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Michele

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Now: Could/would you take away those strawberries - just to make her cry?

If you could/would, I am unable to have any respect for your sorry heartless ass.



And yet . . . I'm just guessing here . . . parents conciously make choices and do things, maybe even with some regular frequency, that results in the child crying. Things like, make the child take a bath or put away a toy or whatever . . .

Point is, they've -conciously- chosen to do it knowing full well that they're going to make the child cry.

What's the difference?

Lemme tell ya, if a kid's -worst- problem is that they've had a lollypop taken away for the purposes of a photograph, that child has perhaps the most blessed childhood I've ever heard of.
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You repeated yourself. So I must repeat myself, since no one was listening the first times.



Isn't that the way it works in Speaker's Corner? :P



In my ineffectual way, I try to change that. :D



How are you changing that by repeating yourself?:|
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You repeated yourself. So I must repeat myself, since no one was listening the first times.



Isn't that the way it works in Speaker's Corner? :P



In my ineffectual way, I try to change that. :D



How are you changing that by repeating yourself?:|



How are you changing that by repeating yourself?
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>Point is, they've -conciously- chosen to do it knowing full well that they're going to make the child cry.

Indeed, they sometimes do things to intentionally make a child cry, like spanking them or making them sit in a corner. It's part of being a parent to a child instead of a buddy.

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>Point is, they've -conciously- chosen to do it knowing full well that they're going to make the child cry.

Indeed, they sometimes do things to intentionally make a child cry, like spanking them or making them sit in a corner. It's part of being a parent to a child instead of a buddy.



Key word: parent, as in, for their own good...

you've got to ask yourself one question: 'Do I feel loquacious?' -- well do you, punk?

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And yet . . . I'm just guessing here . . . parents conciously make choices and do things, maybe even with some regular frequency, that results in the child crying. Things like, make the child take a bath or put away a toy or whatever . . .

Point is, they've -conciously- chosen to do it knowing full well that they're going to make the child cry.

What's the difference?***



The things you have described must be done, and the parent is doing it with the intention of providing care for the child (bath) or developing responsibility in the child (making him/her put a toy away). I doubt any caring parent would sit there and think "What arbitrary mean act could I commit to make my child cry", and then act upon whatever cruel idea looks effective.





Lemme tell ya, if a kid's -worst- problem is that they've had a lollypop taken away for the purposes of a photograph, that child has perhaps the most blessed childhood I've ever heard of.

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No-one has suggested otherwise. No one has claimed that these children are going to be traumatized for life...they are just saying that this woman is a bitch with a mean streak (or at least heartless streak) who seems perfectly willing to be mean to a child who has done nothing wrong, just for her own gratification.

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Indeed, they sometimes do things to intentionally make a child cry, like spanking them or making them sit in a corner. It's part of being a parent to a child instead of a buddy.



Thats fine if it is done to help develop a sense of right and wrong in a child and to teach the idea that ones actions do have consequenses. That said most people would agree that there has to be consistency and that there should be an observable cause and effect relationship that the kid can figure out. Hurting a kid to take a picture teaches the kid that it is OK to be mean of it serves to amuse......and kids are great immitators.

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Key word: parent, as in, for their own good...



The money paid for the taking of the pictures will go toward the college fund of the child. One could argue that an emotional outburst never to be remembered can be used in the greater good of the child to allow it to go to college...

Yes, I realize it is stretching it a bit...but like has been said before. I see no difference between this and young child actors....etc

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It's a stretch, and it still doesn't make it art.

I mean, is anything done "artistically" necessarily art?
If an artist makes it, is it automatically art?
Or is it sometimes just a photo with some abstract blah-blah attached?

What's the criteria? I mean, I know my personal criteria, but is there some objective measure to classify something 'officially' as art?

you've got to ask yourself one question: 'Do I feel loquacious?' -- well do you, punk?

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Hold it! I thought we just agreed there WAS no definition?



On what Art is...but we do know that Art is Abuse by definition....really it is quite simple :P



"We" do? How do "we" know this?

you've got to ask yourself one question: 'Do I feel loquacious?' -- well do you, punk?

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And yet . . . I'm just guessing here . . . parents conciously make choices and do things, maybe even with some regular frequency, that results in the child crying. Things like, make the child take a bath or put away a toy or whatever . . .

Point is, they've -conciously- chosen to do it knowing full well that they're going to make the child cry.


As a parent, sometimes you need to do things which will upset the child - i.e vaccinations, no chocolate, bedtime...but it's a parenting thing, and a responsibility, not a manipulation to make a child cry so you can take photos.

I have a shot of my littlest niece; she was screaming her 2 year old head off...we didn't realize it at the time that she had grabbed a catcus. Might I give that shot to her when she's older? Perhaps, depending upon how her sense of humor develops. Will I sell it? Hell no. Would I intentionally give a catcus to a child to see what their reaction would be? Hell no. That would be abusive. Intentionally inflicting physical or emotional pain is not an acceptable thing to do for any reason, let alone one that is clearly stated as a political/theological one...

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What's the difference?


One is a parent bringing up a child to be a productive member of society. The other is a manipulation of a child's emotion in a negative way to achieve a personal (i.e not for the child) goal. That, to me, is a pretty clear difference, even though I'm not a parent.

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While our hearts lie bleeding?~

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You repeated yourself. So I must repeat myself, since no one was listening the first times.



Isn't that the way it works in Speaker's Corner? :P



In my ineffectual way, I try to change that. :D



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Lemme tell ya, if a kid's -worst- problem is that they've had a lollypop taken away for the purposes of a photograph, that child has perhaps the most blessed childhood I've ever heard of.


Yep....they'll learn early that people will manipulate them for financial gain. May even do 'em some good in the long run.

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> That said most people would agree that there has to be consistency
>and that there should be an observable cause and effect relationship that
>the kid can figure out.

Agreed. And if someone took a picture of them crying during that time, no problem. If someone punished them just to get the picture, then that's pretty slimy.

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