Openingup1

I knew you were sincere.

Maybe it's not about her with another guy. Maybe it's about seeing her during sex in a third person view. Maybe a voyuer thing. Do you think it would be the same if you watched her masturbating "unknown of your presence" if it would satisfy the same for you? If this is the case, I wouldn't worry about it. If not this, a doc may be able to help you out. May not be what you fear. It wouldnt be the same if it was just her. I wish it was though.

Thanks. I do love the sky family though!

Nope. 25, married, and a regular jumper

Just googled/wikied that... Wow. I never new that was a fetish! That just adds to my foot fetish.

No, this isnt funks.... Unfortunately, all above is true.

You crack me up old freind!

The venting did help.

Thats why I dont want to tell her. I know it will only burdern, hurt, and concern her. But Like I said, Its been a fantasy for a long time. I just hate that I have it.

Trust me on these two facts. 1. Niether of us would want the fantasy to come true. I know it would break my heart.. Because thinking about it after the "release", I hate it... Its only when im charged. 2. It would turn into a serious fight in which I dont want to know what she would say. She wouldnt be very understanding of that... And I completely understand.

" What is it about imagining other men in your place that turns you on" - I have no idea. It just has. I dont know if its due to my insecurites about myself and wanting someone else to preform better than me... I am lost on it. I dont know if its a control thing, because in my mind im in control of who gets to be with her and who doesnt... "what about that shames you think about it after? " Because I know its wrong. In my heart I know its not right. I shouldnt think about my WIFE with other men...

Thanks.. I just dont know what to do. And I cant tell her.. Because she will be disgusted. This has plagued me since... puberty??? I have tried blocking the thoughts, and will continue that venue... I just needed to let it out. Thanks

ok... So I have finally come to my cracking point. I need to open up and talk about some stuff. And who better with than my Sky family. I hope you can understand the secretness... I need to know if there is something wrong with me.... I had a dream last night about my wife with another guy. It was a guy that I knew from a long time ago. But I didnt get upset with it. I was actually happy and getting excited (sexually) in the dream. But this isnt just a dream... That dream just put me over the edge. I hate this! Because I know its true. I have had fantasies about my wife with other men. I know its wrong and disgusting. I hate it more than I could ever let anyone know and it literally tears me up inside that something like that could excite me. But its not just with my wife. Before her, I would think the same thing about my girlfreinds. During sex I would think of another guy I know there doing it, not me. (not always the same one) And it made me go faster.... But here is the toss up. Just as much as it excites me when we are in the moment or I am charged... When I am not it hurts me to think about her with her exes. When we talk about her past sex life it tears me up inside to think about her with someone else. It breaks my heart, but I would never let her know... I just cant take this anymore. I dont know why I have these thoughts. I have kept them hidden for so long, but that dream last night just pushed me over the edge. I had to tell SOMEONE!!! help...