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OK---my playfully dirty mind can't take any more serious discussion---take me back to the other thread Paint me in a corner, but my color comes back.

Ha!, Well, now that you mention it. I think a LOT of things are better than the kids who grow up in "the system". I interviewed and wrote articles about way too many kids in our DCF in Florida and the awful things they go through to not believe that. I would happily adopt a child to any loving, gay couple, who passed the very same background process that any other couple would. Paint me in a corner, but my color comes back.

Well said. I agree and am happy you mentioned that. Paint me in a corner, but my color comes back.

Not, necessarily. To each their own I always say. I met my hunny right after I graduated AFF at 20 years old and still in college. I'm 25 now and we're still together and have been living together 4 years. There is no doubt in either of our minds we will be together for life. There was a time, to your point, I was very upset (Skymama lectured me through this time. Ha!) that i had not been proposed to. I won't go into all the details, but.... Now, I'm VERY happy to NOT be married yet. I would stil like to be, and probably will be soon. But, there are MANY good reasons to wait, even if you wait togther. Not to mention, I learned the valuable lesson about society pressures. I've never considered myself pressured by anyone to do anything. But, I realized, after that 2nd year and especially the 3rd year togther when everyone, friends and family, kept asking "when the big day going to happen?" or joking calling me "the wife" that, that is exactly why I felt that you're "supposed" to get married after a certain amount of time together. I will NEVER ask that of anyone, b/c I think it's Ba-lonie. There is no wrong or right time as a general rule. It really depends on the two people. I realized with all these people bagering me and us and him, that I wasn't ready to be married and it was so silly for me to feel like something was wrong just b/c I wasn't yet. Some people get married, buy a house, have kids and do things the "perfect" society-approved way. I had just graduated college, the market was right, I was doing pretty well, and bought my house first. There would be no way I'd have a house at the beach that I'm so proud of, if I'd had to worry about and plan a wedding or was already married. Now, before ever entering into a marriage, we already have a good, solid, future planned for retirement, vacations, and have had plenty of time to talk about all sorts of things like children, finances, political views, passions, things we want to do, accomplish, etc. I'm very happy I wasn't married before b/c now, more than ever, I feel VERY confident that I can grow with this man, that we want the same things, and can weather through any storm (and believe me we had a couple tragic events happen where we were both very on edge). Had we been married before, I think it would have been more of a feeling of obligation to work out and agree with one another, rather than do the right thing and take the valuable time needed to get through the difficult times, really have the freedom to say the truth about what your'e feeling, and realize that I truly, truly don't want to go anywhere in my life without this person. Geez....there's a novel for you In other words, to each their own (edited to add: we're 10 years apart, and no-one likes being told "that will change when you're older", but I have to attest; even being very mature for my age and growing up quickly, I still did a lot of changing, questioning and wondering over the years of 20 to current-day 25. We have always been faithful, always had my best friend (my hunny) and we grew together, not apart, which I am very happy to know BEFORE walking down any isle). Paint me in a corner, but my color comes back.

One thing I feel the need to add, having one of my degrees in sociology---that it is JUST as important for the MAN to be there as well. During the first 3 years of a child's life, it is very important for a parent to always be there, equally mother & father (not necessarily at the same time). After that, it's actually much better for the child to be dropped at a pre-school, playground or learning center for a few hours/day to spend time learning to socialize and get along with others. I also don't think a mom shoudl forget herself. So many mothers think it's wonderful and heroic to always put their child first. I think that's crap. If you never have time for yourself or do things for yourself, you are not giving your best self to your children, in my opinion. Paint me in a corner, but my color comes back.

That is the only issue with being "stay-at-home" anything I have. I knew a roomate and quite a few other girls in college who were only there, not for an education, but to find a med or law student to marry her so she could be financially cared for and stay at home and have lots of babies. I believe that is why we have a 51% divorce rate. I do think being a "professional mom" as I call it is probably one of the hardest jobs in the world (I wouldn't know personally). But, I do feel it's very important to be financially independant. If after 30 years your husband leaves, you will have not paid anything into SS (not that, that's reliable anyways) and you will have no savings that is not considered "joint" and even that will mostly go to the primary bread earner in a lot of divorce cases. I also don't think relationships can work unless both parties can care for themselves and have something great to bring to the table. Arguments over finances are one of the major causes of divorce. Things like that, in my opinion, shoudl be clearly talked through (among plenty of other things) before a marriage commitment. As far as me, personally, I consider myself financially savvy since I was very young. I'm biased b/c I'm an only child who's father never wanted me to depend on a man for anything, whether it's fixing a broken pipe, or planning for my retirement. So I REALLY value that sense of always believing I can handle anything that comes my way. I don't "need" my hunny to provide for me or fix things for me, though it's very sweet when he does. I "need" him to be my best friend and love slave Paint me in a corner, but my color comes back.

Me and my boy-toy Paint me in a corner, but my color comes back.

Does it count if he's only posted twice? Paint me in a corner, but my color comes back.

Oops, I didn't realize there was math involved in the poll.

It's not "oversexed", it's making the most of your potential Having said that, of course we would, my answer to the poll was 1 Oh, but the things I've done to that 1 Paint me in a corner, but my color comes back.

Me, too, when I've been drinking, and to my friends, and everyone who makes me laugh, and my Oma, and Mutti..... But, to someone I was "in" it with, I was the first to say so, after about 2 months and he did NOT say it back. We're still together 5 years later Paint me in a corner, but my color comes back.

Geez, she's like a "Weird Science" creation (edited for quote) Paint me in a corner, but my color comes back.

There are many things w/out having an HOA that can keep your property value up. Usually, it's location, not an HOA, that contributes most to that. Paint me in a corner, but my color comes back.

Now that I've actually read your post... Depends on what you value. If you want your neighborhood to have a required level of aestetic beauty, rules & regulations for certain things, then it might be for you. If you don't like paying for someone to make your rules and regulations, and can deal with the one house on the street that always seems to have awful sh!t in their yard and overgrown plants, then save your $$$. Paint me in a corner, but my color comes back.

Don't do it. Step away from the HOA! Paint me in a corner, but my color comes back.

All this talk about rods and cones....I think I need to start wearing more green for my boy-toy Paint me in a corner, but my color comes back.

You're hilarious! Laughter is my FAVORITE medicine. And next to that, I like Southern Comfort Paint me in a corner, but my color comes back.

Oooo, I love the tackle! It beats playing flag anyday. Go long! Go long! Ha. Oh geez. A dirty mind is a terrible thing to waste I missed ya'll, too, Kris! Paint me in a corner, but my color comes back.

What a shame. If sex were a college course, I'd make that a required pre-requisite. Paint me in a corner, but my color comes back.

Yea, girls can always go longer than boys, and multiple times, too. Sucks to be you Paint me in a corner, but my color comes back.

Go get 'em tiger Paint me in a corner, but my color comes back.

Giraffe BBQ? I love animals, not love animals Paint me in a corner, but my color comes back.

If a woman hits you, take her down. I'm old fashioned when it comes to my door being opened, but the whole "never hit a woman" rule is bogus Edited to say: unless it's an abuse situation. I have to make sure I say that, having volunteered a the Hubbard house. Paint me in a corner, but my color comes back.

There's no "tease" category

Tee-he...anytime, boys I'm all about the bootie Paint me in a corner, but my color comes back.