Do You Sabotage Relationships?
I figured I’d take a poll on this subject to find out if I were the only one. This is a question for guys and girls. I’m really interested to find out what others think or have gone through.
I’ve been hanging out with this guy for the last couple of weeks and I really enjoy the time we spend together. Although, sometimes I feel like he may not be as into the time as I am or he thinks that I’m really not into the time. I’ve tried not to think about it too much because I didn’t want to start brooding paranoia (And you know paranoia can destroy ya).
Anyway, in my own weird ways, I’ve tried to let him know that I really enjoyed hanging out with him. I have to admit, that I have a really hard time telling guys I like what’s on my mind. I guess I’m a little scared that too much emotional information is going to push them away but then my awkward silence seems to be just as much of a relationship killer because I’ll start to say something and then back off. I guess this can drive a guy or anyone crazy.
I spoke to a friend yesterday about what I’ve been going through and he told me that I was sabotaging the possibility of something happening with the guy. Instead of me just being me (the girl that the guy asked out), I’m putting too much thought into the possibilities and doubting the fact that this guy could’ve like me for me and now I’ve probably run him off. And the thing that really sucks is I think he may be totally right. I know that in the past I’ve told myself that I would never let myself get all wrapped up over someone because I didn’t want to deal with any emotional scarring if it didn’t work out. I guess that past train of thinking may still be in the back of my mind and I am sabotaging a relationship unknowingly by analyzing it too much. Who knows? I just hope that the guy let’s me know what he is really thinking if I am being a saboteur.
What have some of your experiences been with situations like this? Is the relationship sabotage curable or am I destined to spend my life trying to deflect heartache?
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