triednolike 0 #1 May 16, 2001 Post deleted by triednolike Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wingnut 0 #2 May 16, 2001 first and foremost..a place to have fun!!!! if ya meet somebody at the dz all the more power to ya....as for married people at dz's there are a few, alot of people have non-skydiving signifigant others...."if dreams are like movies, then memories are like films about ghosts"-counting crows Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lazerq3 0 #3 May 16, 2001 I'll tell you this,,, I've been married for 4 years now and I just started jumping this spring. I've been hanging out at the DZ almost every weekend. however I would only do this one day out of the weekend (my weekends being Fri,Sat,Sun). The first thing I did and do when ever I'm in a group of people is to mention something about my wife so there will be know misinterpretations of my status. For me I go to either jump,hangout and talk to other jumpers(M or F) or cause my wife went somewhere with her friends and I've got nothing to do that day. Every one there has pretty much met her and my little girl and she knows and trusts that I'm just there to share a common passion with other people who jump. As for hooking up with any body ..... sure I'll hook up with a female jumper at 10,000ft turning points in a 2,3,4,5,ect....way!!!! But on the ground where all just freinds. Guess this really doesnt answer your ??? but thats how I see it!!!!jason Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SkymonkeyONE 4 #4 May 16, 2001 It is my experience that married people who's spouses are also skydivers have a lot better chance of staying around the sport seriously. I grew up on a DZ. My Dad stayed there most every weekend; my mom did not go at all. They divorced when I was seven. There are exceptions to every rule, of course. My father re-married two years later and has been with the same woman for over 25 years; she is not a jumper. She HAS made two tandems and does occasionally come out, but has no reason to distrust my dad, so they don't have any problems with him spending his entire weekend out there. My wife and I both spend tons of time at the DZ. We keep our RV there and generally stay from Saturday morning till Monday morning. If she feels like staying at home and doing yard work or something else though, she has no problem with me being there "by myself". She knows I couldn't give a shit about "hooking up" as you put it. I am VERY hapilly married and everyone knows it, so if I were trying to show my ass, then I would be narc'd out immediately. Besides, what would I be getting if I cheated with some other DZ chick? A less talented skydiver than my 2,700 jump wife, obviously; no thanks.Do other married people make that mistake? Of course they do, and then they become divorced in short order. The DZ is a place to socialize and skydive. I have found few other sports or hobbies that have such a diverse crowd of individuals coming together to enjoy the same thing. Single skydivers are always on the lookout for someone who shares that same interest, so of course they are trying to grab them a skydiving mate. Nothing wrong with that. If you are not a jumper, but are married to a person who does and you are more and more jealous of their time spent there, then you are probably going to have a problem. If that person spent all their time on the DZ before you got together, then you can't expect them to just give it up. Your post was pretty ambiguous, but it seemed like you were fishing for an excuse to raise hell with your mate.Chuck Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Donna 0 #5 May 17, 2001 Hey. No fair. I didn't get to see the original question. But anyway. My husband did 6 S/L jumps back in college. Then 20 years later I did a tandem and fell in love with the sport. We both decided to take it up together and we've been having a blast and are closer than ever. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Merrick 0 #6 May 17, 2001 I Sure would like to have seen this load of bullshit.... Pam & I started jumping together & we both love it. However, it doesn't in any way define our love for each other. True, we seem to get closer & closer the more we skydive, but who's to say that wouldn't happen sitting at home on the couch... It's all time & history, our love is built on US, NOTHING else!!I love you baby, I'm glad you skydive.... but I'd love you if all you did was cross-stitch."Grab the grass, it's the bounce that kills!"Merrick Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Zennie 0 #7 May 17, 2001 Short answer... yes.It's all a matter of how strong your relationship is. My wife's a whuffo, but she knows how much I love the sport and doesn't give me a whole lot of grief. If a relationship breaks up because of skydiving or anything else, that's just a sign that there wasn't a very strong relationship to begin with. My wife and I communicate all the time. And even though she's a whuffo, she's fairly well versed in safety issues because I talk to her about them all the time. When a fatality is reported, I explain what happened and what measures you can take to avoid it.It's all about communication.