CantJumpYetSNG 0 #1 August 7, 2003 Ok, I'm 16 and I can't jump yet but my dad does. He loves it. It gives him time to be himself and relieve stress. The problem is that he and my mom don't agree on it. You see she is very well educated about the sport, she even worked in the office of the drop zone dad and i go to. My father is so upset about some of the things she says about him and how he has been since he started jumping. Has anyone else been in a situation like this? Do you have any advice for him or even me? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
aero04 0 #2 August 7, 2003 Check this out. It might help you out. edited upon request Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BlueEyedMonster 0 #3 August 7, 2003 QuoteMy guess is she doesn't know anything about the sport..... Dude, read the post you are replying to.QuoteYou see she is very well educated about the sport, she even worked in the office of the drop zone dad and i go to. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ladyskydiver 0 #4 August 7, 2003 PM'd you.Life is short! Break the rules! Forgive quickly! Kiss slowly! Love truly, Laugh uncontrollably. And never regret anything that made you smile. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wmw999 2,587 #5 August 7, 2003 I know this sounds awful to say, and you want to help, but this is really really something between your parents. It's awful, though, when your parents fight about something. I used to hate it. And it's just as bad when they're not fighting but not talking. Jumpers can get consumed with jumping, and leave behind parts of their "old" lives -- that's hard on the people who are parts of their old lives. It doesn't always happen, though. And sometimes people really don't like change, and the way that people change when they release a piece of themselves from control. And so they fight that. They want the old life back. So what am I saying? Still, mostly, that this is between your parents. Your mom probably feels as though she's given jumping an honest chance; your dad probably really does feel released when he jumps. Which means that the years before he wasn't getting a release that turned out to be important, but your mom had no way of knowing that most likely. It's not her fault, it's not his fault. The one thing I'd do would be to make sure that you are part of the family -- don't let what you need (be it parents at sporting events you're part of, plays, shopping, whatever) get lost because you're trying to make it easy on them. They both love you, always. If you want to talk offline, holler -- I'm just a mom, divorced, with a 19-year-old son who knows that both of his folks love him enough to work together on stuff. And he'll tell you that's really important. You deserve to have them work together in ways they can for you. You can't ever change another person. You can only change yourself. But if you change yourself too much for someone else, then it's not you any more. And that's hard. Wendy W.There is nothing more dangerous than breaking a basic safety rule and getting away with it. It removes fear of the consequences and builds false confidence. (tbrown) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
aero04 0 #6 August 7, 2003 QuoteDude, read the post you are replying Yep, no more late night posting for me. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
andy2 0 #7 August 7, 2003 [QUOTE]The one thing I'd do would be to make sure that you are part of the family [/QUOTE] Excellent advice!!! I would add try to sit down with your parents and have a serious discussion about it (maybe ask them when would be a good time to discuss it so theyre not distracted, etc?). If that doesn't work just wait a few years, parents usually slacken way up around 19-20. Good luck bro the sky will be waiting for you! --------------------------------------------- let my inspiration flow, in token rhyme suggesting rhythm... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
andy2 0 #8 August 7, 2003 I wanted to add - if you dont already know how, why dont you go out to the DZ with your dad and learn how to pack/maintain parachutes. If your mom is dead set against you jumping maybe at least you can get a job packing sport parachutes and make some extra cash and get a lot of practical knowledge from a wide base of people. Anywho, good luck! :) --------------------------------------------- let my inspiration flow, in token rhyme suggesting rhythm... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ladyskydiver 0 #9 August 7, 2003 She does come out to the DZ with her dad and is getting quite good at packing.Life is short! Break the rules! Forgive quickly! Kiss slowly! Love truly, Laugh uncontrollably. And never regret anything that made you smile. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
CantJumpYetSNG 0 #10 August 8, 2003 So what do I say to my Dad when he comes to talk to me about it. It bothers him so bad he is in tears and I can't help but listen and try to help, even though it's not my place. Oh yeah!?! So. What if I did eat all of the Oreos? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
CantJumpYetSNG 0 #11 August 8, 2003 I pack for my dad and I'm finally getting used to it. Once i get to the point where I'm at least a little bit more confident then I might pack for others, if I'm not jumping myself. Oh yeah!?! So. What if I did eat all of the Oreos? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
