Nataly

+1 REALLY agree with this

I *do* believe it... It was a total shock to me when I realised my ex didn't love me anymore - even though he had been unhappy in the relationship for like a year or maybe even more!!! Looking back I now see there were problems, but at the time I certainly didn't realise the problems were within the relationship - at the time I thought the problems were to do with work/study/stress... But the good news is that it is possible to move on even if it takes *ages*... Like you, I used DZ.com to vent and get over this really difficult period in my life. I think this was good and bad... It was good in the sense that it helped me get over it... It was bad in the sense that some people on here know me only from this context. But oh well.. If a hand-full of people think I'm a complete twat I can live with that!!! I'm happier than I've ever been, so bollocks to those who didn't like all the boo-hoo-ing it took to get to back to my "normal" self!!! "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

Well, that doesn't mean my theory is wrong... If you consider a "normal" relationship... It takes maybe a couple of years to start to know the person, then a couple more to find out if you're truly compatible, and then you might get married... If you start with a whirlwind romance, and quickly go to marriage... Well, it can take a longer time to really get to know each-other because there are a lot of incentives to make it work... The fact that you also have very strong feelings associated with this person can mean it takes much longer to realise/accept that you are not compatible. The worst thing is you don't see it coming... "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

I have just been learning the Arabic alphabet and honestly the "cursive" form (connected letters versus the stand-alone/final form) is really not rocket-science. Took me about 1 hour to figure it out (once I knew the fundamental letters)... So on this basis, I reckon Latin-based languages should work the same way in terms of being able to "figure out" cursive without having been taught it formally in school. But anyway, why take it out of the curriculum? How long does it take to teach cursive to kids who already know how to write? Perhaps what makes more sense is to teach cursive later in the school programme... That way it takes less time to internalise... In other words, teach students to read/write, and when they're older and already know how to read/write quite intuitively (I don't know - maybe when they're teenagers) cover cursive as one lesson!! "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

Sounds like a whirlwind romance... I think you may have already answered this in another thread, but how long were you married? The thing is that when you meet someone within unusual circumstances (travelling, jumping, abroad, during a traumatic event), you are likely to have stronger feelings associated with this person without actually really knowing them... So you feel a very strong connection that doesn't in fact have a solid foundation. This is a common problem that unfortunately means a lot of people fall in love with someone they don't know very well, and because the emotions are so strong it can take quite a long time to realise you are not compatible. I've experienced this first-hand and it sounds a little bit like that's the sort of relationship you just lost... Dunno... I could be wrong, but for me understanding this point was a major break-through when I was recovering from my big breakup. Anyway, no matter what anyone says, healing is something that is very individual and can take a long time - what worked for one person won't necessarily help *you*... But I hope this helps a little... "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

Different circumstances/experiences = different issues. - Some attractive people have shit thrown at them because they are attractive. - Some less attractive people have shit thrown at them because they are less attractive. - Some ugly people have shit thrown at them because they are ugly. It's not all the same shit, and not everyone reacts the same way regardless of the shit being thrown at them. Does this answer your question??! "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

Um... Can't say I agree with you about A LOT of those bold statements you are making... "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

Basically if you have a good rapport with someone you can say (almost!) anything to them but for fuck's sake know your audience!! Not all women would be offended by the term but I think few people would consider it a compliment... "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

Here's my two cents... Irrespective of who you are, I think the statement is silly. I have never set up any of my friends. Ever. At the same time, none of my friends have ever tried to set me up and I wouldn't want them to. So there. Some people just don't do that sort of thing and I don't think that makes them or me an asshole. "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

I agree. Plus you did well to get a rig you really like - you will be less eager to get rid of it and downsize... I approached getting my first motorcycle with the same rational... Got something that looks really good but is pretty tame... I do want more power but I still really love the bike so I keep delaying the upgrade - which is a good thing

A 170 sounds like a reasonable size - if I remember correctly you're rather petite. Good for you for not getting something too small. . I still jump the rig I bought when I had twenty-something jumps... It's a Sabre 135 and honest to god I nearly shat myself the first few times I came in for landings... . I was lucky I learned to fly it without getting any injuries - what a dumbass. Hope you enjoy your new baby

Damn chica... that sucks!! I feel your pain as I have tonsillitis. Sexahhhhhh!!! Awww MAN!! Poor both of you! "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1313881/Dont-bother-high-heels-ladies-men-dont-notice.html Yeah, I've read other articles on this not too long ago, and I believe there was even a thread on it. I don't buy it, though. You are taller and look slimmer in heals and you usually feel more confident when you are dressed nicely (usually in heals) so even if men don't consciously notice I do think it makes a difference. Unfortunately. "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

