Strippers for Bachelor(ette) parties

[Conundrum 1]

Are you ok with strippers being at your s/o bachelor(ette) party?


*note: this has nothing to do with my personal life, just stirring up discussion*

[warpedskydiver 0]

Only if they give a "happy ending"

Otherwise it's wasted cash that could have been used on Jumps, Beer, Ammo, Guns and etc.

[Shotgun 1]

Depends on how it was handled. If he (or his friends) made sure it was ok with me beforehand, then I wouldn't have a problem with it. If I was lied to about it, but I found out later, then I would have a problem.

But Rich and I got married without telling anyone we were getting married, so there were no bachelor/bachelorette parties.

[Conundrum 1]

Why does it matter if they ask or not? What if it wasn't even brought up and they had strippers there and you found out later; it's not a lie then is it?

[Shotgun 1]

If I was planning on having a raunchy party with strippers for one of my friends, I would want to make sure it was ok with their S/O first. And I would expect the same sort of consideration from my S/O and his/our friends.

So no, it wouldn't be a lie if they didn't ask, but I wouldn't think it was very cool either.

And again, it really would depend on the situation. There are way too many variables for it to be a yes or no question (for me).

[lawrocket 3]

So long as they are ugly ones...

My wife is hotter than your wife.

[Conundrum 1]

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If I was planning on having a raunchy party with strippers for one of my friends, I would want to make sure it was ok with their S/O first. And I would expect the same sort of consideration from my S/O and his/our friends.

So no, it wouldn't be a lie if they didn't ask, but I wouldn't think it was very cool either.

And again, it really would depend on the situation. There are way too many variables for it to be a yes or no question (for me).

Why would you say no? Or yes?

[Darius11 12]

I say no. Just a moral thing for me. Not saying my morals better or worst then anyone just that they are mine. Never been to a strip club, and have never wanted to go.
I am a bit old school. I belive that would be disrespectful to my SO

My .02

I'd rather be hated for who I am, than loved for who I am not." - Kurt Cobain

[metalslug 36]

I would be OK with it, so long as these were rare and special occasions.

It is a perspective amongst some, mostly males, that sexuality is not as tightly bound to true love as some others may feel about it.
What makes my SO 'significant' to me is how I feel about her emotionally, not how many naked bodies we've both seen.
My SO and I have both had other partners before we met and modern society, TV, movies exposes us to sexual imagery in certain circumstances. We neither seek it out nor do we fear it.
My SO and I recently visited a sex shop together to find a 'toy' and quite obviously this was a place with images of naked bodies almost everywhere and neither of us were particularly concerned about that.
Some may say that live strippers are very different from movies and images. I trust my SO to neither touch nor taste, so sight and sound are the same and scent I can live with.

My SO may even on occasion comment to me about other men and women and point them out; "Oh, that woman/guy is gorgeous...".
We both understand that it's in our nature to have a superficial curiosity towards other attractive people, naked or not, but ultimately we are true to each other and that allows our relationship to work.
We don't cheat on each other and the security of that knowledge works well enough for us.

No 'mericans were harmed during the making of this post.

[Remster 30]

Strippers? Sure.

Hookers who start the evening by sripping? No. And its not a bachelor party I'd want to be involved with at all, as a bachelor, SO, or friend.

Remster

[Shotgun 1]

I guess the simple answer to your question is... yes, I'm ok with strippers being at my S/O's bachelor party. I'm not ok with any dishonesty that might go along with that, but I can't see any reason why dishonesty would be needed in that situation. So if they asked me beforehand, then I'd probably say yes, it's ok with me.

[SkyDekker 1,465]

I would have no issue with strippers, or hookers, at a bachelorette for my SO. None.

[Conundrum 1]

Really? You wouldn't have a problem with your fiance fucking someone else?

[SkyDekker 1,465]

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Really? You wouldn't have a problem with your fiance fucking someone else?

I would, but that is not what I said.

