Ethics In Relationships (Was "What makes a man desirable to women?")

[Zennie 0]

A couple of quotes (combined) from the previous thread got my attention.

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Women ... are often more adventurous than they'd be when they're in their home town...No one back home is going to find out what is going on.

OK this is another one of my pet peeves.

Hypothetical:

Let's assume I'm in a relationship with someone. A beautiful, gorgeous, naked, horny woman (or guy if you're female or gay ) is placed in front of me. Let's also assume that I was guaranteed that no one else would ever find out if I had sex with her.

Would I have sex with her?

No.

Why not?

Because it doesn't matter what people at home know or don't know. It's about what I know. It's about what I am doing, not who knows it. It's about being able to live with myself and being able to look myself in the mirror knowing I did the right thing.

It's easy to do the right thing when it's in your interests to do so. But I take more pride in having done the right thing when the thing I had to do was something I really didn't want to.

And anyone who knows me knows I'm no religious fanatic or anything. I'm agnostic for God's sake (nice pun there eh?). I do the right thing for it's own sake, not because I fear judgment or Hell or anything.

So anyway, enough preaching from me. Given the above hypothetical, what would you do?

And no I won't lambaste anyone who says they'd jump right in the sack with her (or him for you ladies), so be honest.

- Z
"Always be yourself... unless you suck." - Joss Whedon

[rhino 0]

Right on bro.. I respect and share your position...

Rob

[happythoughts 0]

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A beautiful, gorgeous, naked, horny ...that no one else would ever find out if I had sex with her.

Are you kidding ? I'd tell everyone.

[Zennie 0]

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Are you kidding ? I'd tell everyone.

LOL. I guess that brings up an exception.... if my SO were willing to jump in the sack with the both of us that would be a different story.

- Z
"Always be yourself... unless you suck." - Joss Whedon

[SpeedRacer 1]

well I wasn't in a committed relationship with anyone. Neither was she, as far as I know, though I didn't ask.

Speed Racer
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[sunshine 2]

Very respectable decision. I would not be able to face myself, who cares if other people found out. I'm the only one i have to deal with. I can't get away from myself.

And even if i was single and you placed a gorgeous, horny guy in front of me i wouldn't do him. Silly me, i actually have to like someone to do something so personal with them.

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meow

I get a Mike hug! I get a Mike hug!

[Deuce 1]

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Why not?

Because it doesn't matter what people at home know or don't know. It's about what I know. It's about what I am doing, not who knows it. It's about being able to live with myself and being able to look myself in the mirror knowing I did the right thing.

Well, there's that, and for some there is also the acknowledgment that your life will be judged once you're dead.

(Church lady voice) "Who would be tempting you do to the nasty with that little vixen, hmmmmm? Could it be......SATAN?

[happythoughts 0]

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beautiful, gorgeous, naked, horny

Turns out to be a moot point. That description is my g/f.

[skypuppy 1]

Are we using Bill Clinton's definition of sex?

If some old guy can do it then obviously it can't be very extreme. Otherwise he'd already be dead.
Bruce McConkey 'I thought we were gonna die, and I couldn't think of anyone

[rgoper 0]

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what would you do?

Zen:

easiest question i've been asked all year. i wouldn't do it. the thought crosses my mind now and then, but i'm happily, and managamously married, for almost 17 years, and i have a grandson....nah...i'll pass!

--Richard--
"We Will Not Be Shaken By Thugs, And Terroist"

[skymama 37]

I agree with you, Zennie. Integrity is the number one thing I look for in any person.

She is Da Man, and you better not mess with Da Man,
because she will lay some keepdown on you faster than, well, really fast. ~Billvon

[Muenkel 0]

I also agree with you Zennie. I have to be honest that in those circumstances I would be tempted, however, I am a human being and we do have the ability to overcome our urges. Personal integrity gives more satisfaction than a sexual encounter with the hottest of babes.

So my answer would hopefully be no.