No doll he is entitled to the right to determine what he likes, dislikes and what he is looking for in a life partner. What he said was in on way offensive to anyone true to themselves and their wants and needs. Look, I'm willing to bet gooood money I'm not your type of guy from what I have read. Now if you were to come out and say Shah is not my type due to his height or hair color or lack there of.....do i or anyone else have the right to criticize you and your mate choice criteria? We want who and what we want.....it's a deep personal check list who no one has the right to question. Good, bad or indifferent. No, I mean he must be kidding about what he claims I said/meant... Or he didn't *read* what I said. I totally have no problem with his preferences, I am not promoting that you should or shouldn't be open to "variety", I am not shoving my options down anyone's throat. All I'm saying is that it's possible to fall for someone you didn't expect to - that's a known fact and not some hippy philosophy!! There's nothing controversial about that statement at all! "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

My unibrow annoys me so I get rid of it when ever it sneaks back. However I don't pluck it with tweezers as that would just drive me nuts and take for ever. Just FYI, plucking eventually leads to less hair, so over time it could be better to pluck. If you *really* hate your unibrow, you could always get laser hair removal - as long as your eyebrows aren't white or grey or very light blond it works and it's permanent. It's also not as expensive as you would think. "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

Why do you generalize based on your own experiences? I'm absolutely 100% certain I will never fall in love with a man or a tranny. And no, saying that doesn't make me small minded or bigoted. Its just means that I know what I like and what I want. Why can't you fee loving hippies get a grip and realize that not everyone functions the way you do and stop trying to show your propaganda down everyones throat. You *are* kidding, right??! "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

I've got the same plans and can't even use the excuse of having kids!! I also have a cold and i would like to pass it on to the next person because I have had my fill with it. Another reason why I am staying home. Oh MAN - you have *two* excuses and I still have none!! Oh well, a movie night in sound more fun to me than partying hard with a bunch of strangers... "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

I like the natural look on men unless they have a uni-brow... In this case, a minimal amount of grooming doesn't hurt.. But a perfectly-plucked man?? Nah.. A bit of ruggedness is nice

I meant "you" in the generic sense of the word, not you personally. And you're right, you can fall in love with someone who doesn't fit your "normal" physical criteria. You don't consciously choose who you're compatible with - you sometimes just find love in the most unexpected ways... "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

No, but anyway he should be working and he isn't based in Rabat. In any case, I just got back from there last week and should be seeing him again in February, so no biggy if I don't see him this time. To be honest I think it will be good for me to spend a few weeks with a host family instead of just staying with Mohamed - it will give me a different perspective on things. And now back to the topic at hand.. I was thinking maybe an Atlas? Would that be a nice thing to get as a gift?? I used to work for L'Oreal, so I could bring a few goodies as well for the hostess.. And probably some sweets for kids (if they have any). Otherwise, still open to suggestions... "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

When *I* say dick it means a man. A biologically born man, raised as a man, knows he's a man, can reproduce like a man, looks like a man, dresses like a man, God knows he's a man... you get the idea. And I don't see a problem with that. Nor do I see a problem with loving a woman. Or a transgender person. Everyone has preferences. It ain't just about genitalia, VB and you know it! What makes a "man" and what makes a woman is not just their physicality, but I would say that being born with a penis but thinking you *should* be a woman.. Well, with that comes complex issues - it's not just about the penis.. You know, VB.. You can love someone, but that doesn't mean a relationship with that person would work.. "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

well, if it's only about dicks and pussies you're probably right.. but if it's about LOVE.. well, i must say, i doubt it.. Yeah, but maybe not everyone is able to love regardless of circumstances... Lots of people give up on love for far smaller reasons, unfortunately. Everyone has deal-breakers - it's more honest to admit this than to pretend you'd be zen about it.. "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

pretty simple mind you are then.. actually, i've expected more of you, but hey, that is just me.. I'm not sure it's small-minded. Some people are, some people aren't open to certain sexual possibilities. Just 'cause it's not for you doesn't mean you don't respect other points of view. "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

Well, Nice is tourist central, but the majority of the touristy gift-shops sell crap. I thought about offering something that represents France, but considering Morocco only got their independence from the French in 1956, I'm really not sure that would go down very well. Besides, from the last time I went there I know the grocery shops stock everything you can get in France and then some! "There is no problem so bad you can't make it worse." - Chris Hadfield « Sors le martinet et flagelle toi indigne contrôleuse de gestion. » - my boss

You know, it never occurred to me to google it! Once again, google knows everything!!