kbordson

You're not at all. It just feels that way sometimes. It is sometimes hard to see the support because you just FEEL so alone that you can't trust your eyes.

I figured that I received a service. I should pay. Likewise, I hope that my patients are as honorable. Hopefully my office billing will never be as messed up. But... part of the problem here is people not taking responsibility for their debts and trying to get out of bills... which is why we have billing departements and collection services.

I thought about you yesterday. I'm not going to begin to assume that I know the pain that you're feeling, the lonliness and sorrow. Just know that you're thought of often. I hope that you're getting the support that you need to "recover" from this loss. Your heart might never fully mend... but hopefully time eases the pain. k.

Well. How was I supposed to answer that?! Medically? It would depend on HLA typing and compatibility. Or reality? Dicha think that I wouldn't WANT my friends to die if I needed a heart? What kind of heart would I have now if I killed off all my friends? And he just said I was cool... which is kinda .... your offer (although correct in the form of a question) was A HELLOVA lot more difficult to answer.

OK. And given that statement, it would be somewhat ridiculous to make the proviso "If you can ensure that no-one in your short-skirt wearing society gets hurt, then go for it", wouldn't it? What exactly are you trying to rationalize? Are you looking for a "reason" that it's ok to be promiscious for some personal level? I don't understand your analogies that "if it's not ok to be promiscious, then it's the fault of the rape victim." I initially pointed out the reasons why it would be better for society not to have a highly promiscious population. Not making judgemental statements about whether it was moral or not. You seem to be the one trying to justify.

OK. Is the lust that leads to rape the fault of the chick in the short skirt? Still sounds bad, doesn't it? No. She might inspire emotions. But she did not CAUSE actions. That connection was within him. And that was NOT what I was inferring. Excuse me? A type of behaviour should be considered permissable if and only if no-one will ever get hurt, even as an unintended side effect? What the hell are we going to have left?! My initial comment was that promiscious behaviours tend to lead to hurt. There is a high likelihood that someone will get jealous and angry. If he and she are completely in agreement that it's an open rel'nship and that there will be no drama... that's different. But, moral codes are agreed upon because people can't do that well.

So you equate promiscuity with cheating? Not saying that at all. Even if it's not a committed relationship, people get possessive. People feel hurt. Hurt feelings can lead to inappropriate actions. Is rape the fault of the chick in the short skirt? I am ABSOLUTELY NOT saying that. DO NOT PUT THOSE WORDS IN MY MOUTH. Actions are the fault of the one doing the act, but the emotions come from somewhere. Betrayal can lead to anger and rage. Maturity and communication help resolve those problems... but not everybody has maturity or an open communication. If you can ensure that in your promiscious society that no one gets hurt.... go for it. But in reality that doesn't occur often.

Whether promiscuity is or isn't immoral, it does cause problems for the society, including increased transference of sexually transmitted infections (even with condom use). In my clinic, I often test for gonorrhea, chlamydia, syphilis, Hep B and C, HIV, HPV and occasionally herpes simplex 2. That's eight diseases that are transfered primarily by sexual contact. Decrease promiscuity, decrease those diseases. The other effect of promiscuity is jealousy. Right or wrong, people get possessive of his/her significant other. When it is learned that one has been betrayed, the other can become violent. Is that rage the fault of the one being promiscious or the one being violent? But having society rules limiting that situation just makes it easier for everyone to play nice.

Thank you. (but you know... you should phrase your questions in the form of a QUESTION. )

The system sucks. I was trying to find a letter that I wrote to KU back in 2005 when I had a slight problem with endocarditis. Billing REALLY screwed up. Luckily, I knew enough to track it and pursue them to pay the bills.... but it could have been really bad. I got the bills from the physician group, the radiology department and the cardiology group... but never from the hospital itself. I gave them three months and then went down to billing myself. They had the wrong address... and blamed it on me. I corrected the address and then pointed out that the other bills made it through. "Submit it to insurance, then bill me and I will pay." Next month went by... went down again and they SOMEHOW had the wrong address AGAIN. Corrected that a second time. "Once it clears insurance and you bill me and I will pay." Next month I went down and heard: "we sent it to collections." WHAT! "Well. We didn't have a valid address...." I then went to the top of the department (and probably should have gone to the hospital administrator). VERY pointed letter about how I was treated - Specifically stating dates, and names of my attempts to correct the problems... and my concerns regarding my patients that might be seen at that hospital - mentioning that most of my patients are NOT physicians and do NOT know the whole billing situation and many do NOT speak English. If I had that much problem, what can my patients expect. Hopefully corrections were made in customer relations in the billing department.... but sadly.... I doubt it.