I trust my SO, if I didn't, I wouldn't be with her. Since I trust her, I would have no reason to believe she would do anything outside of our limits, even if the opportunity was presented.

If you don't trust your SO enough to be around strippers/hookers without him or her fucking them, why would you even consider getting married to them?

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I trust my SO, if I didn't, I wouldn't be with her. Since I trust her, I would have no reason to believe she would do anything outside of our limits, even if the opportunity was presented.

I can see that point with strippers, because you (can) only look not touch. There's really no other reason to get a hooker other than for sex. You don't pay for a hooker to strip, you get them for sex.

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If you don't trust your SO enough to be around strippers/hookers without him or her fucking them, why would you even consider getting married to them?

Well for me personally, it's not about trust, it's about respect. And I think it's disrespectful. I don't see the point of celebrating getting married by having another person stripping for you and dancing in your face naked.

[billvon 3,120]

>Well for me personally, it's not about trust, it's about respect. And I
>think it's disrespectful.

I think that's the key. As long as you're communicating well enough that the other person knows you will find it disrespectful, then all is well. I think the problems come about when you get conversations like this:

a: I didn't know you'd be upset! You didn't say anything about not having strippers/hookers.

b: You should have known!

a: But you said you weren't jealous of other women.

b: Strippers are _different!_ Everyone knows that!

[SkyDekker 1,465]

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I can see that point with strippers, because you (can) only look not touch. There's really no other reason to get a hooker other than for sex. You don't pay for a hooker to strip, you get them for sex.

true, but I know and trust my SO to say no if presented with that scenario, so I don't have an issue with them being there.

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Well for me personally, it's not about trust, it's about respect. And I think it's disrespectful. I don't see the point of celebrating getting married by having another person stripping for you and dancing in your face naked.

I can see understand that, but I would hope that by the time the Bachelor party roles around your SO is well aware of this and it is a non-issue. If it is an issue, wel then marriage might not be the right step at that point.

[livendive 8]

I wouldn't have a problem with it, so long as there was open, honest communication on the subject. Then again, I would probably want my fiance to attend my bachelor party and celebrate with me, and I'd similarly want to help her whoop it up.

Blues,
Dave

"I AM A PROFESSIONAL EXTREME ATHLETE!"
(drink Mountain Dew)

[Nightingale 0]

Wouldn't bother me at all. If you trust the person you're about to marry, why worry about what they do at their party? if you don't trust them, why are you marrying them to begin with?

[Conundrum 1]

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Wouldn't bother me at all. If you trust the person you're about to marry, why worry about what they do at their party? if you don't trust them, why are you marrying them to begin with?

See that's the thing, it's not necesarily about not trusting them. Like I said before, for me personally it's a respect issue.

[Nightingale 0]

Respect for you or for the stripper or for women in general?

If it's an issue of respect for the stripper herself, she probably wouldn't be stripping if she didn't want to, and she's paid very well for it. Honestly, I kind of envied the girls at my college who were strippers (about half of the dance majors). They graduated with no student loans, only worked a few hours a night, and most of them really liked their jobs. They didn't care if they had clothes on or not; they just wanted to dance and get paid for it.

If it's an issue of respect for women in general, shouldn't women be able to work in any job they want to, and shouldn't we respect their choices?

[johnski 0]

Fuck 42% say they are not ok with it!!
Jesus what a bunch or boring dead wood you are, dont have any fun it might offend someone
42% fuck I dont beleave it!!

[Conundrum 1]

Neither of those, I'm talking about respect for your s/o.

[warpedskydiver 0]

Hey alot of them are against it, that doesn't mean they will keep their word.


I knew someone that was a male stripper, you would be amazed how many women are sucking and fucking at bacherlorette parties.

Men...eh......who doesn't know they are dogs.

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Fuck 42% say they are not ok with it!!
Jesus what a bunch or boring dead wood you are, dont have any fun it might offend someone
42% fuck I dont beleave it!!

Offend someone? What does offending anyone have anything to do with it?