Nightingale 0 #26 February 24, 2007 QuoteNeither of those, I'm talking about respect for your s/o. Ah. I don't think that looking at other women is disrespectful under most circumstances (strippers at bachelor parties included). Now, a guy turning around to stare at someone else while you're in the middle of a conversation, that's disrespectful. Having a stripper at a party in a room full of other men... not so much, IMO, but everybody's got different limits as to what's cool. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Conundrum 1 #27 February 24, 2007 QuoteQuoteNeither of those, I'm talking about respect for your s/o. Ah. I don't think that looking at other women is disrespectful under most circumstances (strippers at bachelor parties included). Now, a guy turning around to stare at someone else while you're in the middle of a conversation, that's disrespectful. Having a stripper at a party in a room full of other men... not so much, IMO, but everybody's got different limits as to what's cool. See, I wouldn't think it's disrespectful to go to a strip club together, but more specifically for a bachelor party, I don't see the point of celebrating getting married by looking at another woman dance naked in your face. I mean, really, what is the purpose? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SkyDekker 1,465 #28 February 24, 2007 QuoteSee, I wouldn't think it's disrespectful to go to a strip club together, but more specifically for a bachelor party, I don't see the point of celebrating getting married by looking at another woman dance naked in your face. I mean, really, what is the purpose? Most men I know see the Bachelor party not as a celebration of getting married, but as a celebration/farewell to being "single". In that light you aren't being disprespectful to your partner (cause you aren't celebrating getting married together, that's what the wedding is for). Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Lucky... 0 #29 February 24, 2007 QuoteWhy does it matter if they ask or not? What if it wasn't even brought up and they had strippers there and you found out later; it's not a lie then is it? It's called a lie by ommission, as opposd to one by commission. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nightingale 0 #30 February 24, 2007 Quote See, I wouldn't think it's disrespectful to go to a strip club together, but more specifically for a bachelor party, I don't see the point of celebrating getting married by looking at another woman dance naked in your face. I mean, really, what is the purpose? I would imagine that the purpose is to look at a woman dancing naked. Ultimately, men are pretty simple. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Conundrum 1 #31 February 25, 2007 QuoteQuoteSee, I wouldn't think it's disrespectful to go to a strip club together, but more specifically for a bachelor party, I don't see the point of celebrating getting married by looking at another woman dance naked in your face. I mean, really, what is the purpose? Most men I know see the Bachelor party not as a celebration of getting married, but as a celebration/farewell to being "single". In that light you aren't being disprespectful to your partner (cause you aren't celebrating getting married together, that's what the wedding is for). A guy that considers the bachelor party as last day as a being "single/free" is not someone I'd be interested in marrying. But that's just me. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Conundrum 1 #32 February 25, 2007 QuoteQuote See, I wouldn't think it's disrespectful to go to a strip club together, but more specifically for a bachelor party, I don't see the point of celebrating getting married by looking at another woman dance naked in your face. I mean, really, what is the purpose? I would imagine that the purpose is to look at a woman dancing naked. Ultimately, men are pretty simple. Thanks smartypants. May as well go to a stripblub regularly then, I mean what guy wouldn't want to look at a woman dancing naked everyday? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites DSE 5 #33 February 25, 2007 Quote Thanks smartypants. May as well go to a stripblub regularly then, I mean what guy wouldn't want to look at a woman dancing naked everyday? Maybe a gay one? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Shotgun 1 #34 February 25, 2007 QuoteQuoteMost men I know see the Bachelor party not as a celebration of getting married, but as a celebration/farewell to being "single". In that light you aren't being disprespectful to your partner (cause you aren't celebrating getting married together, that's what the wedding is for). A guy that considers the bachelor party as last day as a being "single/free" is not someone I'd be interested in marrying. But that's just me. What's wrong with considering the bachelor party a farewell to being single? And why are you equating being "single" to being "free"? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites jenfly00 0 #35 February 25, 2007 QuoteNeither of those, I'm talking about respect for your s/o. Jealousy/insecurity and control issues are frequently masked as problems with 'respect'.----------------------- "O brave new world that has such people in it". Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites misskriss 0 #36 February 25, 2007 QuoteA guy that considers the bachelor party as last day as a being "single/free" is not someone I'd be interested in marrying. But that's just me. That's just me too. Interestingly enough, that's just my husband as well. Neither of us wanted a bachelor/bachelorette party. Not all men and women feel the need to celebrate one "last night of singledom." In fact, we spent the night before we were married in bed--- together. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Conundrum 1 #37 February 25, 2007 QuoteQuoteNeither of those, I'm talking about respect for your s/o. Jealousy/insecurity and control issues are frequently masked as problems with 'respect'. Not for me, thanks. