peregrinerose

Shouldn't you be in the other thread about irritating things about women? I get bullshit answers for questions like 'what do you want me to cook for dinner' He says 'whatever you want', I say 'how about steak' He says, I was hoping you'd say that but didn't want you to feel like you had to grill steak' WTF! Tell me what you want to eat and I'll make it, I'm easy to get along with! Jen Do or do not, there is no try -Yoda

I hate it when guys tell you what they think we want to hear instead of what's actually going on in their heads. This doesn't exactly foster trust in a relationship and things go downhill from there. Us women are big girls, we can take it, and if we get pissy at you, deal with it But other than that, I love men, especially ones with nice butts, and in particular the one I married. Jen Do or do not, there is no try -Yoda

I'll give you that what I went through definitely wasn't willingly and was far less painful from a brutality stance (at least from what I am guessing that thorny crowns, nails, whips, etc would be like), but I also endured 17 years of hell and prefer not to go into great detail publicly on this one. That's just a little too personal. However, I would do it again if it would save the world, or at least the souls of the world, wouldn't anyone who is truly consumed by their beliefs do the same? Certain Muslim extremists do it daily with their suicide bombers. My only question here is that the separation from the holiness was a temporary thing, and he knew it was a temporary thing, and it didn't demean him in any way as an all powerful, knowing, caring being. So no true loss. I don't know about me in particular being important, as Christianity (and most other religions) teach some degree of tolerance and that we are all equal in the eyes of God. Even my own moral code adheres to that basic tenet. I agree completely with you here. And I love discussing religion with you because I've never seen you be anything but respectful of other views and you do your best to explain things as logically as possible to make your point without ever insulting the other person. I have a lot of respect for you for that one. And for your philosophy, though we may disagree on religious stances, our ethics as humans and how we treat others seems to be quite similar. It's nice to have a philisophical debate with someone every once in a while. Jen Do or do not, there is no try -Yoda

I don't see suffering and dying as a great sacrifice when you know that you're coming right back to life. There are many things that I believe in, and if my torture and death would benefit those beliefs or cause a far greater good and I knew that I had nothing to lose, since after all, I'm coming right on back as the same person I was before, then yes I'd do it. And yes I do know what some torture to a lesser degree can be like (obviously without dying

I love the fact that we all have different opinions, life would be damn boring if we were all psychological clones of each other. Jen Do or do not, there is no try -Yoda

Didn't Jesus know in advance he would be resurrected? So he didn't have anything to lose to die, which makes it a non sacrifice. I could be wrong in this, which is why I'm asking. Jen Do or do not, there is no try -Yoda

I've wondered about this whole free will/predestination thing a lot. For example, when someone dies, say killed by a drunk driver, their family rationalizes it by saying 'it was God's will' that the person be taken at that time and in that way. So, if it was God's will, then the drunk driver was doing God's will, and so should not be held culpable for his actions since they were determined by God anyway, after all, someone had to do the deed. But if it was God's will for the person to be killed by the drunk driver, then did the drunk driver truly have free choice of drinking then driving? Not trying to troll, just one of those interesting philosophical concepts that I could never truly wrap my brain around. Jen Do or do not, there is no try -Yoda

Damn, I forgot, my kid brother spoke to the lead singer of Hootie and the Blowfish when he ran games at Cedar Point. (my brother, not the singer) I met Lenny Kravitz when I worked games at Cedar Point too. Now I'm done. Jen Do or do not, there is no try -Yoda

Oooh, I forgot, I had a patient who was an extra in Girl Interrupted. My ex husband knew the landlord who rented the apartment to Angelina Jolie when she was in town filming Girl Interrupted, and had to send back all the sex toys that she left in the room when she left (sorry, I didn't get the scoop on exactly what she had) I got a hug from Victor Borge before he died. I had another patient who had a brief speaking role in that movie about the fixing of the PA Lottery (can't remember the name but it bombed) A friend of my office manager at my last job is one of the ladies who does the video clues on Jeopardy. I went to college with Amber from Survivor (she's a dumb sorority chick) My ex husband had dinner at the next table from David Spade. Okay, I think that's it now. Jen Do or do not, there is no try -Yoda

I know a guy who slept with Nathan Lane. I used to work with Arnold Palmer's uncle. I have met every member of the Mr. Rodgers cast except Fred. I got a hug from Ben Vereen and Regis Philbin (not at the same time) I know a guy who is the grandson of the guy who invented the Banana Split. Jen Do or do not, there is no try -Yoda

I soooo agree with this. Like having sex, then running to Blockbuster for a movie while going commando and still smelling like sex and running into the ex husband. Yeah, that put a smirk on my face Jen Do or do not, there is no try -Yoda

I can't stand those little yippie fuzzy football type dogs. Pekineese, most terriers, miniature anythings. Yuk. Both my dogs are humane league rescues. Fezzik is a rottie/black lab and Indy (Indiana) is a stumpy tail cattle dog. Both are dominated by my little 3 lb. netherland dwarf rabbit though, it's hysterical to watch a 90lb dog run from a 3 lb. rabbit. Jen Do or do not, there is no try -Yoda

last night, 16h or so ago. Next time, in about 8 more hours Do or do not, there is no try -Yoda

My husband knows no other language besides English, but can say the phrase 'slim pickle' in spanish. This someday may come in quite useful, but I don't know how. Jen Do or do not, there is no try -Yoda

