Jessica 0 #1 June 20, 2001 Do y'all believe in soul mates? One person you're meant for who completes you? Or do you think there are innumerable people with whom you could have a great life?My vote: the latter. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Tee 0 #2 June 20, 2001 I think that there are lots of people that you can adapt to and live very happily with, and until I met my sweetie, I thought that was what a true soul mate was. But my b/f and I catch each other calling at the same time and both getting busy signal, or dreaming the same dreams, or buying the same things at the store etc. There is definitely some sort of connection that I never realized could exist.Things that make you go hmmmm...... Tee Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PLFKING 4 #3 June 20, 2001 I agree with Tee -- when you find someone special, it's fantastic......but when you find a soul-mate, it's almost like being reborn, or a feeling that such great good luck CAN"T be earned -- it HAS to be a gift from a power much greater than you can comprehend.And it's either there, or it's not -- you can't MAKE it happen. I've always felt that everyone has about 10 perfect mates in the world -- that's why you have to really get to know (not just date) as many people as you can, to increase your odds of finding one of those perfect gems...The PLF Philosopher Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wingnut 0 #4 June 21, 2001 well................. that's a deep subject..........okay i think there is a soulmate for me out there somewhere but will i find that someone, i don't know, i do know that there are many perfectly good matches out there for me, now the hard part though.....i have to find them.............."if dreams are like movies, then memories are like films about ghosts"-counting crows Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lazerq3 0 #5 June 21, 2001 Outta over 6 BILLION people.....cant be too hard to find "that one"!!!jason Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
MC208B 0 #6 June 21, 2001 Not sure about the soul mate jazz, I'll settle for a packin bitch! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skybytch 273 #7 June 21, 2001 QuoteI'll settle for a packin bitch!Careful, packing bitches are pretty high maintenance... and some of them bite!pull and flare,lisa Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skyhawk 2 #8 June 21, 2001 i dont think there are soul mates just people whoses personalitys fit together well Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mccordia 74 #9 June 21, 2001 I think it's like a 1000 piece puzzle.Sure...there is only one piece that fits into another one.And if you see a piece of a puzzle you like, but it don't fit.....smash and hit it untill it fits :)Okay...this is childish, foolish and stupid..shutting up now :)9:04 AM, gotta work till 5:00 PM, perfect skydiving weather outside, and no chance of me doing anything about it for another 3 weeks..:(Cya,JC Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Pammi 0 #10 June 21, 2001 QuoteI agree with Tee -- when you find someone special, it's fantastic......but when you find a soul-mate, it's almost like being reborn, or a feeling that such great good luck CAN"T be earned -- it HAS to be a gift from a power much greater than you can comprehend.And it's either there, or it's not -- you can't MAKE it happen. I've always felt that everyone has about 10 perfect mates in the world -- that's why you have to really get to know (not just date) as many people as you can, to increase your odds of finding one of those perfect gems...Beautiful! Perfect! You and Tee said it wonderfully. Merrick and I do the same thing...say things at the same time or that the other person is thinking, that kind of thing. I used to think I knew what love was, and perhaps I did, but not THIS kind of love. It's truly a blessing I'm not sure why I received, but I'll take it! :)I think you CAN make do, even find some happiness, with many people. However, soulmates is a whole other thing. You're together infinitely.PammiSome new pics. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
GeekStreak 0 #11 June 21, 2001 Lordy, lordy, Jessica. Such a deep question for so early in the day.My $0.02:I am currently experiencing that special bond with my honey. I gave up on the idea of a soul mate after my divorce. When I met Sheri I began to change my view. At this point I couldn't be happier. We definitely fit in many ways. I don't know if there is such a thing as a soul mate. If there is, I FOUND MINE. If there isn't, I really just got lucky Either way, I'm happier now than I have ever been, and plan to keep it going forever 1111,GeekStreak Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ADRNALN 0 #12 June 21, 2001 Jessica:Why are you looking? Hmmmmm........ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PhillyKev 0 #13 June 21, 2001 Everyone knows rock music has all of life's answers...."If you can't be with the one you love, love the one you're with." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jessica 0 #14 June 21, 2001 QuoteJessica:Why are you looking? Hmmmmm........Always. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ADRNALN 0 #15 June 21, 2001 I do believe I feel a roadtrip coming on. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jessica 0 #16 June 21, 2001 QuoteI do believe I feel a roadtrip coming on.Oh my goodness.Quoteokay i think there is a soulmate for me out there somewhere but will i find that someone, i don't know, i do know that there are many perfectly good matches out there for me, now the hard part though.....i have to find them..............So, Wingy, if you believe in soul mates, but you settle for someone who is a "good match," wouldn't that bug you? Knowing you're not with that perfect mate? Thanks for indulging me, y'all. This has been on my mind lately. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wingnut 0 #17 June 21, 2001 QuoteSo, Wingy, if you believe in soul mates, but you settle for someone who is a "good match," wouldn't that bug you? Knowing you're not with that perfect mate? now your gona make me explain my thinking????? well, okay i'll do it for you........well for the soul mate thing yes there is that one persone out there for me the perfect one, but maybe she is living in china right now and will never make it to my part of the world or me to hers or maybe she is living next door and i just never took the time to get to know her, it all is a game of chance, ya go with what ya get and and don't think about what ya could of had. with most things in life everybody wants something better, always trying to get that new car/canopy/anything. in a relashionship ya gota take the one that ya got and make the best of it, i mean your not gona take one that just doesn't work and make it work but take one that is working good and make it the best it can be and not always try to be looking around the corner for one that is better, cause if ya are then you'll never really be happy with the one ya have."if dreams are like movies, then memories are like films about ghosts"-counting crows Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