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Conundrum 1 #38 February 25, 2007 QuoteQuoteQuoteMost men I know see the Bachelor party not as a celebration of getting married, but as a celebration/farewell to being "single". In that light you aren't being disprespectful to your partner (cause you aren't celebrating getting married together, that's what the wedding is for). A guy that considers the bachelor party as last day as a being "single/free" is not someone I'd be interested in marrying. But that's just me. What's wrong with considering the bachelor party a farewell to being single? And why are you equating being "single" to being "free"? There's nothing "wrong" with it, everyone views it as something different. I just see it as a celebration of getting married, not saying farwell to being "single"; whatever that means. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Shotgun 1 #39 February 25, 2007 QuoteI just see it as a celebration of getting married, not saying farwell to being "single"; whatever that means. If the point is just to celebrate marriage, it doesn't make much sense to call it a bachelor party. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites SkyDekker 1,465 #40 February 26, 2007 QuoteIf the point is just to celebrate marriage, it doesn't make much sense to call it a bachelor party. I agree. The celebration of getting married is called the wedding. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites SimpleOne 0 #41 February 26, 2007 It's like graduating college; you're excited to be moving to a new stage of life but you'll love that very last frat party (ow whatever) all the same. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites wmw999 2,589 #42 February 26, 2007 Make sure you communicate this to whatever intended you have in time for them to include it in their plans. Because now there's ample proof that it's not the same for a lot of people, so it won't be clear to them unless you (that's each and every "you") tell them. This approach works for a lot of other things you expect, as well. Wendy W.There is nothing more dangerous than breaking a basic safety rule and getting away with it. It removes fear of the consequences and builds false confidence. (tbrown) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Conundrum 1 #43 February 26, 2007 QuoteMake sure you communicate this to whatever intended you have in time for them to include it in their plans. Because now there's ample proof that it's not the same for a lot of people, so it won't be clear to them unless you (that's each and every "you") tell them. This approach works for a lot of other things you expect, as well. Wendy W. Luckily, my s/o and I have the same outlook on bachelor(ette) parties and so this is a non-issue for us. This thread was mainly just to get some discussion and opinions going. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites billvon 3,120 #44 February 26, 2007 >my s/o and I have the same outlook on bachelor(ette) parties and so this is a non-issue for us. Warning, Will Robinson, warning! The assumption "we think the same way about this; we don't have to talk about it" is in the top 10 bad assumptions couples make. It may well be true - but it's almost always good to talk about it anyway. Few couples have trouble due to too _much_ communication. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Conundrum 1 #45 February 27, 2007 Quote>my s/o and I have the same outlook on bachelor(ette) parties and so this is a non-issue for us. Warning, Will Robinson, warning! The assumption "we think the same way about this; we don't have to talk about it" is in the top 10 bad assumptions couples make. It may well be true - but it's almost always good to talk about it anyway. Few couples have trouble due to too _much_ communication. Where did I say I assumed anything? We have talked about it, that's how we know. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites VanillaSkyGirl 6 #46 February 27, 2007 QuoteI wouldn't have a problem with it, so long as there was open, honest communication on the subject. Then again, I would probably want my fiance to attend my bachelor party and celebrate with me, and I'd similarly want to help her whoop it up. Blues, Dave Great post, Dave! That is a wonderful way to look at things. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Prev 1 2 Next Page 2 of 2 Join the conversation You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account. 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Conundrum 1 #32 February 25, 2007 QuoteQuote See, I wouldn't think it's disrespectful to go to a strip club together, but more specifically for a bachelor party, I don't see the point of celebrating getting married by looking at another woman dance naked in your face. I mean, really, what is the purpose? I would imagine that the purpose is to look at a woman dancing naked. Ultimately, men are pretty simple. Thanks smartypants. May as well go to a stripblub regularly then, I mean what guy wouldn't want to look at a woman dancing naked everyday? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
DSE 5 #33 February 25, 2007 Quote Thanks smartypants. May as well go to a stripblub regularly then, I mean what guy wouldn't want to look at a woman dancing naked everyday? Maybe a gay one? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Shotgun 1 #34 February 25, 2007 QuoteQuoteMost men I know see the Bachelor party not as a celebration of getting married, but as a celebration/farewell to being "single". In that light you aren't being disprespectful to your partner (cause you aren't celebrating getting married together, that's what the wedding is for). A guy that considers the bachelor party as last day as a being "single/free" is not someone I'd be interested in marrying. But that's just me. What's wrong with considering the bachelor party a farewell to being single? And why are you equating being "single" to being "free"? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jenfly00 0 #35 February 25, 2007 QuoteNeither of those, I'm talking about respect for your s/o. Jealousy/insecurity and control issues are frequently masked as problems with 'respect'.----------------------- "O brave new world that has such people in it". Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
