I wanted to share something that has done me tons of good recently when it
comes to stress management.
All this garbage with fighting for custody of my son has had me a little on
the stressed side.
I think I had actually conditioned myself to be scared of the circumstance
of having to deal with her "My Ex and her little mind games".. Even on drop
offs I had that sick feeling in my stomach.. It got to the point where I
felt like I was in a downward spiral into depression and I had no idea what
to do? I was miserable for no reason at all.. There is no reason that my ex
should bother me in the slightest.
So, considering going on antidepressants for the first time in my life I
decided to take a closer look at myself. I am a definite fan of psychology.
I started reading a few different books. I wanted to know if this feeling I
was having could be fixed without medication? I DID NOT want to go on
antidepressants of any sort.
The first thing I started doing is when I felt that anxiety coming on
"normally at work for no reason" I would close my eyes.. Take slow deep
breaths and concentrate on that sick feeling that I was having in the pit of
my stomach coming out with every breath. After a couple of minutes I was
feeling fine.. I started doing this a few times a day every day every time I
felt anxiety coming on.. It was working!! I didn't know or understand why
this breathing technique was working until I read something in the book
EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE.
This is what I read..
Patients also may learn relaxation techniques that give them the ability to
counter their edginess and nervousness. A physiological calm opens a window
for helping the brutalized emotional circuitry rediscover that life is not a
threat and for giving back to patients some of the sense of security they
had in their lives before the trauma happened.
I don't normally share something so personal about myself but people need
this information. After I read that piece of the book I felt a HUGE weight
come off of my shoulders. I now understood that I could undo what was
causing me trauma on a constant basis..
Anxiety and stress before the breathing technique and book was 9-10 on a
scale of 1 to 10.
After the breathing technique and reading that portion of the book.. I might
get to a 1 or a 2 before I quickly get it under control telling myself that
everything is fine.. Relax.. I replace the "WHAT IF" in my head with "SO
WHAT!"...
I hope this helps someone...... You see, I was living in the past, worrying
about things I have no control over. Now I am living for the future and my
ex and her garbage doesn't bother me in the slightest.
To Ex and friends... If you are reading this.. Nothing you do bothers me,
you will never break up my family, you are like an itch in the crack of my
ass that I scratch when I need to, I will keep walking and itch you when I have to..
Have a great day..
Rhino