------------Blue Skies!Zennie Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PLFXpert 0 #8 May 17, 2001 YES! I'm not sure how much that *yes* applies to married couples in which one is not a skydiver but when both are skydivers, I say a full-hearted YES! My boyfriend has over 3,000 skydives and has been in the sport for 8 years. I just went through AFF at the end of last summer. I met my boyfriend after I graduated. We fell in love from that first day and literally have been together ever since. He has never had a girlfriend who skydives and loves every mintue of it. As do I having a skydiving boyfriend! We decided officially a few months ago we wanted to be together forever although both of us knew it from the first day we met and were too chicken to tell each other for fear it would scare the other off. Anyways.......just look at PAMMI AND MERRICK too! Skydiving with your true love is like the ultimate high. It means you can share anything with each other. You understand each other and it is awesome. In fact, I encourage it. I think all skydivers should marry within the skydiving community. Ha ha ha. I guess that is a little prejudice against whuffo's if you think about it but there's just no way for a whuffo to understand this passion fully. However, I do have to cover my ass here and say that I do have a couple friends who are very renown skydivers with whuffo wives and everything seems to be working out awesome. Even still, I think it takes an incredible woman if they don't skydive who would put up with their husbands being gone all the time and focusing their lives around skydiving. I say the man being gone skydiving b/c in the case of the 3 people I know with succesfful marriages, in all 3, it is the wife that is the whuffo. Anyways....I've gone off on a tangent. To sum it up: A definite YES if both are skydivers and a SOMETIMES if one is not a skydiver in my opinion.Much love and blue skies,Carrie http://www.geocities.com/skydivegrl20/ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lazerq3 0 #9 May 17, 2001 Just to let you all know the question had something to do with whether or not it was good for a married person to hang out at the DZ for fear or hopes of "hooking up" with someone else. I think this person has some issues or something. I agree with everyhing everybody has said though!!jason Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
pyke 0 #10 May 17, 2001 I would have to say that I can understand the passion attached with the sport. And, I bet it would be hard for a whuffo partner to allow that much passion to distract their partners attention. BUT, Merrick is right. It is based on people, not a sport, and if you aren't a strong couple, then you aren't going to be a strong relationship with skydiving either.PLFXpert...does this mean we should all plan on the "wedding of the year" sometime soon. Sounds like someone's engaged!!!!???Kia Kaha,PykeNZPF A-2584 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PLFXpert 0 #11 May 17, 2001 Ha ha ha.....not engaged......YET! We have quite a few friends getting married and been to a couple weddings recently so have talked about it. We know we want to be together forever. It's weird though....up until I met my boyfriend, I NEVER wanted to get married. I always said getting married was the surest way to divorce and if you truly loved someone you'd just stay together forever. Ha ha ha.....but that was before I ever fell in love. I guess I see the point now. It's still a BIG THING THOUGH. But like I said....I think all skydivers should marry within the skydiving community! There are just too many awesome guys and girls in this sport to have to look anywhere else!Much love and blue skies,Carrie http://www.geocities.com/skydivegrl20/ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