misskriss 0 #36 February 25, 2007 QuoteA guy that considers the bachelor party as last day as a being "single/free" is not someone I'd be interested in marrying. But that's just me. That's just me too. Interestingly enough, that's just my husband as well. Neither of us wanted a bachelor/bachelorette party. Not all men and women feel the need to celebrate one "last night of singledom." In fact, we spent the night before we were married in bed--- together. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Conundrum 1 #37 February 25, 2007 QuoteQuoteNeither of those, I'm talking about respect for your s/o. Jealousy/insecurity and control issues are frequently masked as problems with 'respect'. Not for me, thanks. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Conundrum 1 #38 February 25, 2007 QuoteQuoteQuoteMost men I know see the Bachelor party not as a celebration of getting married, but as a celebration/farewell to being "single". In that light you aren't being disprespectful to your partner (cause you aren't celebrating getting married together, that's what the wedding is for). A guy that considers the bachelor party as last day as a being "single/free" is not someone I'd be interested in marrying. But that's just me. What's wrong with considering the bachelor party a farewell to being single? And why are you equating being "single" to being "free"? There's nothing "wrong" with it, everyone views it as something different. I just see it as a celebration of getting married, not saying farwell to being "single"; whatever that means. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Shotgun 1 #39 February 25, 2007 QuoteI just see it as a celebration of getting married, not saying farwell to being "single"; whatever that means. If the point is just to celebrate marriage, it doesn't make much sense to call it a bachelor party. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites SkyDekker 1,465 #40 February 26, 2007 QuoteIf the point is just to celebrate marriage, it doesn't make much sense to call it a bachelor party. I agree. The celebration of getting married is called the wedding. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites SimpleOne 0 #41 February 26, 2007 It's like graduating college; you're excited to be moving to a new stage of life but you'll love that very last frat party (ow whatever) all the same. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites wmw999 2,589 #42 February 26, 2007 Make sure you communicate this to whatever intended you have in time for them to include it in their plans. Because now there's ample proof that it's not the same for a lot of people, so it won't be clear to them unless you (that's each and every "you") tell them. This approach works for a lot of other things you expect, as well. Wendy W.There is nothing more dangerous than breaking a basic safety rule and getting away with it. It removes fear of the consequences and builds false confidence. (tbrown) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Conundrum 1 #43 February 26, 2007 QuoteMake sure you communicate this to whatever intended you have in time for them to include it in their plans. Because now there's ample proof that it's not the same for a lot of people, so it won't be clear to them unless you (that's each and every "you") tell them. This approach works for a lot of other things you expect, as well. Wendy W. Luckily, my s/o and I have the same outlook on bachelor(ette) parties and so this is a non-issue for us. This thread was mainly just to get some discussion and opinions going. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites billvon 3,120 #44 February 26, 2007 >my s/o and I have the same outlook on bachelor(ette) parties and so this is a non-issue for us. Warning, Will Robinson, warning! The assumption "we think the same way about this; we don't have to talk about it" is in the top 10 bad assumptions couples make. It may well be true - but it's almost always good to talk about it anyway. Few couples have trouble due to too _much_ communication. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Conundrum 1 #45 February 27, 2007 Quote>my s/o and I have the same outlook on bachelor(ette) parties and so this is a non-issue for us. Warning, Will Robinson, warning! The assumption "we think the same way about this; we don't have to talk about it" is in the top 10 bad assumptions couples make. It may well be true - but it's almost always good to talk about it anyway. Few couples have trouble due to too _much_ communication. Where did I say I assumed anything? We have talked about it, that's how we know. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites VanillaSkyGirl 6 #46 February 27, 2007 QuoteI wouldn't have a problem with it, so long as there was open, honest communication on the subject. Then again, I would probably want my fiance to attend my bachelor party and celebrate with me, and I'd similarly want to help her whoop it up. Blues, Dave Great post, Dave! That is a wonderful way to look at things. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Prev 1 2 Next Page 2 of 2 Join the conversation You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account. 