Bill is dead right; the legal definition of gender, where it matters, is not necessarily the same as the biological
I had a friend who was born intersex (both sets). Her parents decided they wanted a boy, so that’s what the surgery left behind. But she said she never, ever, felt like a man, even back when that was ridiculous and unacceptable. So to make herself into one, she joined the army and became a Ranger. Career, decorated, invalided in the long run because of battle-incurred injuries and agent orange.
She sired children. After going back to school for a master’s and teaching college a few years, she couldn’t take it, and went for transition surgery. A lifetime of living honestly as a man wasn’t enough. Enough testosterone to sire children wasn’t enough. Because her birth certificate had the word “intersex” on it, the Army paid for her transition surgery.
Her status is why the legal question is different from the biological one. And there are plenty like her. Not all intersex, but all just knowing something is wrong.
How dare you assume you understand her situation in ways she doesn’t. I doubt she would judge your decision to remain male
Wendy P.