DZBone 0 #18 June 21, 2001 The man is wise beyond his years.While there are great relationships that seem somehow "magical", like our own Merrick and Pammi, it is unrealistic and self-defeating to think that this is just going to happen to us, if only we find the "right" mate.All relationships take immense work and compromise. Deal with it. Find someone you can work well with, that you can be yourself with, and who is willing to put up with your bullshit, and your 90% there. The rest is blood, sweat and tears.Or, decide to be alone, use escorts and packers, and do all the heavy lifting on your own! Carl Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
DZBone 0 #19 June 21, 2001 By the way, I am a relationship idiot. Please don't listen to anything I have to say on the subject. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PhillyKev 0 #20 June 22, 2001 "Or, decide to be alone, use escorts and packers, and do all the heavy lifting on your own!"Now that's wise! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Pammi 0 #21 June 22, 2001 QuoteWhile there are great relationships that seem somehow "magical", like our own Merrick and Pammi...Ah! How sweet! Don't think that there isn't work and compromise with us too, though. Believe you me! I like to drink and go party sometimes, he doesn't and would rather stay in. I had two kids already when we met, so he had to learn a lot of compromise, as did I to give him the freedom to learn how to be a good father to them. When we first moved in together, it was nasty sometimes...there's a hole in our wall for a reason after all *grin*. We just both believe in a relationship not always being easy, taking some work, and giving in when you're wrong (or you just want to make the other happy more then you want to be right). Being so in love just makes the other stuff easier to bear :) My ex once said "I didn't think I was getting another job when I got married." Um, jackass. Yeah it's a job! The most important one of your life! It shouldn't have to always be work, but it does take some effort.Besides, I never would've gotten with anyone just like me...we'd have annilated each other in the first 6 months! I'm way to bitchy, but he keeps me nicely medicated :) heheThere's someone for everyone!!! Many mistakes later, I was blessed with finding my split-apart. Don't know why, but I'm grateful. It probably literally saved my life!Love to all!PammiSome new pics. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Cacophony 0 #22 June 22, 2001 I think that there are just some people that work really well together whether they are soul mates or not I don't really know. I just hope that my girl is the one because I couldn't stand to lose her.Safe landings,Alex D-23912 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Merrick 0 #23 June 22, 2001 Quote"While there are great relationships that seem somehow "magical", like our own Merrick and Pammi, it is unrealistic and self-defeating to think that this is just going to happen to us, if only we find the "right" mate.All relationships take immense work and compromise. Deal with it. Find someone you can work well with, that you can be yourself with, and who is willing to put up with your bullshit, and your 90% there. The rest is blood, sweat and tears."You know, you're absolutely right... That's exactly how you get that one perfect relationship - Blood, sweat, and tears!! While I've dated several great women that I really liked there was always something that I could just NEVER get past... then, I met my Pammi. We became friends at first, talking on the phone & computer for hours & hours at a time for over a year. Every time I talked to her she just mesmerized me more & more, but I hadn't even met her yet (we met online for those of you that don't know). I already felt so incredibly whole & complete (pardon the Jerry McGuire cliché'). Finally, I just HAD to see her.... so I drove the 4 hours to her house, and knew, right then & there, that she was 'it' for me! I'm sorry for this incoherent drabble, & sorry if it doesn't really make any sense to any of you.... but it does to me (us) & that's what matters! I love Pamela more than she'll ever truly believe & I know that there's nobody else out there that could ever even come close to making me as happy as she does, & I hope she feels the same about me! Yeah, I do believe that there are several people in the world that a person can "live with" or "settle for," but man they can't touch the kind of relationship, the kind of love that Pam & I have!!! Maybe we're just lucky or maybe everybody is destined to find their split-apart... regardless, I am DEFINITELY lucky!!! So back to the ultimate question... do I think there's one perfect person out there for everybody, a "soul mate?" ABSOFUCKINLUTELY!!!! Good luck in finding her/him!"OMG there I was, thought I was going to die.. she walks in with a can of motoroil & jumpercables.." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lummy 4 #24 June 22, 2001 Very strange coincidence that a friend of mine and I were just talking about this. My friend being one of the lucky (IMO) to have found her soul mate, I was interested in how she accomplished it since I have NO luck with relationships. Long story short, she got fed up with the BS relationships and decided to just sit back and watch others that worked well while she worked out what she REALLY wanted in a relationship. eventually, she found the "perfect mate"Moral of the story? You need to be content with yourself first. If you are, IF you do not love and treat yourself with respect and honesty, how can you ever expect to receive it from someone else? Enuf of my ramblings!!!Hey everyone, Long time no write!!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
GeekStreak 0 #25 June 23, 2001 QuoteAll relationships take immense work and compromise.There's a song that goes a little somethin like this..."Pride is the chief cause of the decline in the number of husbands and wifes."... Implying that we all need to get over ourselvs already DOH! We were definitely not soul mates!1111,GeekStreak Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