Imagine the scene, husband still at work, newlyweds. I wanted to surprise him, so got the music, the candles, the sexy little black thing he likes me in so much, the works. He called to let me know he was on his way home, so I lit the candles. It's a 10 minute drive and I don't do inactivity well so I had the lamp by the bed on to read until I heard the front door open. I hear him come in, lean over to turn off the light, and whoooooosh!! All my arm hair goes up in flames from leaning way too close over a candle on my way to the lamp. He walked in to me laughing my ass off scraping scortched hair off my forearm and the stench of burning hair. He had sex with me anyway. Jen Do or do not, there is no try -Yoda

This is really true, horses are far less predictable and less safe than skydiving. That's why when my husband was jumping (before I started much more recently), I was only a little concerned knowing that my habits were riskier than his. No way I'd ever quit riding though! Jen Do or do not, there is no try -Yoda

Chris, that does suck, but you are also not alone with it. I was thrown from a horse and trampled several years ago (the day after princess Diana died). I can't do dates any more, always catching myself writing the wrong month, I can't remember time periods as well, like what year my brain injury was. 1998 or 99? I used to be able to bump off a 350+ page novel in an hour and a half and retain it, now I can barely read. As a doctor, it takes forever and a half to get through the journals and keep everything in my head, but I have to do it to be on top of my game. I never could learn by auditory means, so that's out too. Ever since then I've had seizures, controlled by meds now, but I hate taking meds. I have a lot of trouble keeping names straight, often have a hell of a time with my husband's name, every time I want to call him, on the tip of my tongue is my ex's name. Not that I give a damn about my ex or even think of him any more, it was just who I was with at the time of the head injury. Over time, I've learned tricks to compensate for my crappy memory. I'm the queen of post-its, I have a notebook for the express purpose of reminding myself of everything I know I'll forget, and for the most part it works. It scares me how I feel so different now, my whole thinking is different. I can't really put my finger on how, it's just off a little bit. But good came out of it, I look at life completely differently now, and really enjoy every moment. I'm far happier because I appreciate all that I do have much more. Hell, it even made me try skydiving because I don't want to get old and say 'I wish...' on all the things I'd dreamed of doing. Hang in there, it does get better, the brain's an amazing organ. If you ever need to chat with someone feel free to contact me. I'm not scary. Much. Jen Do or do not, there is no try -Yoda

I agree with the other posters that you can't really make gender generalizations. Also different partners are different too. With my ex, maybe 1-2 times a month it happened, there just wasn't much chemistry when it came to that there (I flew solo FAR more than having sex with him... must be a reason he's an ex, eh?). I have to admit that 2-3 times a week as an average surprises me. It's rare that we have sex less than at least once a day. Often twice on weekends. I can't say that either of us is more horny than the other. I'm just happy that our not so horny days are generally the same, so neither is ever frustrated! Jen Do or do not, there is no try -Yoda

Naaah, frustration is having done your first AFF jump last weekend, getting soundly hooked, and knowing that thunderstorms are pummeling us all weekend, but being at work with a sunny sky overhead and not able to leave to take advantage of it while it's here. I guess I'll just have to distract myself this weekend with sex. Lots of sex. Hope my husband's up for it. Jen Do or do not, there is no try -Yoda

Did any of you see the movie Secondhand Lions? Now THAT would be a cool way to go. Really old, flying a biwing plane that I built myself, playing in the sky, then try barnstorming only to find myself instantly killed, having a grand old time, as my plane gets lodged in the barn. Chad and I already decided we're going to be cranky old eccentric men like them. Woman in my case I guess, but close enough. Jen Do or do not, there is no try -Yoda

My husband and I already decided that we are going to die of simultanious spontanious human combustion. Fairly quick and neither of us has to deal with life without the other. I'm not sure that either of us could be whole again without the other one around. Jen Do or do not, there is no try -Yoda

Now this I can understand, man vs. nature and all that. If the goal is strength, kicking the bar's ass, I can grasp that too. It's the guys who want the body and the body's look is the primary goal, that's what I don't get. Oh, I'm still waiting for Rubenesque women to be the ideal too ;-) Jen Do or do not, there is no try -Yoda

Everyone has issues, whether crappy parents or something else. If my parents weren't abusive, if I wasn't molested by my mother and beaten regularly by my both parents, yes, my childhood would have been 'better'. But what effect would that have? I wouldn't be the compassionate person I am now. I wouldn't be planning on adopting foster kids that are 4+ years old and siblings when I'm ready for kids, because I wouldn't have the empathy of knowing what kind of crappy life and mental hurdles those kids have to face. I wouldn't be nearly as independent and feisty and stubborn as I am now. I wouldn't have excelled in school since that was the only thing that gave me some sense of worth at the time, which means I wouldn't be a doctor, making a very real difference in the daily lives of my patients (legally blind/visually impaired). Basically I wouldn't be me any more, and I love living life in my own skin. I hate what I went through, but see it as a double edged sword as most things are. I choose to see the benefits rather than focus on festering in the past. Every tribulation can either beat you down or make you strong, it just depends on how you deal with it. Every past pain can either still control you or make you more sensitive to the humanness of other people. Jen Do or do not, there is no try -Yoda

Try adding 3T of vanilla... yum! Jen Do or do not, there is no try -Yoda

Even the Greek statues didn't have bodies that were THAT defined, every fiber of every muscle bulging hugely through the skin. The proportions may be similar, but the look is not. I also don't understand why an art form 2K+ years ago would define an ideal body type. By that arguement in 2000 years are we supposed to look like a Picasso? I honestly don't understand the motivation. I'm not criticizing the end goal, only trying to figure out why that mental image of perfection? Jen Do or do not, there is no try -Yoda