I went to watch the industrial fire that was started in one of the gasoline holding tanks by the lightening. WAY COOL!!!! (well... kinda hot being a fire and all...) I was watching from about 2.9 miles on a hill so not disturbing the fire fighters... but still cool to watch with the binocs. 1.17million gallons of gas!!!! (about 78,266 tanks of gas) now *poof* gone. I love watching nature!

Thank you for taking the time to further clarify and respond with (a little) less blame and accusation. Your comments in that last post seem sincere and helpful. (spell checked or not ) I really was just quite annoyed by what seemed like them trying to manipulate me. And even your explanation has multiple "can" and "could"s .... so what truly cause the bearing is unknown and likely irrelevant. You are incorrect, though, in the assumption thought that I was mad because I expect it to be free. I don't honestly worry about money all that much.... I was mad because I felt that I was being scammed and treated without respect for my intelligence. I have had other problems with this dealership. The trust here is long since gone. At one point, I even went up to Wisconsin to a dealership in Madison that I do trust to get advice and then ultimately bought a vehicle from ones that I trusted. My husband and I had talked about the service department here in Kansas City prior to buying this vehicle and we decided to give them the benefit of the doubt.... So I was jaded to begin with.... and it didn't help to have my concern about a noise brushed off.... then to have them respond differently to him. Bottom line, It's not that hard to treat women at the service department.... just give them the same respect that you give the men.

Are you sure you're not gay nor married? Wasn't there a weekend in Vegas... with some he/she misadventure? And ... if there isn't a rumor out there about you being "good", why don't you start one?

Oh, trust me, Dear Remi. I KNOW my place. My place is whereever I want it to be. And that location might change .... good thing I'm good with land navagation and have lots of toys to get me to my place.

[eye batting and stupid cow eyes]I'm just a silly girl... but don't they rotate when you drive? And I'm sure some smart man will tell me when I'm wrong. [head cocked to the side with vacant look]

"Cervix" in latin means "neck" (or "boldness"). The cervix is considered the "neck" of the uterus.... so that's why. Either that or you have a rather bold opening to the uterus. -we often joked in med school about needing are cervicals massaged.

Congratulations, Nurse!! (so... did you get one of those silly hats?)

I have to agree too. He made some very valid points. But.... encouraging the media will be a VERY difficult task. You are proposing a moral censorship of the press .... But we can't fully blame them. The stations are just showing what "we want" (ie what sells). So telling them don't focus on Paris Hilton even though her notoriety pays the bills for them won't work. "Everybody" feels better about themselves when they see her scandals.... "see, I'm not THAT bad." or "maybe having all that money wouldn't be so good." The Lifetime channel (which does focus on happiness and good deeds of others) doesn't really sell to anyone but those that need a good cry. To change "society" - we need to change the "Person." And since we can't make others change without fear or manipulation... we must each just change ourselves. And hope that others do the same. But.... that assumes quite a bit of trust in others. Does religion need to play a part? I don't believe so. I was raised Catholic. Even did the whole Catholic school thing until high school.... I saw just as much lying, cheating and vicious behaviour at St. Dennis as I saw in the public school at East. It's just that at St. Dennis, you prayed for forgiveness and *poof* you were rightous again. That does NOT encourage one to lead a moral life.

You know... you're so right. Thank you for pointing out my problems. You are so smart. I'll just go sit over in the corner and let you spend all of my money cuz I don't need to worry my poor lil head about such manly things as cars. But.... um. didn't you say at first that it was because I didn't get my tires aligned that the tires are bad and that was making the noise.... and now you're saying that the bearings (which again you're saying is all my fault) is why the tires are bad. This is all so confusing for us women. I'm going to go and cook now. -Few things piss me off more than a sexist attitude. - and although you MIGHT not have meant to come off as sexist. After dealing with them here and then hearing you defend their action and further telling me to "just think about it"... well thinking about it isn't helpin.

Exactly. [male voice might make him listen]

The fact that he acknowledged "yes there's a noise" but was more interested in selling me new tires instead of actually finding the problem and not putting it up on a rack until a male voice told him to. It's the sexism that really pissed me off. Just cuz I don't have a dick some people think they can get away with doing substandard work because the lil girl won't figure it out. She won't worry her sweet lil curls about the real problem.... lets just spend her money. You mean BESIDES that?

Cool bike! Is it comfortable for long distances though?

It was actually the bearings ... which has nothing to do with the fact that I was 2.5k miles behind on my tire rotation. IF he had done his job before calling me and trying to get me to buy new tires for a new(ish) car. He was just trying to get me to spend money instead of fix the actual problem. Had to get the husband to talk to the dealer to get them to actually figure out where the noise was. Edit to add: To me it was just a lazy dealership trying to make money instead of honoring the warranty that comes with the vehicle. Just my opinion which obviously means nothing to you. nor, I'm guessing do the opinions of your customers.

so... lets go riding sometime!! Want to meet in the middle?