favaks 0 #1 February 16, 2002 How often or likely does a woman date her male friend after they've been friends for some time? No joke please!favaks Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
FreeflyPlaymate 0 #2 February 16, 2002 for me, not very. I keep my friends as friends, that way it doesn't get confusing. actually all my friends are jumpers, and my biggest rule in dating is don't date an ex's friend. Which means I can only date one jumper lol cause we're all friends. I haven't found that one jumper (if he even is one) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Skystorm 0 #3 February 16, 2002 Just like FFPM, it's not for me. Keep your friends your friends, for if the relationship hits the rocks, that person's not going to be a friend any more.You have to work out for yourself if it's worth the risk of losing a friend to gain a (temporaly) lover.Hang onto Heaven, when hell is on your back Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jessica 0 #4 February 16, 2002 I never have. *shrug* Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skymama 37 #5 February 16, 2002 Well, ask yourself this...has she been giving you any indications that she would like to be more than friends too? If yes, then maybe she wants the same thing, and is just waiting for you to make the first move.AndreaThe brave may not live forever, but the timid may not live at all. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Skyrose7 0 #6 February 16, 2002 I think if there is chemistry that is worth chancing the friendship, then it is worth it. One of my best guy friends asked me out and it didn't work out. But, we are still best friends. Maybe I just got lucky though. It is a risky situation. I think that if the friendship is strong and you are both mature individuals, you should be fine. The mind is like a parachute--it works better when it is open. JUMP. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lazerq3 0 #7 February 16, 2002 Men cannot be friends with women wtihout sex getting in the way!!! - "when harry met Sally"jason Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Skyrose7 0 #8 February 16, 2002 i dunno, maybe me and this guy are only friends because we never did. does that even make logical sense?The mind is like a parachute--it works better when it is open. JUMP. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skymama 37 #9 February 16, 2002 I know firsthand that it is possible to be friends, then have a sexual relationship, then go back to being friends. But, the key is what someone else mentioned-you have to be mature about it, and you also have to agree with each other that first and foremost the friendship is the most important thing to you, no matter what.AndreaThe brave may not live forever, but the timid may not live at all. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Skyrose7 0 #10 February 16, 2002 I agree with you completely ( I was the one who said the thing about maturity). I think that you have to be completely honest with a friend when things aren't working out, and then there really isn't any reason for you still not to be friends (unless he always wanted something more). I'm sure there are other factors that could play into the the possibility of still being friends, I 'm just glad it worked out for me. :)The mind is like a parachute--it works better when it is open. JUMP. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
billvon 3,120 #11 February 16, 2002 >Keep your friends your friends, for if the relationship hits the rocks, that person's not going to be a friend any more.I 've heard this a lot, and at least for me it isn't true. I'm still close to all the women I've dated, and most of them have been skydivers to one degree or another. Some just did tandems, some are world record holders. There was only one that was really messy, but I'm still friends with her - though it took seven years to stop being mad at her.-bill von Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jumperpaula 0 #12 February 16, 2002 Quote >Keep your friends your friends, for if the relationship hits the rocks, that person's not going to be a friend any more. Then was that person really a friend to start with? P.S. Isn't that an N'Sync song? Fly Your Slot ! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freefallfreak 0 #13 February 16, 2002 What -- am I a minority here?? I married my best friend...TripleFWhat a long, strange trip it has been... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jumperpaula 0 #14 February 16, 2002 That's different. Your spouse should be your best friend. I live with my best friend too... Fly Your Slot ! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freefallfreak 0 #15 February 16, 2002 JP,QuoteYour spouse should be your best friend.Whew, ya' had me worried for a second...thought maybe I should have married my worst enemy...and cheated on her with my best friend....lol.TripleFWhat a long, strange trip it has been... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jumperpaula 0 #16 February 16, 2002 Quote How often or likely does a woman date her male friend after they've been friends for some time? Seems like if you've been friends for "some time" and you both single and available, that you would have thought about dating each other "after a while". Fly Your Slot ! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
billvon 3,120 #17 February 16, 2002 >>Keep your friends your friends, for if the relationship hits the rocks, that person's not going to be a friend any more.>Then was that person really a friend to start with? Hmm. Could you go out with someone who _wasn't_ a friend? I don't think I could.-bill von Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freefallfreak 0 #18 February 16, 2002 billvon,QuoteHmm. Could you go out with someone who _wasn't_ a friend? I don't think I could.If ya' go out with your worst enemy, and screw your brains out, you don't have to worry about breaking up and hard feelings..lol. On the other hand, if you date your best friend, you may wind up with (arrrgghh) kids (and DIAPERS...lol.)TripleF(Hey, don't follow my lead on this..I'm in enough trouble with my "better half" over this, as it is...lol) What a long, strange trip it has been... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SpeedRacer 1 #19 February 16, 2002 well anything's possible. I say, if it feels right go for it, but then, I'm a guy.I have dated women before & after we broke up we were still friends. Although it helps if there's some time apart after the breakup before you start hanging out together as friends.I don't think I'd have a prob dating a woman who was previously a friend, but women are more circumspect on this issue. What definitely doesn't work is trying to date a woman by starting out trying to be her buddy...Speed Racer"Fill your hand, you son-of-a-bitch!" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
