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Don't you just hate it when therapists are right. 1-5 years were the numbers. Helps if you have an minor in psych. Your therapist will love and hate you. Love you because you two can have an adult discussion. They will hate you because well...you know exactly what they are going to ask next and thus there is no "magic" and as such they can't "cure" you of yourself. 5 years to figure out who the hell I am..........I'm 34 now, 4 more years to go. I'll be 38. Just goes to show you the best laid plans. And honestly, sadly, I have no idea what I did wrong. Like I said, one day i was being told I was the best husband ever for making dinner and folding the clothes while she was at night school.....and then next day I'm getting a text message. Thank god for the big blue and the open road and that spring is only a few month away. I miss my friends, and I really miss the big blue. Life through good thoughts, good words, and good deeds is necessary to ensure happiness and to keep chaos at bay. The only thing that falls from the sky is birdshit and fools!

Deisel Thanks mate. As I was telling someone a few weeks back, I wish I had met my x like so many meet their partners.....by accident at some stupid party. Fighting the US embassy and having it all die so fast...it's anti climactic. In a way I wish there were more to the divorce than what it was. In a sick way if the body and the mind do not feel the trauma the injury will never heal. Life through good thoughts, good words, and good deeds is necessary to ensure happiness and to keep chaos at bay. The only thing that falls from the sky is birdshit and fools!

I'm sorry to mess with peoples Zen this early on a Sunday morning. But I'm in a place where I really have no one to ask for advice since none of my friends, thank god, are in my boat or even close to it. Here is a bit of history to help the story line. I met my x wife while I was working in Finland. It was accidental, I wasn't suppose to be at a given spot and she wasn't either and well I guess the universe had plans for us. We dated, I lost my job there and returned to the states, I wanted her to come over but the US embassy wasn't too nappy with her visiting an Iranian and rejected her visa. A few very stressful months and a threat form a Col to shut down the US embassy and one quick expensive flight to Finland to get married and we were together. The long and short of it we had to fight very hard to be with one another. And we were soul mates. We would finish each others sentences and were very close. I worked my ass off to assure that I could be a good husband and encouraged and paid for her education and while she was at school I did the right thing and cleaned the house and took care of the odds and ends to assure the least stress on her. For a lack of a better word, I screwed up. I turned myself into a door mat. My life, my dreams and my view of the world. She was my wife, my friend, my partner in crime and my soul mate. The subsequent divorce happened fast. One weekend her and I are making plans for a quick three day trip to New Orleans and 5 days later I get a text message that she wanted a divorce. That was a year ago. And so here I am, a half dozen dates later, half way through my EMBA......and driving home last night I had this nutty thought.....I had no clue who the hell I was. For those who have gone through this, all my friends are married and have kids, how long did it take you to figure out who the hell you were again? Any good books which can help with this? I greatly appreciate any help. And again sorry for bring a downer on a Sunday morning. Shah Life through good thoughts, good words, and good deeds is necessary to ensure happiness and to keep chaos at bay. The only thing that falls from the sky is birdshit and fools!

Post photos of your last vacation to the beach so that we can determine if we are "allowed" to forgive Life through good thoughts, good words, and good deeds is necessary to ensure happiness and to keep chaos at bay. The only thing that falls from the sky is birdshit and fools!

I have a thing for dirty martinis.....i know not very "COOL" but it works. Life through good thoughts, good words, and good deeds is necessary to ensure happiness and to keep chaos at bay. The only thing that falls from the sky is birdshit and fools!

Ahh, hope springs anew in all the males across DZ.com land. Gotz to have hope! Life through good thoughts, good words, and good deeds is necessary to ensure happiness and to keep chaos at bay. The only thing that falls from the sky is birdshit and fools!

