...hey Jeji, mind if I leap in from left field?... to thine own self be true, babe... something's going to take you from your kids some day, the difference will be how they remember you. As the formative influence in their lives, would you prefer them to be inspired by a confidant woman who chose to do what she loved, or for them to remeber you as an abject lesson of submission? ...perhaps a little strong for my first foray into this forum, but as has been intimated already, do you think fear of losing you (by death) is the only fear praying on your partners mind? To resolve it, he needs to be incorporated into the whole environment in some way. It's only by osmosis - watching the way you conduct yourself (both in the air AND in your socialising) that he may overcome his insecurities... of course, that's only my read on it...
