0
SudsyFist

so what compels the female...

Recommended Posts

so what compels the female to, out of freakin' nowhere, pretentiously yet clumsily squeeze in the oh-so-cliche-and-ever-so-crass 'my boyfriend' comment into casual conversation with a member of the opposite sex?

"yeah, i just got a new car, but now i'm having second thoughts about the color. um, my boyfriend's a surfer. and so i'm wondering if the dealership will take it back..."

"i moved here a few years ago for school, and it's great... really laid back, and the weather... ohhh, the weather here's so much nicer than texas! and my boyfriend and i LOVE going to the beach..."

"thanks for emailing me back. i liked the pictures, and i'm sure my boyfriend will like them, too." :o:o:o

i've heard this shite too many damn times, directed not only at me (scha! as if! i'm usually pretty clear about my, um, situation...) but others, as well. what gives? i can't figure it out -- there is no specific prompt or stimulus, no patterns (other than its absolute likelihood), no rhyme nor reason. hell, it's even cross cultural!

i mean... today's winner is from a po-dunk town in the middle of the SWISS FREAKIN' ALPS! product-of-your-environment MY ASS -- this HAS GOT to be genetic! albi, you got the digs on that damn pair of x chromosomes yet???

maaaaaaaaannnnn... FUNK DAT! :D

steve

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
Ha ha ha.

Let me put it this way. For a lot of men, it's VERY hard to get a point across w/out being mean. Women who try to drop subtle, polite hints to a man in a bar that she is not interested, usually end up being bothered by that man the rest of the night. For some men, being a bitch is the only way to get a point across to them.

Now that the background information is out of the way...the "my boyfriend" comment comes in to play when, the girl might think you're cute, she might not, either way, she has a boyfriend and doesn't want to feel that she's leading you on. Why would a simple conversation lead you on? B/c some men, mentioned in background information, just take, ANYTHING as a sign that you want them. If you smile politely in a guy's direction, he might automatically think, "she wants me" and proceed to approach the woman and make some sly remark.
And so, the boyfriend comment is a defense mechanism, like, "i'm talking to you as a friend, not b/c I'm interested."

It all sounds complicated, but then again, women are the most complicated creatures on earth. For the most part, I don't understand them myself. You men should just accept that you'll never figure us out.

Me personally, I don't mention the boyfriend. It's pretty obvious, at the DZ that I'm BZs girl. I'm a BIG flirt, but that's as far as it goes and I don't feel I need to mention BZ b/c it's obvious, the difference between the attention I pay him, and the attention I pay other men. Outside of the DZ, to people who don't see me w/ my boyfriend, I rarely mention him unless it's pertinent to the conversation.

It's funny, though. I go to Starbucks EVERY morning and see the same scammers there and we always have friendly conversation. Then one morning BZ came w/ me and the next day, every one of them asked, "So was that your boyfriend?"

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
[putting on my best JLo imitation...]
is that your boyfriend?
I've got my girlfriend,
maybe we can BE friends,
lalalalala



[/end stupidity..]
I promise not to TP Davis under canopy.. I promise not to TP Davis under canopy.. eat sushi, get smoochieTTK#1

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
Quote

If you smile politely in a guy's direction, he might automatically think, "she wants me"



Doesn't she ? , oh i'm getting confused now. ;)


Quote

women are the most complicated creatures on earth.



Oh yeah , I think most men have worked that one out ;)
----------------------------------------------------------------------
If you think my attitude stinks you should smell my fingers

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
Quote


Quote



women are the most complicated creatures on earth.
men aren't that easy either... what's with a boyfriend of a year and a half suddenly chiming in with, don't worry honey, its not you, i love you and you are beautiful, I just get wiggy about the whole relationship thing sometimes.... So one asks, well are you saying that means you want to run for the hills sometimes... and he replies, well yea... AND YOU WONDER WHY WE CAN BE INSECURE SOMETIMES... my GODDDDDDDDDD you tell us you want us to be sucure in our relationships, and just when everything seems wonderful and good, you chime in with something like this... I JUST DON"T FREAKING GET IT!!!!!!!!!!! sorry i'm a bit upset today [unsure]

The key to walking on water... Is knowing where the rocks are

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
that's the truth... I Just don't get it... a year and a half and then a comment like that...[unsure][unsure] makes me sad...What is it with you boys? Some of you just can't get it together I guess... and notice I said SOME... I know that not all of you are like that...maybe I"m just being a brat today because I had my feelings hurt last night... I guess I'll just have to jump it out of my system...
what else is a girl to do

The key to walking on water... Is knowing where the rocks are

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
Quote


EXPECT THE UNEXPECTED AND KNOW THAT EVERYTHING THEY SAY ACTUALLY MEANS SOMETHING ELSE

Quote



All too true, All too true

It gets very difficult to "de-code" what a female signigicant other really means sometimes. Or even to understand why she just strated crying unexpectedly... or screaming... or pouting... or.....

