

Oh my god.. I just got off the phone to my friend who was sobbing because this guy she slept with hasn't called her.. The (shortened) conversation went a little like this: Her: "was I that bad? Does it mean he thinks I'm ugly?" Me: "who knows??? Where did you meet?" Her: "In a pub" Me: "so he's pretty much a stranger - why are you so upset about it??" Her: "But surely you would think that is a guy has just had sex with a girl he would want more, so if he doesn't call I must have done something wrong" Me: "No idea, hun.. None.. He's just some guy - he doesn't even know you and doesn't know what he's passing up.. Try not to get all upset about it ok? It's just not worth it.." I said something lame to try and make her laugh, but mostly I didn't know what else to say .. So guys.. Help me out.. Have you ever had great sex with someone you just met and then not ever called them? Was there a particular reason why you didn't? (I thought she had a fair point.. If the guy knew he could have sex, you actually would think he might call..) Oh dear.. Thoughts? "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

First of all, I'm sorry for your loss. Last year, one of our co-workers lost her baby 1 week before her due date. I thought that generally speaking, my boss was a bit of a socially inept loser, but that day, he took me aside and personally told me what had happened because he knew we were close. It really changed my opinion of him - I thought it was a decent thing to do. It's a shame your director didn't have this kind of sensitivity.. To be fair, it's a tough subject to broach, so it should say something that he took the time to write it all out in an email.. Maybe not the best thing, but a gesture nonetheless.. Perhaps the director in question found it difficult to deal with himself and thought that he would get too upset talking about it.. It's not an easy situation, unfortunately.. If nobody suggests it, maybe have a word with your director and find out if anyone has though to send your boss' family flowers and condolences.. Sorry again.. That's really sad.. "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

Congratulations, you are the first person EVER to offer me a blow-job!!! You guys crack me up!! "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

Thanks to everyone for the tips and encouragement and PM's.. I feel better today. Here's more about my situation and why I'm so upset about it.. Initially, I only decided to become a Chartered Accountant so that I could increase my earning potential.. The idea was that since I had a major career change about 8 years into the game, doing this qualification would increase my earnings and help give me credibility compared to my peers. So I did the first 11 exams in 13 months. To put that into perspective, most people take 2 to 3 years to get to that stage. I then took the next set of 3 finals, and one of them has turned out to be really challenging.. In fairness, whilst I have been failing this exam, at the same time I've changed companies, been promoted 3 times, bought a house, then separated from my partner, moved house twice since and loads more besides.. It's been pretty tough times.. So I suppose I shouldn't be so hard on myself.. But DAMN.. I'm sick of this material.. Every time I look at it, I want to cry. Anyway.. I've just done a revision course this weekend and I do feel a little better. Thanks again everyone.. It's encouraging to get some support. N@ "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

Nope. Were you tired or stressed?? Anxious? Maybe think about how you were feeling before the dive - might help you identify *why* this happened.. "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

Awww.. Thanks guys. I'm so frustrated.. I've taken classes and done online training.. I've had a mentor (2, actually).. I've done TONS of mock exams (37 to date, plus lots of individual practice questions).. This is how I know I cannot possibly pass. It's not an attitude thing, and it's not that I've given up.. But for all my work I am consistently scoring between 35% and 45% - you need 50% to pass. Perhaps what I needed most of all this time 'round is a break from studying.. If nothing else, they are changing the syllabus so that might work in my favour when I re-take it AGAIN in 6 months "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

Seriously - I have. In 18 days I'm going to fail this accountancy exam for the 4th time now. That's not being pessimistic - it's just a fact. I'm averaging too low on the mocks to pass.. I can't imagine that after 2 years the next 2 and a half weeks will turn out to be just what I need for things to sink in.. No amount of dumb luck will help me - the format is such that if you don't understand, you don't pass. I've tried and tried and tried and I'm just at the stage where I feel so fucking dumb I think I don't even deserve to be working in Finance. I'm so depressed. "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

Top marks for best comment yet!! You *naughty* boy! "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

See.. Although you seem to be quiet in some situations out of a feeling of insecurity.. I think some people don't have this insecurity and can thus damage their reputation as a result of saying something inconsiderate. So perhaps this feeling of awkwardness is in fact something which encourages positive results (ie: thinking before speaking = more considered/respected response). More often than not, people get into trouble for something they DID say - not for keeping their mouth shut.. "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

I see shyness as a person who likes to keep certain things to themselves.. For instance, someone who is private and doesn't like to discuss personal topics like their boy/girl-friend. But to me, this tendency to be quiet or reserved isn't necessarily linked with self-esteem. Some people just don't feel the need to share their every little thought with the rest of the world. If anything, we could do with MORE of this in some cases.. I mean, I can't be the only one who is getting sick and tired of people being famous purely for whoring themselves in front of as many cameras as possible!!! When I went to school, we had this really quiet guy in the back of the class. He told me one day that he really, really hated that everyone assumed that because he was quiet he was irrelevant.. Or that because he was quiet he must be a deep thinker.. Or that he must be this or that. I asked him if there was a reason he was so low-key and he said simply: I just hate everyone in that class!!! And I thought.. Bloody hell!! I always assumed all these things about him based on stereotypes - it had never occurred to me that he just couldn't be BOTHERED to socialise with us!! Ha ha ha!! And that's when I first thought.. You know.. All this talk about being outgoing and gregarious like it's such a great thing.. Well, all the truly annoying people I know are like that. And all this talk of oh poor thing he's so shy it must be hard for him, etc.. But when I look at people like that they are generally liked and listened to when they do speak up.. So on balance.. I'm not convinced that one is more desirable than the other. "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

Here's something I've always wondered... In many Western cultures, it's seen as a good thing to be outgoing - people associate it with being confident, which is also deemed to be good. Now, I think self-confidence is great.. But I fail to see how being quiet or shy is automatically a sign of low confidence. I think you can be quietly confident. And I think shyness can be an attractive trait.. I'm not convinced that shyness is a crippling character-trait that prevents people from succeeding in life.. I mean, if you look at the flip side, some people's over-confidence can be detrimental to their success, because they don't actually have the skills to perform to the standard they claim to be able to. And being loud isn't always a good thing - *trust* me.. my loud mouth gets me into trouble more often than I care to admit So all in all.. why is it that quietness and shyness are generally seen to be negative traits?? Note: I am aware of the inherent irony of this post in that most people who will respond will actually not fall into the quiet/shy category, so I'm sure the answers will be biased to a degree!! "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

Will someone please notify Nataly that Banesanura is using her account? I SAID be GRATEFUL you sad excuse for a man! Note to self: This one is acting pretty feisty. Better check with Remster so see if he has some heavy-duty restraints I can borrow. Don't worry - I have my own set if you like being tied up "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

I don't need lessons to be a badass - I teach the class (every Wednesday, promptly at 18:00 - tardiness is severely punished by way of public humiliation). "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

Will someone please notify Nataly that Banesanura is using her account? I SAID be GRATEFUL you sad excuse for a man! "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

No.. But it's a *splendid* idea! I'll be right over.

No.. But it's a *splendid* idea! I'll be right over.

I quickly got Rocketing Rabbit, but never better.. "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

No.. But it's a *splendid* idea! "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

Wonder if the Yanks know what you're talking about??!!! "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss