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I get this column below in my email on Saturday. Most of the time this person is just a raving idiot and it serves for a good laugh. This weeks column though I actually agree somewhat with. Now I think that at the end of the column he is out of line but the point he is getting at I agree with. I was wondering how the rest of you feel about it:
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I just read an interesting story about a dude in Florida who threw a high school teacher a beating in front of his class because the teacher supposedly touched the guy's 15-year-old daughter inappropriately (on her boobies). Your first reaction to this story might be, 'Good for him!
If some weirdo teacher was fondling my 15-year-old daughter's boobies I'd throw him a beating, too.' But there's more to this particular swamp opera.
As it turns out, the teacher had given the girl a detention for dumping a pop out of a second floor window onto the head of another student. In order to get back at the teacher for this inconvenience to her gum-chewing schedule, the girl decided to ruin the teacher's career by concocting the story and getting her little girlfriends to corroborate it.
A one hour detention, and an entire career shot to hell. I guess that sounds like an even trade to what passes for a mind in a 15-year-old girl.
Well, it didn't take long for one of the little cock-teases to crack and confess the entire conspiracy. So the teacher got a shot in the face and a paid vacation. The dad is facing a law suit. And the girls face possible expulsion from school. But what is the real, underlying problem here? If you're in possession of even a mere moiety of your marbles you should be able to see it right off.
Instead of beating on poor, innocent teachers, that fat, redneck father should have been beating on his daughter since she was old enough to stand.
It all comes down to a lack of discipline. Modern parents are too unwilling to apply the back of the hand or a little leather to their childrens' backsides and therefore foster in them the belief that they can get away with absolutely anything.
It all comes down to fear. If your child isn't afraid of
you, why should he or she be afraid of ruining some poor slob's career?
Plus, physical discipline is so much more effective and easier then 'time-outs' or grounding or revoking privileges. If, say, a child commits some infraction you could ground him or her for a week, meaning you have to police them every minute of the day, in addition to listening to endless
whining and complaining. Or, you could immediately apply the belt vigorously for a few minutes and promise more of the same if you catch the child even looking like he's thinking of doing whatever it is he did again.
Of course, by 15 the best opportunity for discipline is
already long past. While beating the shit out of a 15-year-old would be a lot of fun, it really won't do anything to change a behavior pattern. That's why you need to start beating them early.
I'm not suggesting that you use a dowel rod on them as soon as they can stand. That young a gentle paddling is as harsh as a severe beating. But by three or four years you should be laying into your kids with belts, rulers, shoes, curtain rods, phone cords, cigarettes, staplers and whatever else you can get creative with.
Trust Uncle Chadwick. If you take these measures your daughter will not grow up to be a lying little tramp who makes up stories about being molested just for the attention.

Drop dead,

Chadwick
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The reason that beating doesn't work is that it doesn't work.

An occasional well-aimed swat is a good thing. Regular spankings are useless.

But there is an issue that you missed.

In our zeal to protect our children from "bad touches," whether that means inappropriate sexual advances or spanking, we have gone overboard. Schools educate kids to believe that they have certain rights, and one of those rights is to be exempt from parental discipline.

When Beck (who was oppositional-defiant at the time) was in 6th grade, we had a major to-do because she had missed the bus for the 7th or 8th time in a row. I took her to school in the car, and I yelled the entire way (this is also very ineffective with kids). There was a fair amount of mishegoss that went on in that 5 minute ride, but I never touched her. I did, however, do something heinous, for which I'll never forgive myself--when she got out of the car and stuck some stuff on top of it and started to brush her hair, I warned her to stop brushing and get going. When she didn't, I swept the stuff still on the seat onto the sidewalk, shut the door and drove away. One of those things was a cake she'd made the night before for her teacher's birthday. It landed upside down. She went in crying. Two hours later, the New Jersey Division of Youth and Family Services showed up at my door because the school had made an abuse report.

I told the social worker exactly what had happened. She said, "Well, I understand, but that's not why I'm here."

Eh?

"Your daughter thinks you're going to kill her."

Well, okay, I said that. "If you miss the bus again, I'm going to kill you." I don't know about all of you, but it was my mother's stock-in-trade phrase that meant, "If you don't cut it out right now, you're going to be really, really sorry."

So think about it. We can't even say some things to our kids without expecting retribution in the form of governmental intrusion. And our kids know it. And the schools teach them exactly what to say to get someone to let out the dogs.

I feel bad about the teacher, but in a way, it's an ironic kind of justice that the kinds of accusations the schools are teaching our kids to make are now being turned back on them.

rl
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Getting beaten as a child teaches you 3 things.

- Whoever is doing the beating is in charge.
- Become better at not getting caught.
- If you have power, then you may apply it as your opinion sees fit.

Power was given to her by the system. She applied it.
That is the lesson that she has learned.
She should be an absolute joy as an adult.

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I don't belive it I actualy agree with most of what RL said!!! Except...
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I feel bad about the teacher, but in a way, it's an ironic kind of justice that the kinds of accusations the schools are teaching our kids to make are now being turned back on them.



I don't know if its the same in the US, but over here that PC nanny state attitude is foisted onto the teachers who are as much victims of it as everyone else. I have a friend who is a primary school teacher and she isn't even allowed to help a child remove an earing if they ask as she isn't allowed to have any physical contact with the children. Alot o them are from homes where they are neglected or abused and are so starved of respect and attention that they often call her mum and even hug her, yet according to the rules she has to just stand there like a statue. I feel sorry for the teachers.


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"Your daughter thinks you're going to kill her."



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- Whoever is doing the beating is in charge.
- Become better at not getting caught.
- If you have power, then you may apply it as your opinion sees fit.



Maybe she should run for president of the USA.
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- Whoever is doing the beating is in charge.
- Become better at not getting caught.
- If you have power, then you may apply it as your opinion sees fit.



Maybe she should run for president of the USA.

Why? We have one that does that already_____________________________________________
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For the most part this guy is right.

But know I stand here waiting for the Dr Spock crowd to flame me.

I grew up getting my butt beat when I needed it. It wasn't domestic violence then and it is not domestic violence now.

(But that in not what the lib eleitists want us to believe....:S)
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if we falter and lose our freedoms,
it will be because we destroyed ourselves."
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For the most part this guy is right.

But know I stand here waiting for the Dr Spock crowd to flame me.

I grew up getting my butt beat when I needed it. It wasn't domestic violence then and it is not domestic violence now.

(But that in not what the lib eleitists want us to believe....:S)



I am all for an appropriate spanking on occassion as one method of discipline (but not as the ONLY method), but that is not my point here.

You sound just like Stephen Colbert on The Colbert Report in your manner of opinion (nice little digs on those who oppose your idea instead of justing saying what you believe in).

There is a key difference though...

but I will leave that for you to determine.;)
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For the most part this guy is right.

But know I stand here waiting for the Dr Spock crowd to flame me.

I grew up getting my butt beat when I needed it. It wasn't domestic violence then and it is not domestic violence now.

(But that in not what the lib eleitists want us to believe....:S)



I am all for an appropriate spanking on occassion as one method of discipline (but not as the ONLY method), but that is not my point here.

You sound just line Stephen Colbert on The Colbert Report in your manner of opinion (nice little digs on those who oppose your idea instead of justing saying what you believe in)

Only difference is, he is joking when he does it. :ph34r:[:/]



I fail to see what you consider as a dig but anyway,

...but I agree that spanking is only one tool in that should be in the box.......
"America will never be destroyed from the outside,
if we falter and lose our freedoms,
it will be because we destroyed ourselves."
Abraham Lincoln

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Whats acceptiable? Spanking on the rear with a belt enough to welt? A back hand across the face enough to bruise? I'm all for proper levels of spanking but I unfortunatually know that some people have anger issues and a simple swat on the rear quickly can be a back hand across the face if there is some trigger to it.

The line between proper physical disipline and abuse is one of those things like porn. I don't know what it is until I see it, then I know its abuse. A quick firm swat may be proper but hitting with phone cords? Some people say yes... others say no. Whats your opinion on it? Hit hard enough to leave a welt, but if you hit what it don't welt its ok?
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For the most part this guy is right.



Just a little too harsh.

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I grew up getting my butt beat when I needed it. It wasn't domestic violence then and it is not domestic violence now.



Depends.

A spanking? But what about a belt? I remember the belt. I also remember being 14 years old and getting my face beaten into a hardwood floor--for telling my sister that she needed to stay out of my stuff. She was my father's favorite, and he protected her.

From 15 to 18, I lived in foster care, a group home, a residential school. Some people don't know how to temper themselves, and someone does need to do it for them. But where does one draw the line?

I spanked my daughter...one time I even wrapped my hands in her hair and dragged her to her room (try it, it's pretty painless)...but I never did it often and I never did it hard, and I never used anything but the flat of my hand. As far as I'm concerned, anything more than that in the way of physical punishment is unacceptable.

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(But that in not what the lib eleitists want us to believe....:S)



The pendulum always swings before it settles.

rl
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Whats acceptiable? Spanking on the rear with a belt enough to welt? A back hand across the face enough to bruise? I'm all for proper levels of spanking but I unfortunatually know that some people have anger issues and a simple swat on the rear quickly can be a back hand across the face if there is some trigger to it.

The line between proper physical disipline and abuse is one of those things like porn. I don't know what it is until I see it, then I know its abuse. A quick firm swat may be proper but hitting with phone cords? Some people say yes... others say no. Whats your opinion on it? Hit hard enough to leave a welt, but if you hit what it don't welt its ok?



Extreems can be brought up in any situation.

Age and many other factors can all come in play here.

But in the long run, common sense comes to mind.

What do you think? Time out is enough?

(by the way, I do not beat my boys...)
"America will never be destroyed from the outside,
if we falter and lose our freedoms,
it will be because we destroyed ourselves."
Abraham Lincoln

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Again, the stuff you list is (in my opinion) way over the top. In most cases if the parent is preforming a disiplinary type act, just the slap on the butt hurts the feelings instead of the body, but it does leave an impression, not a mark.

Anyway, extreems can always be brought up ......

I did not think that is what the topic was here
"America will never be destroyed from the outside,
if we falter and lose our freedoms,
it will be because we destroyed ourselves."
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Again, the stuff you list is (in my opinion) way over the top. In most cases if the parent is preforming a disiplinary type act, just the slap on the butt hurts the feelings instead of the body, but it does leave and inpression, not a mark.

Anyway, extreems can always be brought up ......

I did not think that is what the topic was here



Because of examples like the one I gave about myself, the liberals came along and made new rules that allowed to occur the example I gave about my daughter.

The same applies to situations involving incest and inappropriate touching of children by other adults.

Which is why a whole bunch of daycare operators went through hell in the 80s and why now, if a child makes an allegation, it is still believed, even though there is evidence to indicate that children do lie, particularly when they are oppositional-defiant teenagers.

So while it's not the topic, it sheds light on the topic, and you can't just sweep it under the rug as inconsequential.

Who makes the rules, who draws the line? Who decides?

rl
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Who makes the rules, who draws the line? Who decides?

rl



Who do you think should?

As a general rule anyway?
"America will never be destroyed from the outside,
if we falter and lose our freedoms,
it will be because we destroyed ourselves."
Abraham Lincoln

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I don't belive it I actualy agree with most of what RL said!!! Except...

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I feel bad about the teacher, but in a way, it's an ironic kind of justice that the kinds of accusations the schools are teaching our kids to make are now being turned back on them.



I don't know if its the same in the US, but over here that PC nanny state attitude is foisted onto the teachers who are as much victims of it as everyone else. I have a friend who is a primary school teacher and she isn't even allowed to help a child remove an earing if they ask as she isn't allowed to have any physical contact with the children. Alot o them are from homes where they are neglected or abused and are so starved of respect and attention that they often call her mum and even hug her, yet according to the rules she has to just stand there like a statue. I feel sorry for the teachers.




And yet, whenever I go off against nanny state bullshit, you argue tooth-and-nail with me, coming off as a champion for exactly this kind of nonsense. :S

Now you oppose it, now you don't. Is that your game?


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...Repect does not equal fear...
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If you believe the two have nothing to do with each other, I suggest the next time you drive past a state trooper aiming a radar gun at your car you give him the finger.

Spanking a teenage child for such an abusive accusation is not "domestic violence." This phrase has traditionally been reserved for such things as punching out your wife because she burned your dinner.

