ChrisL

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Of course I knew that would happen __ My mighty steed

My assumption that you were on her side was based on the spirit of your messages which seemed to indicate that you think I should have known these things about her before we married and therefore cant complain about them, and also the fact that you feel I was out of line in using profanity with regard to her behavior. If I was wrong, then I stand corrected. __ My mighty steed

Oh my god. After 2 years of posting I finally had a thread catch on fire!

I know that part wasn't directed at me specifically, but I wanted to comment on the above quote.I do in fact have guy friends who I am JUST friends with...how else would I be able to stay in this sport and actually have friends??? Actually that was directed to Conudrum. I would point out that things got a lot worse when I started jumping because now instead of spending all my weekends at home, some of them are at the DZ where there are lots of WOMEN. If you believe my wife, I'm SO amazingly attractive, that you are ALL going to want to steal me from her. And of course having no mind or soul, I will blindly fall into the arms of any woman that expresses interest. This belief is of course supported up by absolutely no evidence that this is the case . __ My mighty steed

You are correct. These were issues of hers that existed before I met her. However they did not become evident until something came along to trigger tham, and that didnt happen until long after we were married. We did marry rather quickly, if that makes any difference to you, tying the knot a mere 8 months after we started dating. I dont think this fact means that I "deserve what I got" though. We were in love. Her insecurity did NOT rear its ugly head until we had been married for a couple years, mostly because I do not go out much and stay at home most of the time. As a recovering alkie I dont socialize all that much. Also, I did not call my wife an idiot or an asshole. I said that "with regard to female friends she is an idiot, and with regard to old flames that are now friends, she is a complete asshole" She has called me far worse than that simply for having a woman I made a jump with one time send me an e-mail. I dont think I'm all that low. Obviously you seem to agree with my wifes position and think that a man cant simply be friends with a woman __ My mighty steed

You are assuming that I knew everything there was to know about my wife before we got married. Thats a pretty big assumption and in this case, completely wrong. I was not aware that this was a problem until long after we were married. I dont actually have 1000 female friends that this would pop up right away. I ASSUMED that as an adult I could chose who I want to be friends with. __ My mighty steed

I'm not quite sure how you got to that. It has no bearing on my situation. I AM saying that I would not consider having sex with this friend even if we were both single. We dont feel that way toward each other. Thats truely bizarre and I cant comprehend it. __ My mighty steed

You have twice mentioned "attractive" as a reason to not hang out with a friend of the opposite sex. So it would be ok if the person was ugly? I can have all the ugly friends I like. OR they dont have to actually be ugly as long as they are visibly less attractive than my wife. MEthinks that someday your future husband might find himself in the same situation I'm in BTW, I never said my old friend was in the least bit attractive. I dont really think that should matter, do you? __ My mighty steed

I agree completely. The problem is that while I trust my wife completely, my wife does not trust me. This is not because of anything that I ever did. We have been married 8 years and I've never cheated or done anything to sew the seeds of distrust. This is baggage that she brought in with her from the past. I've never cheated on anyone whether we were married or just dating. Ever. Its a big enough problem that I have considered leaving on more than one occasion because I dont feel that I should be continually suffering for the misdeeds of some bad choice she made in another lifetime. Its extremely frustrating. __ My mighty steed

Honestly I wouldnt care, and for that very reason it wouldnt be a secret. I have no insecurity or jelousy issues at all. My wife can be friends with male exotic dancers if she likes and if she wants another man romantically she can have that too, she just cant have me any more if she's after that. With regard to areas that are only for my wife, I wasnt aware that friendship fell into that category. As I said, there is NO romance between me and this other person. She is just an old, dear friend. My wife could not possibly become friends with her. She is too insecure to handle that. Its too bad too because if it were not for the circumstance, they actually would like each other. __ My mighty steed

I have always remained good friends with my very first girlfriend. Our romance ended 22 years ago but the friendship remained. As other women or men entered our lives and brought their retarded insecurity and jelousy with them, we had to say goodbye for years at a time because these new SO's simply couldnt hande the fact that we were friends even though neither of us were looking for a romantic involvement any longer. That fire burned out a long time ago and we are just good friends. We always got back in touch eventually. Well she just got back in touch with me a couple weeks ago and we have been corresponding via e-mail pretty regularly. Its been real nice to have my friend back. I missed her. She was gone for 9 years this time around. My wife, if she knew about this, would absolutely freak, but the fact is I'm just tired of playing this stupid game and saying goodbye to a good friend simply because my SO is too damned insecure to handle it. I'm NOT going to say goodbye anymore. Why sould I pay the price for her insecurity and emotional baggage? I'm also not going to go out of my way to mention it to my wife. If she should ask me who I've been writing to lately I will tell her the truth. Until then I dont see why I should voluntarily bring a rain of shit into my life. I dearly love my wife, but with regard to female friends she is an idiot. With regard to old flames that are now just friends, she is complete asshole. I'm curious as to what the ladies think of this situation. How many of you think that I should drop my long lost friend? How many of you think I'm doing something wrong? __ My mighty steed

Alienate anyone thats not from Quebec __ My mighty steed

Hey! WHO THE HELL ARE YOU AND WHAT THE HELL ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT????. __ My mighty steed

WAAAHHHHH! Quit crying and go jump __ My mighty steed

Guitar with Satriani __ My mighty steed

I think its silly. I think wedding rings are silly too for that matter. I dont wear mine half the time and the only reason I wear it at all is because my wife likes it. To me they feel like someone put a tag on me claiming ownership. Hands off ladies, I BELONG to another woman. Nah. I think engagement rings for women are silly too and RIDICULOUSLY overpriced. I know, I'm as romantic as an old log. I can live with that PS. You forgot the "man: Gimme a break" option in the poll __ My mighty steed

No. Anyone that thinks skydivers are more ANYTHING than anyone else is a silly egotist. __ My mighty steed

You must be talking about me. I'm 5' 11" They dont come much taller than that baby! __ My mighty steed

Graham Crackers rock dunked in milk __ My mighty steed

Dont listen to the dumb hype. I bought a brand new rig a year ago and I got B-12's installed. They are cool, they are comfy, they are easy. I like em __ My mighty steed

Don does mostly hop-n-pops these days. He has experienced some injuries over the years and because of the resulting discomfort he avoids RW now. He will still do tandems but usually just does hop-n-pops all day from 3 or 4k He has been in the number 1 slot for jumps staying just ahead of Bill Dause the entire 16 years I've known him. He is the official Guiness book record holder that entire time and still is today. My first 3 jumps ever were made in 1989 attached to Don and I earned my A license there in 1990. Then I quit the sport for a VERY long time and only returned to jumping a year and a half ago, and when I wanted to get current again, I went back to Hazleton again I usually jump at Cross Keys now because its MUCH closer but I still go to Hazleton several time per year. Very cool, friendly dropzone. __ My mighty steed

Buy it. Then, if he comes lookin for it someday whne he gets out of the slammer, sell it to him for the same price you paid for it. Karma is satisfied and you have a decent rig cheap, maybe forever. __ My mighty steed

Click the "Dropzones" link at the top of the page and drill down to NY or NJ or even PA. You dont have to go to Florida __ My mighty steed

You're almost right. __ My mighty steed