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That is so sweet! Thank you! I just like to understand people and society. (I find writing and expressing it, through which ever medium necessary, essential for my own social development and identity) I believe that if ANY one wrote a book about their live's it would sell- people are just curious how others live and how they develop to become the person to tell the story... Best Girl Scout Ever.

So...I've fallen behind and I am no longer current- Which breaks my heart. I was supposed to meet my gator buddy at SDC this weekend- but did make it. (I couldn't jump) I just registered for school that starts back up on Aug 20. I am enrolled for 5 classes on top of my full time job- on top of the ProDom gig- on top of a web project to "Celebrate Diversity" (with the intent on educating and inspiring masses to break out of social gender roles that deter individual growth). I have a shit ton on my plate and will be absent from the sky for a bit. Wanted to thank all of you for advice, compassion, rebuttals, smart ass remarks and understanding.... I wish everyone the best in their endevours and hope I cross paths with all of you- in the sky. Best Girl Scout Ever.

I do have a web cam and web shows..... daisy_mistress is my YIM I generally post BDSM sessions if the client wants to be humilated..... Best Girl Scout Ever.

I work for a website. I'm online constantly. Then I do debits and credits in between..... Best Girl Scout Ever.

Hellllllllllllooooooooooo salior....... Where was I during all of this????? What a shame..I had to miss such an event....... Best Girl Scout Ever.

TASTE OF CHICAGO IS THIS WEEKEND! GO there! Best Girl Scout Ever.

[reply You know, hanging harnesses do have more than one use. Yeah - thats what they said to me when I had to demonstrate a cut away. Best Girl Scout Ever.

I would just do it as a joke- I did help a fellow skydiver obtain keys her keys from her locked car with my cane....that was kinda funny!!! Best Girl Scout Ever.

Unless we all dress up in S/M wear as a joke. Or have bdsm jumps..... Inflatable sheep/dolls/dildos Best Girl Scout Ever.

Funniest. Line. Ever. That is, until you met skydivers at the local fetish parties! lol Let me rephrase that: Skydiving and BDSM will never mix in real life- AT THE DROPZONE or within 1 mile of it. Best Girl Scout Ever.

I KNEW IT!!! I knew it. I should have posted a week ago, but I thought, 'Naw, I can't believe someone else is going to try that shit and think it's original...' It's just funny how people that show up on forums, post most of their threads about some kind of kinky sex, end up with a sig line or PM's trying to get people to pay their $3.99/minute for their webcams!! People are just soooo predictable nowadays. I would never try to solicit any one in the skydiving forums. I've been approached buy some interesting people in attempt to become one of my submissives- but I have a clear line. Plus there is a video that so happens to be circulating...... Skydiving and BDSM will never mix in real life- its fine to speak about it in forums, but when it comes to hitting the DZ, I won't do anything. And IF a skydiver wanted to dip in the world of bdsm- I would never EVER charge them for videos or pics.....real time play is prohibited. Good deeds are pro bono. Best Girl Scout Ever.

For the website or the dungeon I will be working out of??? I already bought the domain name....and the web developer just HAPPENS to be a submissive of mine...so he's paying for all the server space. I have another subs whos a professional photographer....so I have a few photoshoots set up next month.....(trying to work on my fitness!) Hahahahhah maybe I should have a skydivers special.....two sessions for the price of one. hahahahahhahahha Best Girl Scout Ever.

UPDATE- So I was offered the position at the dungeon. However after reading a thought provoking fortune cookie- I declined- What did that fortune cookie say? "you will be successful in your own business" I thought to myself for a second and said, damn this fortune cookie is RIGHT! Why didn't I think of that?! I have a web developer working on my website going to be deployed before the end of the year. I have hired a personal assistant and an attorney to provide proper paperwork to cover my ass. I have started already generating leads and just working independently- that way I can dictate my own schedule and what clients I get to see. Best Girl Scout Ever.

Shhhhhh!!!!!!!!! No one is supposed to know MY safety word! Best Girl Scout Ever.

That is one sure way to get your point across. And then she will think twice about cheating....knowing that some man is dancing around in his living room listening to boy george wearing her panties. Trust me- men ARE willing to buy them. 100 a pop. Nice chunk of change hahahah Best Girl Scout Ever.

Sell her panties lingere to men via the internet. hahahah. you could make quite a chunk of change. Take your next girlfriend out to a nice dinner with that money. Best Girl Scout Ever.

A pro sessions require a few forms to sign. It's basically to cover their asses in cases of permanent damage. Best Girl Scout Ever.

YOU CAN TOO! There are men that get into this- and there are 2 pro male doms at the place I will work at. Best Girl Scout Ever.

guess what I am renting this weekend! Best Girl Scout Ever.