pyke 0 #12 May 17, 2001 Awww, PLFXpert...you're making me all weepy!That is cool that you have found your mate. (I hate you!!!I am stuck in single land and not loving it. I would love to be in the relationship it sounds like you're in.Here's to that inevitable day in the future...when he "pops" the question. ClinkTell him to hurry up, before we all get old and gray, we always need a reason to come to Florida!! He better not let you get away!Kia Kaha,PykeNZPF A-2584 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Emma 0 #13 May 17, 2001 Damnation! Wish I'd seen that post...maybe it's a troll?But since we're on the subject....I do think there's something about skydiving that raises hormonal levels or something. My DZ seems to be having an outbreak of shag-fever! Honestly, everyone is shagging everyone! (Whoops, that sets the cat among the pigeons eh?)However, there are a few (and I mean a FEW) who just aren't in that scene at all. My boyfriend and I have been together for a-a-a-ges, and once people sussed that we really were a couple (we both jump so there's no whuffo/skydiver issue there) then they kind of respected it. In fact, I think people would be pretty horrified if either of us played around.There are also at least...ooh....5 other stable couples at my DZ....However, I think SINGLE skydivers do kind of ..erm...well...shag each other. A lot. Something to do with the adrenaline, the bonding associated with freefalling...skydivers being the best people around and therefore more worthy of shagging?Same old story though....if you're in a solid relationship all that becomes redundant. Even if male skydivers are the most shaggable men on the planet Cheers,emma Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freaksister 0 #14 May 17, 2001 You're right, not everyone is into the "shagging scene." I have been a single skydiver since I started, a year ago...and I've don't get into that at all. I see it going on my DZ though. We all stand around the keg and wonder who _______ is taking to his trailer tonight! It kind of disgusts me, it is so unsafe, but skydivers will be skydivers so let them shag I guess! Personally I don't want that reputation...I am known as the girl everyone has tried to get with but no one has ever succeeded, no matter how fucked up I was! I think its all about self-respect!!Sis"What we're all really seeking is something where we can feel the rapture of being alive."J.Campbell Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
pyke 0 #15 May 17, 2001 Sis, you are SO FULL OF SHIT and you know why I say that!!!!But, you're right Emma, skydivers are the most shaggable people on the planet (referring to which ever sex floats your particular boat)! I would have to say that I have met some older and some younger women who skydive, but all of them have been completely shaggable...must be something about the constant fixes of adrenaline. Hey, maybe somebody could research this...a natural steroid for your libido!! Doesn't mean I act on it, of course.Kia Kaha,PykeNZPF A-2584 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PLFXpert 0 #16 May 17, 2001 NOT ALL SKYDIVERS ARE LIKE THAT! My boyfriend is the second man I've ever been with and the first was not really by choice. Yes, I love shagging every chance I get and every way possible but only WITH HIM! Not every other guy at the DZ. I know quite a few other skydivers like that as well. Not all skydivers are promiscous! Way to go FreakSis!Much love and blue skies,Carrie http://www.geocities.com/skydivegrl20/ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freaksister 0 #17 May 17, 2001 Thanks, Carrie! Pyke: I am not promiscuous!! I know what you were getting at however!! Just because I love sex doesn't mean I get very much...since I am selective! Also...you are a guy so of course all the women you meet at the DZ are going to be shaggable! Men will fuck anything! Sis"What we're all really seeking is something where we can feel the rapture of being alive."J.Campbell Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
pyke 0 #18 May 17, 2001 Sis, that is not what I am talking about, and you should know what I am getting at!You are NOT promiscuous, and I NEVER said that!Need I remind you about a certain person at your last dz??Kia Kaha,PykeNZPF A-2584 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freaksister 0 #19 May 17, 2001 Yeah, that ONE person, true. He was the only one though...Sis "What we're all really seeking is something where we can feel the rapture of being alive."J.Campbell Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Merrick 0 #20 May 17, 2001 Quote"you are a guy so of course all the women you meet at the DZ are going to be shaggable! Men will fuck anything!"Ohhhh... Bwahahahahaha, Ouch! Don't generalize girl, I'm as picky as some of the most tight-assed women out there! "Grab the grass, it's the bounce that kills!"Merrick Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PalmettoTiger 1 #21 May 17, 2001 QuoteHe was the only one though...Umm... not to say anything about 'Sis because I've never even met her, but you're just asking to be made fun of!"Honey, is this your first time?""Yeah... but why do guys always ask that?" Blues, squares,PTiger Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freaksister 0 #22 May 17, 2001 OK OK OK!!! Everybody just shut up!!!!Sis"What we're all really seeking is something where we can feel the rapture of being alive."J.Campbell Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