How much you wanna bet that, when she was much younger, her parents gave in to this "spanking-is-child-abuse" mythology, which resulted in a snotty little teenage cunt who thinks nothing of pulling the stunt she did?

Cheers,
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I agree with everything he is saying with the exception of

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While beating the shit out of a 15-year-old would be a lot of fun, it really won't do anything to change a behavior pattern. That's why you need to start beating them early.
I'm not suggesting that you use a dowel rod on them as soon as they can stand. That young a gentle paddling is as harsh as a severe beating. But by three or four years you should be laying into your kids with belts, rulers, shoes, curtain rods, phone cords, cigarettes, staplers and whatever else you can get creative with.
Trust Uncle Chadwick. If you take these measures your daughter will not grow up to be a lying little tramp who makes up stories about being molested just for the attention.




Other then the above he is right.
Time out is the stupidest idea I have ever seen.
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...Repect does not equal fear...
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If you believe the two have nothing to do with each other, I suggest the next time you drive past a state trooper aiming a radar gun at your car you give him the finger.

Spanking a teenage child for such an abusive accusation is not "domestic violence." This phrase has traditionally been reserved for such things as punching out your wife because she burned your dinner.

How much you wanna bet that, when she was much younger, her parents gave in to this "spanking-is-child-abuse" mythology, which resulted in a snotty little teenage cunt who thinks nothing of pulling the stunt she did?



If you re-read my original post, you will see that I said 'planting the seeds of domestic violence". No I don't believe an occasional spanking is child abuse. I do however KNOW that abuse is most often times something that happens gradually over time, starting with something benign and then escalating because of a lack of self control on the part of the parent.

Grabbing everything in sight to use in a beating as the article suggested is quite literally a lack of self control.

I will stand by respect does not equal fear until I take my last breath. Period. I respect your opinion if you do not agree, but I do not support it. I have been on both sides of that issue with both humans and animals and my proof is in my experiences in that regard.

I am not inclined to make a judgement or assumption on how this child was raised or what led to her actions. I will say if a child doesn't respect you growing up, it is not going to magically happen overnight at 15. I will also say, the 'beat the snot out of the teacher' reaction by the father says a lot about his problem solving skills and self control.

For your reference to the trooper, it might please you to know I do respect the officers and their position, but I do not fear them, and I have on several occasions called them on it when they were out of line (trust me they certainly didn't fear me, but when the dust cleared, they most certainly respected me!).
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If you believe the two have nothing to do with each other, I suggest the next time you drive past a state trooper aiming a radar gun at your car you give him the finger.



At least in my state, there's not much he can do to you unless you happen to be speeding. It's known as "freedom of expression."

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Spanking a teenage child for such an abusive accusation is not "domestic violence." This phrase has traditionally been reserved for such things as punching out your wife because she burned your dinner.



No one was talking about spanking the teenager for her accusation, and a spanking is unnecessary. The judge is going to take care of her. Making false accusations is a crime. But you're wrong about what "domestic violence" describes, and it is most certainly applied to the use of excessive force in disciplining children.

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How much you wanna bet that, when she was much younger, her parents gave in to this "spanking-is-child-abuse" mythology, which resulted in a snotty little teenage cunt who thinks nothing of pulling the stunt she did?



I'll bet you that she is an emotionally, if not physically, abused child. Her father clearly has a problem keeping his cool.

rl
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the next time you drive past a state trooper aiming a radar gun at your car you give him the finger.

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At least in my state, there's not much he can do to you unless you happen to be speeding. It's known as "freedom of expression."



Even if it's covered under "freedom of expression", abusive "expression" does that concept a real disservice and it takes a real wimp to be ignorant and pissy in a childish gesture to then HIDE under the cloak of freedom of expression when someone stands up to them.

That said, it also takes a childish cop to chase the other child down and find an excuse to ticket them for simple gesture of disrepect. In that case, I think the two would deserve each other. In that case, the cop would be in the wrong legally in abusing his position of authority, but both would be children. {I had to write this last sentence for those that are incapable of being able to separate what I wrote above from my taking any position other than this one).

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At least in my state, there's not much he can do to you unless you happen to be speeding. It's known as "freedom of expression."