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Chris

[happythoughts 0]

"Integrity is the number one thing "
Ok. Here's a situation that I see too much. If you have 25 friends, chances are that one of them is cheating on their b/f, g/f, spouse. Ever told the other party ? I don't. They kill the messenger. They are pissed off at you for letting them know. It's weird.

[Jessica 0]

Yeah, but you know what pisses ME off? When a mutual friend suggests to your significant other that you're cheating on him, when she has nothing to base that suggestion on except her own paranoia.

Someone better be damn sure he or she has his facts straight before spreading rumors like that. It's a serious accusation.

Skydiving is for cool people only

[happythoughts 0]

I guess what I got down to is this: It's none of my business. What pisses me off worse than anything is busybodies. A dz can be like a small town. A soap opera called "As The Prop Turns". I just go to the dz to jump and hang with friends. I am not interested in the private lives of others.

[skydiverchick 0]

Any time you have a group of people that hang out with each outher on a regular basis and are friends wether it be a dz, at work, at school, at a bar, or just friends who hang out a lot People will always run their mouths. It doesn't make it right but it is true.

The only thing a person can do is choose to not involve themselves and to work at not letting others involve them.

Mother Hen

[aneblett 0]

Pull the cut-away handle on that "friend" cause friend they are not...
I can't stand people that make accusations with no proof.
Good luck with that situation.
Age

S.E.X. party #2

..It is far worse to live with fear, than to die confronting it.

[Deuce 1]

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I guess what I got down to is this: It's none of my business. What pisses me off worse than anything is busybodies. A dz can be like a small town. A soap opera called "As The Prop Turns". I just go to the dz to jump and hang with friends. I am not interested in the private lives of others.

Yeah, I had a discussion about this in Perris on the floor of the Van (God, I love climb to altitude talks), anyhow, I'll tolerate just about anything with an interested smile that doesn't require a fistfight. And that's just about everything.
I don't get people who choose to get wound up over things. Things you can affect, affect. Things you can't, spectate.

[happythoughts 0]

I have a friend who doesn't drink (for good reasons). When he refuses a beer/drink, people think it's his g/f controlling him. They have good, private reasons for their decisions. It's their life. No one needs to know those reasons. Others want to know the reasons so they can approve/disapprove of your choices. This couple does not need their approval. This decision (among others) does not affect anyones lives but their own. Some people just have to be judgemental and controlling.

[happythoughts 0]

excellent. glad to hear it.

[moodyskydiver 0]

I totally agree with you one this one, Zennie. My answer would be no.

"...just an earthbound misfit, I."

[gravitysurf808 0]

Big [B]DITTO[/B] here Zen!!!

Re: rgoper

Right on! Good for you brother!!

Honesty and faithfulness imoh is the foundation of any good relationship/marrriage.
I'll always stick to this option.

[Samurai136 0]

It ain't that weird. My aunt (my age) was cheating on my uncle (he robbed the craddle) and it was 'known' to both of them.

One day her sister decides to tell my uncle what's going on, like he doesn't know. "sister" ends up in deeper shit than auntie. And it made my uncle cry; a construction foreman who is more likely to beat your ass than ever cry about anything.

Sort of like having a 'friend' think they're 'helping' you by fucking w/ an injury instead of leaving it alone...

Ken

"Buttons aren't toys." - Trillian
Ken

[GrumpySmurf 0]

"Given the above hypothetical, what would you do? "

Hypothetical? Hell, this has been a reality a few times - simple enough though - once you cross that line, there is no going back. The first time is always the hardest, from what I can tell watching others, and though you may not get caught this one time, at some point it will always catch up with you (you can't always be lucky enough to get away with it free and clear, one day there will be a loose end waiting in the wings to wrap around your neck).

[FallingMarc 0]

Wow, 20-odd replies and nobody actually came out and seriously said "I'd do it!"

Well, as I am completely and utterly single, have been for a long time, and have no serious prospects at the moment... sure, I'd shag.

M