Being depressed and wanting to jump

[Skylark 0]

For the past 2 years I was not in a relationship and as a consequence became very lonely and depressed. I decided to skydive, passed AFF, and signed up for more jumps in Sebastian, starting in a few months time.

However, I've since met a wonderful partner and we've become very close. I'm subsequently a lot happier in life, with a more positive outlook. Yet for some reason, I'm now no longer interested in jumping.

Have I lost interest simply because my time and thoughts are now taken up with my new girlfriend? Or is it because it's human instinct to survive and pro-create and my instincts are telling me it's 'wrong' to jump since I now have someone else in my life?

Or is the reason because I only started jumping in the first place because I was depressed and lonely and needed something intense, dangerous and attention-seeking to offset those feelings?

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[Skystorm 0]

Good question.

Can't really help you out tho. When I get depressed for whatever reason, I want to jump. Just to clear out my head.
When I started jumping (again), I was single, met my current b/f who is also a skydiver. Never had the urge to NOT jump.

Anyone got a good answer to this question?

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[grega 0]

Well there is a lot of people on this planet and only a few are skydivers. That means that skydiving is not for everybody....
i don't know about you, but for me if i had to choose between sex, love, or skydiving i honestly don't know what i'd choose

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[scottbre 0]

Might just be that some people are wired to be deeply truly passionate about only one thing. So if that thing happens to be a relationship, then the skydiving gets relegated to the area of less important things.

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[JohanW 0]

Does it matter?

If you're happy with your partner and without skydiving, be happy that way. Less chance of skydiving breaking up another relationship, too.

I couldn't imagine not wanting to jump because of being in a relationship (I could quite imagine wanting to skydive with my hypothetical partner), but hey, man may be the measure of all things, I am not the measure of all men.

Johan.
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[Unutsch 0]

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If you're happy with your partner and without skydiving, be happy that way. Less chance of skydiving breaking up another relationship, too.

listen to the man
anyway, do what you think is best for you, and what ever you do, you'll do the right thing
but for me, there's no thing that would turn me away from skydiving at the moment, not even a girl, i love it toooo mcuh (i even made up a line to say to a girl (when i'll have on ) who won't agree with me skydiving: darling, i've been doing this long before we met, and it became a part of me, no no, this is me, and if you take skydivin away from me, this won't be me as you know anymore...

wow, i have an idea, let's start a thread about such lines, ei?

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[dex 0]

If you don't have the desire to jump don't jump. Having passed aff you know what it is like to jump.... There is no point to skydiving if it doesn't fill a need for you.. Just like driving skydiving involves risk... if ya don't need to go anywhere don't drive... and if you don't want to jump don't... Skydiving will be there for you if you change your mind.

[jumperconway 0]

I've seen this happen more to women than men. Difference being that a lot of the time I think the women started skydiving looking to meet men. When they started dating they no longer felt the need to jump. All in all, if you're ok with not jumping, that's fine, we're not brain surgeons here
just mostly jumpers with a passion to fly. If you decide later to return, chances are the sky will still be there! What are her feelings about you jumping?
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[Genn 0]

I wouldn't get too worked up over your 'not wanting to jump' feeling. IMO, the bug to jump comes in cycles. If you get the feeling back...jump...if not....don't jump!
The next thought is:

Shut Up and Jump! Then see how you feel.

[boudy 0]

My first static line on a T-10 was 5/30/1980 - went out eyes closed & head down.
My back healed enough in 3 weeks to do a second static line. Went perfectly - JM & pilot said I'd be skydiving in no time.
Took a $5 demo ride the next week in a really small plane to try to shake the vertigo accompanying the view from 3000 feet - scared me absolutely silly - the thought of jumping from 10,000 ft seemed insane to me - go figure

Did other stuff for a while

Took a tandem ride when things with GF (who I thought I'd marry) started downhill - June 2001
1st AFF - late August 2001 (upon final break w GF) - was only going to do one AFF jump to get video of me pulling & landing my own chute
Bought my first rig 11/2002.


God's Speed, Romeo. If your romantic instincts have been lured away from the adrenaline rush of this extreme and risky experience by the charm of your lovely companion - let it be, imho. Why cloud the passion guiding your spirit now with doubts and second guessing about past or passing emotions?

I've found Skydiving to be like a fascinating tantalizing mistress who treats disrespect harshly but patiently forgives one's other loves and will reward beyond words the passion you deliver her. She'll be there waiting if and when you need her, but you should not see her unless you are able to devote your undivided attention while with her. Until then, I 'd say don't worry - be