I asked a similar question not too long ago. The above quote is the kind of reply I was hoping to get.
Gender seems to make a big difference!
My best advise....stop reading now! The best and most sincere advise will come to you in private messages. These folks have seen or experienced it all. They love this sport, share your enthusiasum, and wish you and your family the best.
I share your delema, give all my love & time to my family, then hall ass 4 or 5 states away just so I can jump for a day. Crazy we are !