Nightingale

What he said.

Yes. It is a complete pain in the ass. California's is three days long, six hours per day. Most other states are one or two days. California's is supposed to be the worst, but still, I don't want to go through it again, but I may go take the New York bar next year, since they've got reciprocity with a ton of other states.

People who are genuine assholes want a reaction. If they're ignored, they'll go find someone else who is more receptive to their poison. Why would you waste your own energy dealing with someone like that?

The only problem with moving is I'd have to take the damn bar exam again.

Why do you allow it to stay with you for days? You probably have absolutely nothing to do with their behavior, so there is no reason why you should allow it to affect you so much. The vast majority of the time, the way other people behave has absolutely nothing to do with the people they encounter for a few moments a day, and has everything to do with what's going on in their own life and the lens through which they're looking at the world. Maybe that videographer had just been yelled at by his boss. Maybe he has a child in the hospital and really doesn't want to be at work because he's worried sick. Or maybe he's just an asshole. It doesn't really matter. His behavior has nothing to do with you, so brush it off, try to think the best of him, and move on.

Ditto! Of course... we could never get one in California. I need to move.

If he's into math or science, he'll gravitate to a major in that area without parental prodding. If he's not, pushing him into it will just make him miserable, and he'll probably drop out. It's also perfectly okay to go to college "undeclared" and take some general ed requirements to find out what you're into. What you do in college may or may not actually have anything to do with your career. I majored in screenwriting. I'm now a lawyer. One has nothing to do with the other, except the undergrad degree fulfilled a requirement for law school admission, and I learned about the amazing power of the written word. The lady who sat next to me through several law school classes was a dance major. A friend from work is starting medical school this August. She was an English major. In college, you're just picking a subject to study deeply. You don't have to pick your entire life path. Once in college, students must be self-motivated, because parents aren't there to supervise, and it's time to grow up a little. If they're in a major they dislike, that self-motivation is going to be a lot harder to find. The student should get a degree. Any major is okay. That degree will open doors, and if the student decides later on that a math or science field is the right place, he or she can always go back and take some night classes to meet the requirements while working in a decent job during the day and not worrying about how to pay the rent.

I majored in screenwriting. As long as he doesn't want to go into math or science, he can major in pretty much anything. Lots of employers just want you to have a degree, so if he picks something that will hold his interest for four years, he'll be just fine. He's only 13. It's probably too early to be thinking about this, because by the time he's 17/18 and ready to go to college, he's going to be a totally different person. Teenagers grow and change a lot during high school.

Spankings are a sign of lazy parenting. I'm not a parent, but I agree. Whenever I got spanked as a child, it damaged the trust I had in my parents, and took weeks for things to feel right again. However, I preferred that to my mom saying "I'm very disappointed in you!"... that was a hundred times worse than a spanking. When I was spanked as a kid, I learned not to do whatever it was I was doing that caused me to get spanked. I'd say it's pretty effective. ... I just learned not to get caught next time. If mom said she was disappointed and took the time to tell me why, that's when I learned the lesson she wanted me to.

Spankings are a sign of lazy parenting. I'm not a parent, but I agree. Whenever I got spanked as a child, it damaged the trust I had in my parents, and took weeks for things to feel right again. However, I preferred that to my mom saying "I'm very disappointed in you!"... that was a hundred times worse than a spanking.

Treat the situation as a learning opportunity rather than a mistake, and don't put yourself in that situation again.

For some reason I accidentally posted this in the Women's Forum.

Down five more pounds since last check-in. I've been doing agility classes with my dog, which seem to be just as much exercise for me as for him, and eating less junk food on the weekends. It's easy to eat well while I'm at work during the week (I snack on hard candy if I'm desperate for sweets), but it's a lot harder at home, but I've really made an effort to have fresh fruits and veggies, and that's helped a lot. Edit: annoying thing... the new jeans I bought a month ago are now too big and slip down my hips. It seems I have jeans in my closet that are too big or too small, but nothing that's just right. I feel oddly like goldilocks. Can anyone recommend somewhere to shop for jeans that 1) don't cost an arm and a leg and 2) fit women with hips who aren't plus size? I seem to be able to find jeans that are either cheap OR fit right, but not both, and since I'm losing weight, I can't afford a $75 pair of jeans from Express every four weeks just to have a pair that fits!

edit: nevermind. you got them out.

a latex business suit?

Crisco, butter, or sour cream. Capsaicin, the chemical that makes peppers hot, is fat soluable. Water will make it worse, because it just distributes the capsaicin. Wear gloves next time. =) edited because of spelling

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Sure, the neighbor might be currently unfriendly, but an act of kindness and a reasonable offer can go a long way, and friendly neighbors are wonderful things to have.

Personally, in the interest of neighborly harmony, I'd either just eat the $500 deductible, or ask him to go halves.

That's a blast from the past....

Awesome. Get it in WRITING.

Make sure you file a police report.

Looks like he can just go to the USPA website and join online.

I'm usually the one who gets work pushed on to them. I accept the work and do my best to help when my co-worker is in an actual crisis that is not of their own making. I accept the work when my boss asks me to. I do not accept the work when they didn't get their work done because they were on eBay all day. A lack of planning on their part does not equal an emergency on mine.

Apparently there are some FAA and repair issues going on with the jet. I've heard it is not currently operating, but will be at some undetermined point in the future.