Nataly

I don't get it.. Where exactly was the painful bit?? The fact that this dude wasn't good at small-talk???? Am I missing something?? "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

Wow.. Just.. Wow.. I just had an awkward conversation with the Landlord about him accessing my apartment.. He basically told me he has a right to go in there whenever he wants and doesn't need to ask for permission. I told him actually he doesn't have a right to go in whenever he wants and he does have to ask for permission.. He has a right to enter ONLY to carry out maintenance, or if he's given permission (by me) to enter. He has a right to periodically check the condition of the apartment, but in every case, he has to either: - give 24 hours written notice or - be invited in (ie: he rings the doorbell and I let him in) And I said look.. I don't have anything weird going on in there that I'm hiding from you, but just as a matter of privacy, I think it's reasonable of me to get some notice when you do want access to the cellar - at the very least, knocking on the door!! I mean.. Do I really want him to come in when my laundry is hanging to dry and all my unmentionables are out?? NO! And what if, when he came in on Saturday, I had had some company?? At that hour, I could have had a gorgeous man between my legs - it's NOT ok (nor is it legal) for the landlord to just walk right on in!!! Hmm.. "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

Yeah, but the thing is, you have to take reputations with a grain of salt and give people a chance.. I gave him a chance - he failed. Simple, really! "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

I thought for some time that the landlord was coming into my flat when I wasn't around.. But then I kept thinking "Nat.. You're being paranoid.." Then on Saturday he just walked right in and he apologised by saying he thought I was away for the weekend!! He just wanted to fetch something from the cellar, but he walked right in, through my room, to the cellar, grabbed what he wanted and was out again.. This morning, he barged in AGAIN, but I wasn't dressed.. This is the last straw.. I'm locking myself in from now on and sending him an email reminding him that he is not legally allowed to come into my flat without reasonable advanced notice/permission unless it's an EMERGENCY. Fucking asshole. "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

A real gentleman would offer to do it for her.

Yeah.. I'm still impressed that he let me do it!! I was very gentle, but I have to say.. There is NO WAY I would let a stranger near me with a razor blade!! I asked him about it months later and he said he was scared shitless at first but was glad he let me do it.. Quite possibly the bravest thing I've ever witnessed!! "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

Ah ha ha!! Well.. This is a rule you made up - not me!! I didn't set any kind of timeline - I just didn't feel ready. With some guys I've waited and some I didn't. Depends on a lot of things. I just go with whatever feels right at the time. Right now I feel like I need for things to go slow.. But hey.. If lightening strikes, you gotta let things happen.

Meh.. The date went well enough (at first!).. But he was in Amsterdam for the weekend, and he let it slip that he was there with another girl (someone I know, incidentally - cheeky bastard!!!).. When I picked him up on it, he admitted that when I said I couldn't go (because I was busy studying), he asked her instead. I brought up our agreement, and he said well, he's a guy, he has needs, etc.. All I could say was.. Mm.. Ok.. Well.. I guess this isn't gonna work, then.. Especially since he agreed to diner+movie with my *whilst* he was out there with some other girl!!! Sheesh!! I'll give him one thing - he's a cheeky bugger!! We're still mates, but we just won't EVER be sleeping together!! "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

Well, this is a friend of mine. I told him from the start that I wanted to take things slow. He has a bit of a reputation for being a slut, so I told him if we were going to date, he'd have to be happy to date just me. If he wanted benefits straight away, he just needed to say so and we both wouldn't have bothered. I hear what you're saying, but it all depends on expectations. I was clear what my intentions were, and he went against what we had agreed. Simple, really. If ya can't trust someone after 3 weeks, there's little point in moving forward.. "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

*Exactly*! Basically it's a win-win.. Plus it makes the package appear larger

A real gentleman would offer to do it for her.

Don't be stupid - I wouldn't judge an entire species from the behaviour of just one froggie!! "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

So the guy I was seeing & went on a couple of dates with.. Well, let's just say it's not gonna happen. I can ignore the fact that he forgot my birthday - I'm pretty shit at remembering dates myself!! But I found out he's dating a couple of girls at the same time. I mean.. I don't take issue with it merely on principle, but I was pretty clear from the get-go that I don't like to share. Oh well.. Shame, but no sense getting all upset about it - it's basically his loss. Numpty. "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

clearly, you and i are the most amazing people on this website.. So much awesomeness can rarely be found in just one place!!! Man.. I really shouldn't be drinking this early in the afternoon "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

Oh YAY!! I was the first to give it a thumbs up

Oh YAY!! I was the first to give it a thumbs up

Ha ha ha! Je pourrais t'appeler mon p'tit fromage (Suisse)!! "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

Essaies-tu de m'apprivoiser en parlant ma langue maternelle??! T'as le gout de mourir d'une crise cardiaque??!! Ha ha ha!! "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

Oh you are *naughty*!! I'm taking things slow.. With all those months of pent-up sexual frustration, I'd probably drain all the man-juice out of him AND give him a heart-attack in about 30 seconds flat!! Just diner and a movie, I'm afraid.. "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

Wow.. And I thought you were exaggerating.. That is seriously crap - hard to imagine the rest of the movie is worth seeing.. Thanks for that link.. I probably would have wasted my time and money to go see this film! "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

You have a date with an amphibian??? You're just jealous because he's good with his tongue Aren't we all? Mwaa ha haaa!! Love the new avatar, but you don't fool me - I'd recognise my froggy in a line-up "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

You have a date with an amphibian??? You're just jealous because he's good with his tongue "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

Nope.. This one is ALL MAN

Oh YAY!! Will my spanking(s) be administered by you? Thanks everyone

Clearly not ugly.. FISHING "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss