I am not sure about your dropzone, but I started my AFF this weekend and all the folks there were very welcoming of my wife and myself. They allowed her to sit through the AFF class with even though she had no interest in jumping out of an airplane. By the time I did my first AFF jump she did a tandem, and absolutely loved it. She loved it so much she came out the next morning with me and did another tandem! I think she might convert, because she is expressing interest in seeing if the tandem instructor will allow her to fly the parachute from opening until it is time for the instructor to land it on her next tandem jump. We were welcomed with open arms by everyone at the dropzone, from the other AFF students to the people with over 3000 jumps to include the instructors and DZO. We had a cookout Saturday night and hung out drinking beer and shooting the breeze late into the night. I think like many have said on here it really depends on your attitude and how you treat others. If you are there to truly learn and don't mind helping out then they will treat you the same way. If you are there with the type of attitude you have portrayed on here then I can see why you were treated the way you were. My wife and I are the NEWBIES and were treated like we had been there for years! This is just my 2 cents and personal experience from this weekend.
Thank you for welcoming me to this amazing sport.