Bigwallmaster

ha ha ha!! I'll take that into consideration.

I was recently cheated on by a girl I loved. I'm 27 and this is the first time I have gone through this. Needless to say I am just crushed. any suggestions for "curing blues"? Bigwall Ps. I don't want to hear "banging a whole bunch of chicks and drinking like a fish". I've tried that already.

Thank you!!!! I am so glad that you posted this Dagny. I really appreciate that someone out there feels the same as I do regarding this issue and I really hope everyone pays particular attention to this post cause Dagny is so right on with this. I know we have all heard stories over the years, but now I am living this whole experience and I just feel like I have to tell you guys about it in support of the good advice Dagny gives here. I have recently been cheated on and completely mislead by someone that I was crazy about. I had been with this person a little over a year (I know you are saying "A year?? C'mon!") But either way it still hurts. I can honestly say that this has been and is the most difficult thing I have ever dealt with up until now. I can't imagine how it must feel after you have been with someone for multiple years. I have no shame in admitting that I am a 27 yr. old male who is looking to meet "that girl" who has similar interests as I, to start a family and live happily ever after and all that. And I was convinced that I had finally found the right match for me in my ex-girlfriend. I was obviously wrong. The reason I so strongly support the comments Dagny has made here, is due to the fact that I am currently living proof of the harsh emotional impacts that she refers to. Finding out that the person I loved was having sex with someone else, and very cold heartedly putting my health and mental well being in jeopardy has created serious depression and anxiety in my life. This whole thing has created what seems like unbearable grief for me at times. It has not only made me so afraid to try and meet someone else, but has also created alot self-doubt for me. And it shouldn't because I know I am a good guy who has alot of positive things to offer this world. The worst thing about cheating is that it breeds negative, irrational thinking. Even though I know this isn't the right way to think of women, there have been times thru this whole thing when I have characterized all women as being like the same cold- hearted beings as my ex. I know that's not right, and I am working on it. But I can't help but feel as if this won't happen to me again. And it's this train of thought that creates all these illogical stereotypical responses we hear about. The only thing I can say is that I so did not deserve any of this. I was always loyal and resectful of my ex. Anyone who knows me can attest to the fact that I thought the world of this girl and would never do anything to hurt her. The fact of the matter is (Just as Dagny touched on!!!) that if she would have just been honest with me and told me that she just couldn't give me what I was looking for, it would have been better. Instead she almost methodically tried to keep me on the "back burner" while she did these things. It's just horrible. And right now I just find myself wondering when I will feel like my same old self again; I am afraid that this down and depressed state that I am in will never go away. I think my experience in a nutshell may summarize some of the reasons Dagny wrote her post. Alright enought sniveling and whining for tonight. . . . . .there's cold beer to go cry in. . . somewhere! Bigwall

oh. . . . . .and what i mean by using a jumar, is that you could clip it into the rope above your rappel device, as means of stopping your descent. bigwallmaster

I agree. Shunt would be better option on this type of rappel. As jon said, one option is to wrap the rope around your thigh a couple of times if you need to hold yourself in a brake position. The problem with this, as he stated, is that many times there might be far too much rope hanging below you to accomplish this. Therefore you might want to consider keeping a "jumar" attached to your harness in the event that you would like to stop the rappel. You could even use this method in addition to having a shunt. Very sorry to hear about this. My condolences. bigwallmaster

sorry guys. I'll keep that in mind for the future. well anyways if you do have info. please e-mail me at my dropzone account. bigwallmaster@dropzone.com

Howdy Partner! Alright guys I know the policy of not specificly identifying jump sites so I'll do my best to be covert. If any of you are from Texas, please PM me. Bigwallmaster "Cold Beer is good for the soul"

All I can say Tom is. . . . . . . .yep! that pretty much sums it up. And I can understand the 40 lbs. I have actually forced myself to stay active in my workouts, but it has been tought since I started jumping. well anyways, we're getting a little off topic. Perhaps a new post about the inter-relationship of BASE and climbing is better discussed in a different. hey thanks again for the insight on packing. . . .i'm sure as I have more time to think and digest what i've read, I will most certainly have more questions. peace, bigwallmaster

In response to your question Spiderbaby, I am a climber. I can honestly say that my climbing career is what got me interested in BASE. I'm certainly not the first in the climbing community to show an interest in BASE. I started skydiving about one year ago exactly, solely for the purpose of honing my skills for BASE. The prospect of climbing of big walls in Baffin and then jumpin' em seems to be a nice form of bliss for me. Thanks for everyone's input out there. These are some great posts and they have pointed out much previously unknown knowledge. My goal is certainly to find an appropriate BASE mentor. Don't know who that is yet. I jump at Perris just about every weekend; I'm sure eventually I will meet some people who are BASE worthy mentors. An FJC is a must for me, and a seemingly perfect first step in becoming acquainted with BASE. thanks again folks. Bigwallmaster

What's up folks. I'm new to this forum, so please don't grill me if these questions have been asked a hundred times before. I have 0 BASE jumps and 200+ skydives. I read this forum and "Blinc" as much as I can, trying to soak up alot more knowledge before committing myself to BASE. I am very interested in BASE, but up to this point the one thing I am most confused about is BASE packing and overall different packing styles. How common is a "pro pack' style of packing in BASE? Or do most BASE jumpers flat pack? It would be cool to get some feedback on what style most of you out there prefer? Cheers, J.P. ------------------------------------------------------------ "I heart the day that I walk into a bar and order a glass of beer and the bartender returns with an icy cold pitcher and I say "I ordered a glass of beer," and he replies "friend, this is the glass!"

I'm fairly new to skydiving (I have around 200 jumps). I came into this sport with a strong interest in BASE, but if the truth is to be spoken, I now have an even stronger interest in learning to swoop. The problem is that short of taking an advanced canopy piloting course, I don't know the first place to begin learning the in's and out's of swooping. I weigh about 200 lbs. out the door, and I fly a Sabre 2 170. At this point I have no desire to really downsize, as I feel that I have much more to learn and experiment with, on the canopy I am currently flying. I would really appreciate any stories, advice, or info. anyone could offer. It would be nice to hear some stories about how some of you really good swoopers got started. Also, could some explain their methodology of initiating a 180 or 270 hook turn. thanks, J.P.