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billvon

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>No reason on this planet that a child should be deprived
>of something which brings them comfort at an age like that.

Agreed. But I think depriving them of a parent is many, many orders of magnitude worse. Sending them a cardboard cutout of one is like the Navy sending a family who has lost a loved one a coupon for a free Big Mac.



Bill, who cares if the family is the one requesting it?

The families of servicemembers know the score when it comes to deployments. Many families still don't know all the tools available to them to help when deployments are underway.
So I try and I scream and I beg and I sigh
Just to prove I'm alive, and it's alright
'Cause tonight there's a way I'll make light of my treacherous life
Make light!

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Um . . . if a person is truly "liberal" they probably aren't in any part of the military to begin with.



So your saying Liberals refuse to join the Military and fight for their country? I'd have to disagree with you and I'm sure many Liberals would too.



Perhaps I was being a bit too glib.

Here is what I meant in a few more words;

People traditionionlly labeled as Liberal have fought and died for this country many times over. Some have won the Medal of Honor and some have become Presidents. Some of our founding fathers were most definately classic Liberals.

However, the term "liberal" as used in today's modern society has been usurped by the ultra-right-wing-conservatives to mean "filthy-Maxist-commie-tree-hugging-nut-job-terrorist-loving-sheep-fucker" and those people rarely, if ever, want to have anything to do with joining the U.S. military.



Well, I don't know if I'd go so far as to say "filthy". Most Liberals I know take a few showers a week, I suspect. Of course, that's probably after the finish fucking the sheep. ;)

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Will the flat one take over his role? It's heart braking just to imagine the little one's kissing "flat" daddy every night and one day, the real one never will come back. Who will tell this to little darling? Or is she supposed to adopt the "flat" one now? Sounds harsh, I know.


Christel, did your husband's passing make your child ignore reality? Did you immediately remove all photos of him, so the child could "face reality?"

Or did you, as I suspect, talk with your child and help them get to a better place with their father's death. As you got there, too...because that's what being a good parent means; you help your child through the hard times.

That's all they're doing with the flat daddies and mommies.

Ciels-
Michele


~Do Angels keep the dreams we seek
While our hearts lie bleeding?~

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I think it is quite different to remove all the pictures of a loved one that is not among us (either temporarily or permanently) than to order a full size print of a person to pu it in a living room. In the first case you are remembering one person and wether he is with us or not, that is facing reality. With the 2 dimension daddy, you are impersonating one person into a cardboard and that is IMO just wrong.

Some questions (let´s asume we have a young child at home):
When 3D daddy come home, do we have two fathers?
If 3D daddy dies does 2D daddy takes his place or we get rid of 2D daddy.
What will be the role of 2D daddy while 3D daddy is away?
What if the dog chews on 2D daddy?

If 2D daddy is meant just as a picture i think it is just tacky, if it is meant as something else, I think it is irresponsible for the child.

When i die i want to be remembered as a person with 3D, so i am off to McDonalds to increase my 3rd D.
:P

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Christel, did your husband's passing make your child ignore reality? Did you immediately remove all photos of him, so the child could "face reality?"

Or did you, as I suspect, talk with your child and help them get to a better place with their father's death. As you got there, too...because that's what being a good parent means; you help your child through the hard times.

That's all they're doing with the flat daddies and mommies.



("... and mommies." :o )

Our situation cannot be compared as my boy lived with his dying dad and faced reality. Why should photos be removed after his dad died? Still today we keep them, even in my home meanwhile are few more photos of my new husband :P

"The national guard is sending cardboard cutouts of family members..."

Horror. A no-vote from me. Really!! Sent by parcel post, TNT, UP or what???

Sorry Michele, I do not want to hurt your feelings - it's just too hair-rising for me.

Christel

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And then: 2 months later - daddy's been on wrong place at wrong time. Boom. No real daddy anymore. But there still is the flat one. Will the flat one take over his role? It's heart braking just to imagine the little one's kissing "flat" daddy every night and one day, the real one never will come back. Who will tell this to little darling? Or is she supposed to adopt the "flat" one now?



That, or one hell of a morose walk to the end of the driveway to drop flat daddy off in the recycle bin.

You thought your chores were bad as a kid.

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