Frack the feminists! Not my fault the genetic lottery made it so that they could never pull off a proper two piece bathing suit! We need to fight the power! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8PaoLy7PHwk Brothers! WE NEED TO GET BACK TO THE COOL! We need to get our pack back! All those who kiss ass in hopes of getting laid will be shot or worse given horrible nick names such as Bobby Skinny Jeans! DRINKING COFFEE BLACK? YES! EATING RED MEAT? YES!!! TELLING THAT WHALE OF A WOMAN IN HR TO GO POUND SALT WHEN SHE GIVES US SHIT ABOUT HITTING ON THE NEW CUTE GIRL? HELLLLLL YYYYYEEEEAAAAAHHHH!!!! Opening doors for the ladies, ironing our shirts, only drinking cocktails that contain no more than 3 ingredients of which one of these ingredients is ice? YES! WHO IS WITH ME!

What did you people do to my beautiful thread! Life through good thoughts, good words, and good deeds is necessary to ensure happiness and to keep chaos at bay. The only thing that falls from the sky is birdshit and fools!

That I can't argue about. We do tend to frump rather quickly. Life through good thoughts, good words, and good deeds is necessary to ensure happiness and to keep chaos at bay. The only thing that falls from the sky is birdshit and fools!

Please! I'm dead sexy! The test I took in last months Cosmo clearly indicated that!

I remember when I was on my way to Finland for the first time. All I knew about the country were the few hot MILF's that the company had brought over to the US. So I transfer off of a Continental flight in the UK on to a Finair flight and

Is he nicknamed after a certain former Iranian dictator? Just a guess. Nah I'm a dog! I don't care what she has on as long as she looks good out of them!

So you are saying there is a chance! http://static.businessinsider.com/image/4a9bb478efce6f7e057f14cb/dumbanddumberjpg.jpg Life through good thoughts, good words, and good deeds is necessary to ensure happiness and to keep chaos at bay. The only thing that falls from the sky is birdshit and fools!

Have you seen my forehead? It's so big it's a fivehead! I think I got this Karma thing under control! No back to the hot stews! http://i.dailymail.co.uk/i/pix/2008/04/28/article-1017076-025BEB800000044D-788_233x423_popup.jpg http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3607/3615841810_55e1f45028.jpg http://inlinethumb25.webshots.com/30744/2368142990100994422S600x600Q85.jpg you have to love the leather gloves....SEXY!

Guys let us not go into the deep end shall we? OK LADIES!

Here is an example. I was dating this GORGEOUS Hungarian girl, green eyes, red hair, amazing legs....porno quality sex. Long story short she was a little nutty. She did not believe in American medication and thus had her family from Hungary sending her the usual stuff you and I take for granted. Was it messed up? SURE! Did I forgive her? YOU BET YOUR ASS I DID! Why? What part of gorgeous with porno quality sex don't you get?

http://askroccoblog.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/06/fat-flight-attendant-300x289.jpg of http://www.mynetbizz.com/pages/airlines/pinnacle-airlines/pinnacle-airlines-flight-attendant.jpg still a little scared http://img.timeinc.net/time/photoessays/2009/barbie/barbie_06.jpg frack you barbie! You are the reason...........inset rant about body image here..... http://sarcasticbite.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/06/american-flight-attendant.jpg

Oh yeah there is a girl back there! I think that's a girl? But there is nothing more soul crushing than when flying international and watching all these gorgeous well dressed women from all the other carriers walk around to and from their gates and then to be rudely surprised by Bea Arthur throwing you broken drywall in a bag and pouring you 24 hour old second hand twice fermented coffee and asking if you wanted to drop $10 for a half empty can of Bud! http://ie.askmen.com/top_10/travel/top-10-hot-stewardess-airlines_10.html You know with all these top fashion designers in the US, you would think the airlines would contract one to maybe develop a more "professional" uniform that is a little less angry pissed off nurse and more fun! I mean, even the worst dressed people in the world, the Finns do a better job in uniforms than say American. http://cache1.asset-cache.net/xc/82837178.jpg?v=1&c=IWSAsset&k=2&d=77BFBA49EF8789215ABF3343C02EA5487B3AC35CF5C4EFE1955C363187259909A16BC030A3BADABCE30A760B0D811297 Life through good thoughts, good words, and good deeds is necessary to ensure happiness and to keep chaos at bay. The only thing that falls from the sky is birdshit and fools!

stews is short for stewardesses As in "that's one sexy stew!" Life through good thoughts, good words, and good deeds is necessary to ensure happiness and to keep chaos at bay. The only thing that falls from the sky is birdshit and fools!

