How did you deal / not deal with the loss

[LukeOliver 0]

Quote

What was it that helped you deal with the loss that you felt.

I've never worked out an adequate way of dealing with the grief, and it seems to be a new problem each time.

Practical matters, and in the positive sense:
1) Add what we learned from it to the body of knowledge
2) Do what I can to educate

I tend to go apeshit when I see people covering up dodgy practices in the sport to protect said dodgy practices and the people involved. It's a pity more people don't speak up sometimes, difficult to effect positive change when you've got folks who should know better shutting up - or worse, sitting around going "it's all good" when it's obviously not.

There are some lessons this sport seems to have to learn again and again and again... Bill Booth's writings in these forums are proof positive of that. And the lack of that sense of history contributes to the worst kind of grief.

Everyday I see advertisements offering classes to help me improve my memory. There are days I'd take a course which would help me forget.

L.

[LukeOliver 0]

That didn't read quite the way I intended, sorry.

You never actually forget; but time helps heal.

"Nobody is really gone as long as someone remembers".

When I lose a friend in the sport, I take my current pullup cord and tie it in a special place with the others; spending as long as I need to say "goodbye" before consciously trying to move on.

I wish the collection was smaller, and that some of the pullups weren't so fresh.

L.