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Conundrum 1 #38 February 25, 2007 QuoteQuoteQuoteMost men I know see the Bachelor party not as a celebration of getting married, but as a celebration/farewell to being "single". In that light you aren't being disprespectful to your partner (cause you aren't celebrating getting married together, that's what the wedding is for). A guy that considers the bachelor party as last day as a being "single/free" is not someone I'd be interested in marrying. But that's just me. What's wrong with considering the bachelor party a farewell to being single? And why are you equating being "single" to being "free"? There's nothing "wrong" with it, everyone views it as something different. I just see it as a celebration of getting married, not saying farwell to being "single"; whatever that means. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Shotgun 1 #39 February 25, 2007 QuoteI just see it as a celebration of getting married, not saying farwell to being "single"; whatever that means. If the point is just to celebrate marriage, it doesn't make much sense to call it a bachelor party. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SkyDekker 1,465 #40 February 26, 2007 QuoteIf the point is just to celebrate marriage, it doesn't make much sense to call it a bachelor party. I agree. The celebration of getting married is called the wedding. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SimpleOne 0 #41 February 26, 2007 It's like graduating college; you're excited to be moving to a new stage of life but you'll love that very last frat party (ow whatever) all the same. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wmw999 2,589 #42 February 26, 2007 Make sure you communicate this to whatever intended you have in time for them to include it in their plans. Because now there's ample proof that it's not the same for a lot of people, so it won't be clear to them unless you (that's each and every "you") tell them. This approach works for a lot of other things you expect, as well. Wendy W.There is nothing more dangerous than breaking a basic safety rule and getting away with it. It removes fear of the consequences and builds false confidence. (tbrown) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Conundrum 1 #43 February 26, 2007 QuoteMake sure you communicate this to whatever intended you have in time for them to include it in their plans. Because now there's ample proof that it's not the same for a lot of people, so it won't be clear to them unless you (that's each and every "you") tell them. This approach works for a lot of other things you expect, as well. Wendy W. Luckily, my s/o and I have the same outlook on bachelor(ette) parties and so this is a non-issue for us. This thread was mainly just to get some discussion and opinions going. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites billvon 3,120 #44 February 26, 2007 >my s/o and I have the same outlook on bachelor(ette) parties and so this is a non-issue for us. Warning, Will Robinson, warning! The assumption "we think the same way about this; we don't have to talk about it" is in the top 10 bad assumptions couples make. It may well be true - but it's almost always good to talk about it anyway. Few couples have trouble due to too _much_ communication. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Conundrum 1 #45 February 27, 2007 Quote>my s/o and I have the same outlook on bachelor(ette) parties and so this is a non-issue for us. Warning, Will Robinson, warning! The assumption "we think the same way about this; we don't have to talk about it" is in the top 10 bad assumptions couples make. It may well be true - but it's almost always good to talk about it anyway. Few couples have trouble due to too _much_ communication. Where did I say I assumed anything? We have talked about it, that's how we know. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites VanillaSkyGirl 6 #46 February 27, 2007 QuoteI wouldn't have a problem with it, so long as there was open, honest communication on the subject. Then again, I would probably want my fiance to attend my bachelor party and celebrate with me, and I'd similarly want to help her whoop it up. Blues, Dave Great post, Dave! That is a wonderful way to look at things. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Prev 1 2 Next Page 2 of 2 Join the conversation You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account. Note: Your post will require moderator approval before it will be visible. Reply to this topic... × Pasted as rich text. Paste as plain text instead Only 75 emoji are allowed. × Your link has been automatically embedded. Display as a link instead × Your previous content has been restored. Clear editor × You cannot paste images directly. Upload or insert images from URL. Insert image from URL × Desktop Tablet Phone Submit Reply 0
billvon 3,120 #44 February 26, 2007 >my s/o and I have the same outlook on bachelor(ette) parties and so this is a non-issue for us. Warning, Will Robinson, warning! The assumption "we think the same way about this; we don't have to talk about it" is in the top 10 bad assumptions couples make. It may well be true - but it's almost always good to talk about it anyway. Few couples have trouble due to too _much_ communication. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Conundrum 1 #45 February 27, 2007 Quote>my s/o and I have the same outlook on bachelor(ette) parties and so this is a non-issue for us. Warning, Will Robinson, warning! The assumption "we think the same way about this; we don't have to talk about it" is in the top 10 bad assumptions couples make. It may well be true - but it's almost always good to talk about it anyway. Few couples have trouble due to too _much_ communication. Where did I say I assumed anything? We have talked about it, that's how we know. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
VanillaSkyGirl 6 #46 February 27, 2007 QuoteI wouldn't have a problem with it, so long as there was open, honest communication on the subject. Then again, I would probably want my fiance to attend my bachelor party and celebrate with me, and I'd similarly want to help her whoop it up. Blues, Dave Great post, Dave! That is a wonderful way to look at things. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