Ever seen strippers in Iowa! Trust me you don't! It's a sad day when you have to pay her to get off of you because she is crushing you! Life through good thoughts, good words, and good deeds is necessary to ensure happiness and to keep chaos at bay. The only thing that falls from the sky is birdshit and fools!

4 beers into waiting for a flight in China the we guys had a talk. We know full well women can be a bit.....how shall i put it...catty? And well seeing the bevy of gorgeous Asian and European Stews walking around we couldn't help but wonder what happens in private? Do these gorgeous ladies of the sky look at all the "flight attendants" from US carriers and just giggle and scream out "MMMMMMMMMOOOOOOOOOO!!!" and "So where is your walker!" It's really a sad state of affairs! We need to fix this! Screw global warming and all that crap! We need good looking ladies under the age of 60 on aircraft! For those old enough to remember how much fun flying use to be! http://momgrind.com/2008/06/10/almost-wordless-wednesday-the-glamour-of-air-travel/ “According to a spokesman at Southwest Airlines of Texas in 1973, when stewardesses were interviewed for jobs, he started with their legs and worked up to their faces.” I should have been born in the 60's! If I were to say that now....well how fast do you think I would get a dozen nasty grams? Life through good thoughts, good words, and good deeds is necessary to ensure happiness and to keep chaos at bay. The only thing that falls from the sky is birdshit and fools!

So on a flight less than 6 months ago, while eating what best could be described as pieces of dry wall trying to pass for pretzels and trying to wonder if the guy next to me was going to explode into my seat and if the kid behind me was practicing tap dancing on the back of my seat while being possessed by some sort of daemon it suddenly hit me....a cubic yard of led weight from the overhead bin...and then I realized something. 1) The average age of the average stew is about 50, in fact the one that removed the offending bag of over weight granny panties was herself pushing a bottle oxygen. 2) In case there is an issue I may have to save her as well as my self! 3) Remember the good old days? WHAT THE HELL EVER HAPPENED TO THOSE! Did the fat bastard next to me eat them? 4) Why can't flying be more like this! http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=Hbib-A6NpW8 And I assure you if she http://msnbcmedia3.msn.com/j/MSNBC/Components/Photo/_new/110124-emirates-hmed.grid-8x2.jpg asked me to kindly stop utilizing screaming banshee sitting behind me as a hammer to pry open the door so I could escape and save myself....I think I would. Life through good thoughts, good words, and good deeds is necessary to ensure happiness and to keep chaos at bay. The only thing that falls from the sky is birdshit and fools!

Shah as a kid I wish brother, I was much worse. My nose grew in first, then I wore rather ugly glasses then well.....let's put it this way. Looking at old photos of myself is a two prozac event! Life through good thoughts, good words, and good deeds is necessary to ensure happiness and to keep chaos at bay. The only thing that falls from the sky is birdshit and fools!

You know it's funny. I'm not good looking, well I don't think I'm good looking. Growing up I was one very goofy looking kid and I don't think I have gotten any better as an adult. Dating was all a game for me, I thought I lacked looks and had to use being funny or smart to get dates. And in a way that's how I met and married my X wife. I never thought I was ever good enough for her. I did my best to dress well and eat well and work out so that she would stay interested in me. Not a good way to live. But her and I split and now that I'm dating....I have to admit I really do feel uncomfortable when a girl says she finds me attractive. I brush it off with some smart ass joke. Now am I messed up? Well.....stepping back and looking at myself and my behavior I would have to say yes. I have no idea how to take a compliment about my appearance. So maybe in a way, we are all just a little messed up. Those of us who got all the attention in the world due to our looks or in some cases being the only viable partner in a large group, think the only good looking single girl at the DZ. Or those of us who never thought we were good looking trying to be more.....who for god knows what reason are now OK looking...maybe in a way we are all a little messed up. Strange world hu? Life through good thoughts, good words, and good deeds is necessary to ensure happiness and to keep chaos at bay. The only thing that falls from the sky is birdshit and fools!

Get better quick! Oh and don't forget to tip your doctor!