Even if it's covered under "freedom of expression", abusive "expression" does that concept a real disservice and it takes a real wimp to be ignorant and pissy in a childish gesture to then HIDE under the cloak of freedom of expression when someone stands up to them.

That said, it also takes a childish cop to chase the other child down and find an excuse to ticket them for simple gesture of disrepect. In that case, I think the two would deserve each other. In that case, the cop would be in the wrong legally in abusing his position of authority, but both would be children. {I had to write this last sentence for those that are incapable of being able to separate what I wrote above from my taking any position other than this one).



All agreed. But the point Jon wanted to make is that fear equates to respect, and this was his example.

There aren't too many people of whom I've been afraid for whom I've had much (if any) respect. As a matter of fact, in giving it some thought, I'm pretty sure that respect is never engendered by fear. Self-preservation may dictate that we have to kowtow to those who are bigger and stronger than we are (figuratively and literally), but I can't think of an instance where such a reaction arises from respect.

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I get this column below in my email on Saturday. Most of the time this person is just a raving idiot and it serves for a good laugh. This weeks column though I actually agree somewhat with. Now I think that at the end of the column he is out of line but the point he is getting at I agree with. I was wondering how the rest of you feel about it:
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I just read an interesting story about a dude in Florida who threw a high school teacher a beating in front of his class because the teacher supposedly touched the guy's 15-year-old daughter inappropriately (on her boobies). Your first reaction to this story might be, 'Good for him!
If some weirdo teacher was fondling my 15-year-old daughter's boobies I'd throw him a beating, too.' But there's more to this particular swamp opera.
As it turns out, the teacher had given the girl a detention for dumping a pop out of a second floor window onto the head of another student. In order to get back at the teacher for this inconvenience to her gum-chewing schedule, the girl decided to ruin the teacher's career by concocting the story and getting her little girlfriends to corroborate it.
A one hour detention, and an entire career shot to hell. I guess that sounds like an even trade to what passes for a mind in a 15-year-old girl.
Well, it didn't take long for one of the little cock-teases to crack and confess the entire conspiracy. So the teacher got a shot in the face and a paid vacation. The dad is facing a law suit. And the girls face possible expulsion from school. But what is the real, underlying problem here? If you're in possession of even a mere moiety of your marbles you should be able to see it right off.
Instead of beating on poor, innocent teachers, that fat, redneck father should have been beating on his daughter since she was old enough to stand.
It all comes down to a lack of discipline. Modern parents are too unwilling to apply the back of the hand or a little leather to their childrens' backsides and therefore foster in them the belief that they can get away with absolutely anything.
It all comes down to fear. If your child isn't afraid of
you, why should he or she be afraid of ruining some poor slob's career?
Plus, physical discipline is so much more effective and easier then 'time-outs' or grounding or revoking privileges. If, say, a child commits some infraction you could ground him or her for a week, meaning you have to police them every minute of the day, in addition to listening to endless
whining and complaining. Or, you could immediately apply the belt vigorously for a few minutes and promise more of the same if you catch the child even looking like he's thinking of doing whatever it is he did again.
Of course, by 15 the best opportunity for discipline is
already long past. While beating the shit out of a 15-year-old would be a lot of fun, it really won't do anything to change a behavior pattern. That's why you need to start beating them early.
I'm not suggesting that you use a dowel rod on them as soon as they can stand. That young a gentle paddling is as harsh as a severe beating. But by three or four years you should be laying into your kids with belts, rulers, shoes, curtain rods, phone cords, cigarettes, staplers and whatever else you can get creative with.
Trust Uncle Chadwick. If you take these measures your daughter will not grow up to be a lying little tramp who makes up stories about being molested just for the attention.

Drop dead,

Chadwick



I quoted all that just to say:

WHAT A CROCK OF SHIT! The dad and columnist belong together. Funny thing is, no discussion of what the ignorant redneck dad's child-rearing approach has been. I'll bet it would be an eye-opener.

Maybe like Forest Gumps girlfriend; who for some reason never wanted to be at home much.
" . . . the lust for power can be just as completely satisfied by suggesting people into loving their servitude as by flogging them and kicking them into obedience." -- Aldous Huxley

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