This is the best possible solution. J- If I break if off with a chick I will send her to you. What about if I break it off with a guy? Best Girl Scout Ever.

There are a few things that worry me about your post. ....Adults just don't get lost. Especially in crowds or parties. Cell phone? Kids get lost. Now there obviously was a motive in this one. She either wanted you to find her (crave and need for attention) or not be found and seek attention elsewhere. I wouldn't leave my bf/gf at a boogie for few hours- though we don't have to be attached at the limb- I'd give them enough respect to let them know where I am at in case of separaton. Ouchies- Respect and Trust has been lost from both parties- you can forgive, but I doubt you will be able to fully trust them. And as far as the "I didn't know the rules". Majority of relationships are monogamous. It's not like you bang other chicks a month into your new relationships becauseyou didn't know the rules. You are obviously on the fence about this subject, however trust has been broken. If you continue to date you will subconciously become paranoid at every person you introduce her to. Unless you agree to a swinging lifestyle Best Girl Scout Ever.

Ummm...I guess. I have tendendices to be assertive but also submissive tendencies- it really just depends on the circumstance. Now I would say in my overall approach on life I am dominant then- just a little. I don't gain any sexual pleasure from being a top. It doesn't even arouse me. Every circumstance where I have had to be a top it's been strictly professional. We would have conversation hang out- but as our "roles"- My personal subs enjoyed being submissive and I provided a safe place for them to exercise their fetish. I have limitations- I would never financially ruin some one, I would never ruin a relationship, I would never permanently scar some one or put anyone in serious risk under any circumstance. I can't tell you how many times I've received emails from men asking if I can nail their nut sack to my kitchen table. Or even perform castration. I'm not licensed to perform operations- and I don't want any part of that. When I lived in Atlanta- I had a sub who would just drive me to night clubs. I would shuffle around town in the back of the car- he'd open the door just like a good chauffeur, etc. etc... My dates never had a problem with him- they actually liked him. Even though none of my dates were in the lifestyle. Do I think it's funny as hell? Yes. Do I think it can be absurd? Yes. Does the psyche of the submissive pique my interest? With upmost confidence- I say it does. But then again- alot of communities pique my interest....even skydivers...but then again whatever 'normal society' is, also considers skydivers to be deviants. For me- its more of me trying to find my own "identity and role" in life- Now I am not saying that being a dominatrix is my role- but I think the things that I learn from the experience can mold my outlook on life in general. Plus it helps me become a bit more open minded and accepting of those who tend to deviate from social standards. Even if it is throwing bolonga at them while wearing a tutu and a banana suit. Fetishes don't grow over night- they manifest. Thats why I think its important to share things with your partner. (if involved during time) Understand each other's limits and come to a compromise. If you both cannot come to an compromise and you don't support your partner- there will always be someone else who does- even if its a dominatrix. Lets take a peeky at stereotypical gender roles. feminine characteristics submissive dependent emotional receptive intuitive timid passive sensitive masculine characteristics dominant independent rational assertive analytical brave active insensitive Thus far, I've learned submission- from the male perspective - alleviates several things. Burden of Gender Roles- (Social/Cultural stigma) Lack of support system when coming to the realization that they deviate from social/cultural norms Control/power - (again from social repression) Phew- sorry for the book! I just take it one day at a time- learn from mistakes get up when life knocks me down, and then smush some balls on the side. Best Girl Scout Ever.

Yes- however deviants are all based on perception. I understand what you are saying, and it was a tad left field on my part, but I call everyone a pervert to even the plane. There are groups that think sex is just for procreation and not for instant sexual gratification. While the believers of this might be small in numbers, would that make them perverts because they deny themselves a casual orgasms (other than the male) and just utilize the male orgasm strictly for procreation? Those perverts! Best Girl Scout Ever.

No this place is just outside the financial district of the loop. it's close to the L but not on the north side. Best part is that there is a dungeon right across the street from my office building. I chuckle to myself everytime I walk to my office. I try and see who is buzzing the door bell....hehehehe Best Girl Scout Ever.

My circumstance isn't snotty coworkers- but people that I don't understand.... I am a minority and for some reason this action never ceases to amazing me. I had a conversation with a coworker about her relocating into the suburbs to get her children out of the Chicago Public School system. Me:The western suburbs have EXCELLENT schools. Coworker: " Thats true, but they dont have these in the west suburbs" and points to her wrist. Me: Looking confused: "time- watches?" Coworker: No - Black people. They don't have black people in the west suburbs. Me: I was in fucking shock and speechless. I didn't know how to answer. Needless to say- I was angry that she would deny her children a better education because of some far fetched self imposed racial stigma. Best Girl Scout Ever.