And then mentions that he still has hope that the rest of his family will make different choices, even if he doesn't. I agree.
I was not trying to imply that you are like this, or suggest what your life experience is, merely that there conservatives and liberals have different views on how families work.
Yep.
But let's take a more realistic scenario. Let's say your son was born with a minor birth defect. Nothing big, just something he gets made fun of for occasionally. But he does take it quite personally. And when he's 5 he cries constantly about it. And when he's 10 he tries to kill himself for the first time. At age 11 he almost succeeds.
I have a feeling you would try to get him help, perhaps see a psychiatrist. And if the psychiatrist told you that he'd worked a lot of these cases before, and plastic surgery had been successful in other such cases when nothing else worked, I bet you'd even consider it.
Not because you are OK with him "cutting off his face" (or whatever colorful adjective you wanted to use for the plastic surgery.) Not because you "respect his independence." Not because you want to let the surgeon abuse him. Not because you think that people with birth defects are inferior. But because you love him and you don't want to see him kill himself, or live a lifetime of self-loathing and misery.