Perhaps this is why, after a little time with you, we guys start looking differently at doors, windows... or freeway traffic :o


:)




My Karma ran over my Dogma!!!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
I happen to be an EXCELLENT swimmer:P. Who needs a paddle? Besides, usually it's the man that arranges for the canoe and sets his girl a sail, not realizing until later, he forgot to order paddles.

Luckily, us women are resourceful and can figure out ways to dig ourselves out of the mess that men create for us.

HA HA HA HA HA HA.....THIS IS ALL B.S. OF COURSE, BUT I'LL PLAY ALONG.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
Quote


I happen to be an EXCELLENT swimmer:P.



I hear you there... I can swim like a fish, so maybe we don't need the paddles after all, although they are a nice luxury...
at least they won't hurt your feelings and say STUPID things without any thought behind them... Once again guys, I'm not talking about all of you... just really do'nt get this stuff sometimes...
But where do these comments come from?

The key to walking on water... Is knowing where the rocks are

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
Yeah, everything we want derives from:

War, sex and food.


For example:
beer - food.
skydiving - risk of death/competition (with ones self or others) - war.
football - simulation of war.
expensive toys - demonstration of prowness over other males - war/sex.
a hottub filled with scantily clad sassy females with no inhibitions - SEX!

And so on. :)

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
JumpnFly - Men are not purposely mean and stupid. Many of them can't help it and don't realise they're doing it. It's the rubber band theory....let them stretch all the way away from you and they can't help but spring back..and once they're back, they just start stretching away again...(Disclamier: I read that somewhere in some cheesy 'personal development' book -it could be utter crap.)

However... I reckon most men take ages to actually realise what they want so it's easier to take flight rather than think about it...They worry you want to 'trap them' or 'confine' them or some such shit. Personally i find the best tactic is to give them the space they say they want, then give them MORE than the space they want..(Ie, become unavailable and if necessary, in extreme cases, see other men) and they soon become uncomfortable with that.

Having said that, isn't 'playing games' utter bollocks? Such a shame we have to resort to such behaviour to accommodate the lesser sex huh? ;)

On the 'my boyfriend and I' thing....

Have you seen how men do it the other way round, thinking that their subtle questioning will go unnoticed by you...

'So what does your boyfriend think about....blah blah blah'..

in reality they might as well say 'Are you taken or is there a chance we could end up shagging?'

Bless them. It's kind of cute really.

e

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
well, I have to say that the rubber band example makes perfect sense, that'e the pattern my boyfriend has demonstrated... Just stinks that they take so long to figure things out... and especially makes it rough when they vocalize the fact that they want to just "get out" because they are to much of a WIMP to actually make something work... there I go again... THis whole game playing buisness SUCKS... blatenly SUCKS...
but yes as a whole, they are kind of cute...
like I said before, I'm just going to have to jump this out of my system, its eating me alive today [unsure][unsure][unsure]

The key to walking on water... Is knowing where the rocks are

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
Dude,

See, us skydiver dudes subconsciously hit on chicks when we talk to them. That is, if you are even making "eye" contact.B| When they start to reference their BF it is a defense mechanism. Think of it as saving money in the future. Or you can invest some cake and at the end of the line she drops the F word on you. (f=friend) So, it is best to have 2 rigs and have both reserves current.:D

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Join the conversation

You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account.
Note: Your post will require moderator approval before it will be visible.

Guest
Reply to this topic...

×   Pasted as rich text.   Paste as plain text instead

  Only 75 emoji are allowed.

×   Your link has been automatically embedded.   Display as a link instead

×   Your previous content has been restored.   Clear editor

×   You cannot paste images directly. Upload or insert images from URL.

0