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My eldest stepdaughter has been doing this shit for years. My wife (She's a nurse), has bent over backwards to try and help her. We have helped her feed her two daughters, paid for firewood to keep them warm, taken the kids for weekends and holidays to help her out and give her a break.
Nothing changes.
After more then 10 years of trying, my wife has come to the end of her tether. I have been with her for the last 7 years and the efforts she has made are nothing short of saintly.
But the drug is insidious and the people involved in making and distributing it are evil incarnate.
As of 4 weeks ago we have gone to court and taken custody of the two girls to protect them from thier mothers abuse/neglet.
It's an evil drug and the longer she goes on with it the harder it becomes to try and make a change.
Help your friend if you can/if she wants it.
But be prepared to turn your back so you don't get sucked into the ever decending spiral that is a meth heads life.
I am a former user my self, so I have a bit of a perspective on the whole damn thing.
Nothing changes.
After more then 10 years of trying, my wife has come to the end of her tether. I have been with her for the last 7 years and the efforts she has made are nothing short of saintly.
But the drug is insidious and the people involved in making and distributing it are evil incarnate.
As of 4 weeks ago we have gone to court and taken custody of the two girls to protect them from thier mothers abuse/neglet.
It's an evil drug and the longer she goes on with it the harder it becomes to try and make a change.
Help your friend if you can/if she wants it.
But be prepared to turn your back so you don't get sucked into the ever decending spiral that is a meth heads life.
I am a former user my self, so I have a bit of a perspective on the whole damn thing.
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Can I REALLY do anything?
Realistically, no. It's got to come from her, and she will have to reach her own bottom before that happens.
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Unfortunately, for some people that's so low that they die.Quoteshe will have to reach her own bottom
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There is nothing more dangerous than breaking a basic safety rule and getting away with it. It removes fear of the consequences and builds false confidence. (tbrown)
Channman 2
Well this is tragic, unfortunate its not uncommon. My wife and I are just about empty nesters...wtih another daughter being married off in two months. But now in my early 50's, my wife and I several months ago received my nephew’s 2 month old son and 11 year old daughter through the Child Protective Services.
My nephew is a Meth addict as well...been in and out of prison, since the age of 18 and has very few of his teeth left an still can't kick it. His older brother a little over a year ago was finally able to kick his addiction by placing a 45 Cal. round through his head. We have poured our lives, money, time into these boys with the hope they would somehow make a change.
I don't know the answer...other than turning one’s life over to the Lord. But even that doesn't seem to be an avenue for my nephew you has done little if anything to improve his ability to have his kids returned to him. Sadly I see a 28 year old BOY, with very few years left on this earth.
If you find an answer send it my way.
My nephew is a Meth addict as well...been in and out of prison, since the age of 18 and has very few of his teeth left an still can't kick it. His older brother a little over a year ago was finally able to kick his addiction by placing a 45 Cal. round through his head. We have poured our lives, money, time into these boys with the hope they would somehow make a change.
I don't know the answer...other than turning one’s life over to the Lord. But even that doesn't seem to be an avenue for my nephew you has done little if anything to improve his ability to have his kids returned to him. Sadly I see a 28 year old BOY, with very few years left on this earth.
If you find an answer send it my way.
You are getting a lot of good advise here, I've seen what that stuff will do and it's not a happy story.
I moved to San Diego in the early 80's when Meth was just taking hold...you couldn't swing a dead cat out in east county with hitting a meth-lab. It was everywhere.
As a supervisor at an aerospace plant I was amazed at how openly it was being used...the local 'connect' use to deal out of his car parked right behind the lunch-truck every day.
D.T. for O.T. didn't mean double-time for over-time ~ it meant double-tweaked! 
I would sneak a bit & take pictures of people I knew were using about every 30 days, when shit started to go sideways for them I'd show them what 6 months on meth had done...
Our work paid for rehab if you turned yourself in, if 'caught' you were fired. I would give said individuals the information and strongly advise them to seek help.
I ran the Emergency Response teams there, the place had so many chemicals & exotic materials the local fire department would not come on the property for anything other than structural fire. Since the teams depended on each other for real life & death stuff I insisted on drug testing long before it was 'popular'.
We were making parts for military aircraft, commercial jets & the space shuttle...MY department was the only one piss-testing!
People were often sent to my department for 'cross training' which meant you were about to be fired, two minutes in and ya were piss tested...refuse and they would nail ya for in subornation and ya got fired after a 3 days suspension.
I didn't like it but it's how mahogany row handled it back then...
I'd warn people that were obviously losing it that they were on the short list for my dept.
Some took heed and quit on their own, some went to rehab...the majority blew it off & got fired.
I've seen too many skin & bones friends that deny a problem, teeth falling out, sore all over 'em, faces scared from 'mirror lock' hours of picking at themselves.
As said by others above~
You can't help an addict unless they WANT help, and even then the success rate is low.
They will steal from you, try to manipulate you, they will in all probability become psychotic and may end up hurting you.
My advise ~ take pictures of your friend, document behavior changes...some time down the road call in other of her friends and do an intervention showing the physical and behavioral changes being incurred.
Offer to assist with seeking professional help, and be supportive if she takes that option. If not you gotta cut-away.
It WILL only end one way if she continues and you do NOT wanna be anywhere near that ship when it hits the iceberg.
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I've known alot of people who have had substance abuse problems,but the ones who were addicted to meth are the worst.
I have yet to see any tweaker I know kick meth.
Tweakers will steal anything, and use anyone they can to feed the addiction.
Tweakers will grab onto you, like someone who is drowning will pull under a rescuer, and drown you along with themselves.
If she has family,then alert them so they can hopefully save the child.
It is a tough thing to do,but I would advise you to leave this woman behind and move on.
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