Ka-CHINK!

[freeflir29 0]

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I'm the picker oner huh

I can't help it....you are kinda cute.....

[blondeflyer7 0]

Sooooooo the truth comes out huh. You are so bad.

[Deuce 1]

Best wishes and good luck. The thing with the boy-toy will fail. They always do.

Beware the rebound, and hide your valuable stuff. She sounds nasty and mean, so protect your assets. She already broke your heart, fight like hell to keep her from wrecking you financially.

Cancel all the credit cards. All of them. Open new accounts for yourself and transfer old balances. Close the bank accounts.

Really bad credit card stuff can happen to you right now, so get aggressive in sealing yourself off from her financially. I'm sorry to be talking materialistic when your so emotionally bruised, but I've seen that financial stuff go so far South many times.

Good luck, blue skies!

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Yeah.....use contractors....I had offers but wanted to do that job myself. Unfortunately, I did. However, I did get to stand up in court and say "Your Honor, where I come from fucking another man's wife will pretty much get you an ass whoopin. So, thats exactly what I did." It was really hard to say with a straight face.....especially since the judge was from Texas and was also having a hard time trying to keep a straight face. Everyone seemed to think it was really funny...except the prosecutors and the ex-wife's camp....

bwhahahahahahaha you rock dude

I swear you must have footprints on the back of your helmet - chicagoskydiver
My God has a bigger dick than your god -George Carlin

[freeflir29 0]

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I've seen that financial stuff go so far South many times.

No doubt!!!!! Watch your ass....I got divorced in 1997 and not only is my credit still fucked up it's pertly responsible for the LOOOONG ass hold on getting a new job!!!!

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The thing with the boy-toy will fail

The ex-wife has really shocked me with this one. She remarried and as far as I know has stayed that way for about 5 years now. It's a new record for her. I guess she has to keep getting better with all this practice....

[skymedic 0]

Brother I know exactly how you feel....well my wife didn't leave due to a boytoy but left due to the base jumping...I totaly felt lonely...and hated it...but when things looked at there worst....I ended up meeting a great friend.....who 6 months later ended up being one of the greatest skychicky's out there...and she doesn't mind my BASE habit...

just remember you can take your BASE rig out of the hot airbaloons at WFFC.....yeee haaa....

if you need anything brother, let me know...

I have been there...and finaly am over it....slowly..

Marc
otherwise known as Mr.Fallinwoman....

[Zennie 0]

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Cancel all the credit cards. All of them. Open new accounts for yourself and transfer old balances. Close the bank accounts.

Well, I don't think it will come to that. But I am going to set up new bank accounts and start having my checks sent there mainly to get that process done anyway. I'll write her checks for half the bills until things are finalized.

I'm also going to set up a PO box and put in a change of address so that my mail comes to me.

As far as credit cards go, that's a very good idea. Can you shut down a CC even if there is an outstanding balance? I'd like to close off that avenue if possible. We're gonna need to pay it off anyway. Might as well end it now.

Don't need the PI. She's admitted everything anyway and I don't really see this being contested. Just like with the bills, she doesn't really want to deal with it and I think is content with me handling it. Fine by me.

- Z
"Always be yourself... unless you suck." - Joss Whedon

[Michele 1]

Hey, Zennie...

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Can you shut down a CC even if there is an outstanding balance? I'd like to close off that avenue if possible. We're gonna need to pay it off anyway. Might as well end it now.

I think it's possible. What I think happens is that the debt remains, there is no ability to make new charges, thus running the bills sky high and leaving you (because your name is on it) responsible for it. You just pay off the outstanding balance, with no opportunity to create a new one. And also make sure you have an agreement in writing with Liz about who is responsible about which bill...and that your lawyer is aware of it.

Call the cc co's, and ask them. Just let them know the situation, and find out their avenues for dealing with it. And start establishing cc's in your own name, too.

Here's hoping you heal rapidly, and find yourself whole, happy and free of residual crap. We are here if you need us, and lots of us have gone through it. You're not alone, Ted.

Ciels and pinks-
Michele

~Do Angels keep the dreams we seek
While our hearts lie bleeding?~

[freeflir29 0]

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Don't need the PI

I wouldn't spend the money on a PI. They are EXPENSIVE!!! Like a cheap one is about $50-150 an hour PLUS expenses. I certainly wouldn't be above getting a little video for safe keeping though. You say she has "admitted everything" I ask....To who? Is it on a notorized document or at least video tape? If not....it isn't admissable in court and is therefor worthless. I started out thinking divorce wasn't going to be a big deal other than the emotional trauma. That cost me $50,000+ and my son so far over the last 5 years. Don't take chances!!!!!!!! Please, listen to those of us that have been there.

[blondeflyer7 0]

I agree with Clay on this one P.I.'s are very BAD!!!

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If not....it isn't admissable in court and is therefor worthless.

Yeah it's hearsay, but I can always put her on the stand and then contradict the perjury.

But seriously, it's not going to come to that. Both of us agree that we just want this done with.

- Z
"Always be yourself... unless you suck." - Joss Whedon

[Zennie 0]

Oh. And I already have an individual checking account set up with a Visa check card. Gotta love Washington Mutual's online application.

- Z
"Always be yourself... unless you suck." - Joss Whedon

[blondeflyer7 0]

If you both agree GREAT!!!!!!!!!! As for the stand ......do you know how stupid the P.I. that was watching me was???????? Of course I wasn't doing anything though!!!!!!

[Jumperpaula 0]

I know this is hard for you. I think your doing the right thing, at this point.

Luv ya man!!
xoxoxox

[moodyskydiver 0]

I'm sorry to hear things arent going good for you, Zennie. You know if you ever need to talk or vent...PM me. You've helped me out when things were gloomy for me, now its my turn. If you want to get out of the house and hang out,give me a call or come up to Aggieland.I'm there almost every weekend. I'll keep you in my thoughts. Take care brother!

"...just an earthbound misfit, I."

[kingbunky 3]

you both want a simple end now, but wait 'til she finds a lawyerr that advises her to get everything she can, and convinces her it was all your fault for pushing her away and that she is entitled to all kinds of things. strike first... trust me, been there, done that.

"Hang on a sec, the young'uns are throwin' beer cans at a golf cart."
MB4252 TDS699
killing threads since 2001

[skymama 37]

Sorry to hear your heart got broken, Zennie. I'm sure things will look a little better in a few months once the dust clears.

Do you own a house? If you do, interest rates are so low now, you could refinance and roll your credit card debt into it, or even get a second mortgage for the debt. Then you could cancel the cards for sure. It's just an idea. That's what my ex and I did.

She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man,
because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon

[Zennie 0]

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Do you own a house? If you do, interest rates are so low now, you could refinance and roll your credit card debt into it, or even get a second mortgage for the debt.

Eh. I don't want the house. HE is literally just around the corner, her parents are a block away, one of her brothers is about 3 blocks away and it's about an hour commute to work.

But hey. If she can get refinancing for the house. Fine take it... so long as I get my share of the equity.

I don't care how it's divvied up. I just want my fair share.

And all I really need anyway is my rig.

- Z
"Always be yourself... unless you suck." - Joss Whedon

[cbain 0]

Hey Zennie,
Sorry to hear about everything. I understand how hard it can be. If you need an ear inside or outside the DZ just let me know. I filed for my divorce, uncontested, myself, no lawyer or anything so I know what all it takes and how a lot of it has to get done. Let me know if you need anything.
Are you jumping this weekend? I'm thinking about visiting Skydive Houston on Saturday or Sunday, not sure yet, so let me know.
Christina

[skycat 0]

*hugs* I know how hard it is, but don't worry it does get easier. I even worked at the same company as my X and had to see him almost everyday, so trust me when I say the pain does go away.

btw...Give yourself a year to have fun and heal before you start looking around again.
*hugs*kisses* from CO

Fly it like you stole it!

[skip 0]

Sorry to hear this Zennie: It sounds like you are dooing what has to be done for yourself and well, as many have said it only gets better over time. Come on out to Spaceland sometime we would all love to see ya. Ill pay up on this suit and buy beer to boot.

Hang in there dude.

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Give yourself a year to have fun and heal before you start looking around again

Heh. The last thing I need right now is another relationship.

Not that I would turn down the occasional ... um... recreational activity... so long as both parties understood it to be just that.

Oh... and ixnay on the uffos-way. Next time they're gonna be cool with skydiving & BASE. Don't care if they do it or not, but they gotta be cool with it.

- Z
"Always be yourself... unless you suck." - Joss Whedon

[dbattman 0]

I've never told anyone I was sorry to hear about a breakup or a divorce- so I won't say it. Everyone I've ever see split up, well, it was for the better- even if they didn't believe it at the time.

My last relationship dragged on for months after it was over and involved a ton of crap. I looked around for a bit after and wasn't pleased with most of my choices. So, I gave up and became a pilot and a skydiver.

What suprises me most- I'm a much happier man now than I can ever remember.

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Come on out to Spaceland sometime we would all love to see ya.

I'll be out Sunday. If the rain ever lets up.

- Z
"Always be yourself... unless you suck." - Joss Whedon

[drenaline 0]

Hey Zennie sorry to hear whats happening, but don't worry at the end everything will be great (am just a kid, am talking of what I have seen from others)

About the CC don't worry, you can close them up anytime you want. You wont be able to use the credit card anymore but the debt will still be there and cant be closed without paying, bummer.

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