JumpNFly 0 #1 October 2, 2002 my living situation is a bit messed up right now to say the least. My boyfriend and I have decided to live apart for a while...take a break. We're not seeing other people or anything like that, we're just not living together and not seeing one another every single day. However, the place where I am staying, as I found out last night, Is not a good neighborhood. The cops were there 2 times, and it scared the shit out of me. I don't want to seem like I am begging to come home, I agreed to this. But the situation sucks. Boyfriend was a bit upset with me last night for coming back to the house, he did say it was ok, but I could tell he was annoyed... Ahhhhhh I don't know what I am asking here... I'm just a mess today and need some cheering up... The key to walking on water... Is knowing where the rocks are Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
nws01 0 #2 October 2, 2002 Go live in a tent at the DZ. Earn a righteous DZ Slut Number and make the b/f jealous. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites JumpNFly 0 #3 October 2, 2002 hey at least you made me laugh... i could handle all of that except the slut part... :) The key to walking on water... Is knowing where the rocks are Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites mouth 0 #4 October 2, 2002 Why did you move out instead of him???? -- Hot Mama At least you know where you stand even if it is in a pile of shit. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites JumpNFly 0 #5 October 2, 2002 His house. We didn't buy it together, so it really is his... don't necessarily agree with ME being the one to move, it would have been easier for him to find a place to stay, but it is his house The key to walking on water... Is knowing where the rocks are Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites TheBile 0 #6 October 2, 2002 Sounds to me like the only reason your doubting your decision is because of the neighborhood. Don't go back to his house based on this. It might do more harm than good. I'd rather you fly several thousand miles and stay in my spare room than do that. You made the right decision. All you need to do now is try to improve your residence. Best of luck.Gerb I stir feelings in others they themselves don't understand. KA'CHOW ! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites mouth 0 #7 October 2, 2002 OK...so the house is his...so be it. If he were really a nice guy who cared about you HE would be worried about where you are rather than if you are imposing on him. I assume you are not financially well off or you would have found a better place to stay to begin with. So I suggest one of the following options. 1. Find a friend to stay with near where you are 2. Talk to your DZO about staying at the DZ I would suggest telling this guy where to go and how to get off as he seems every insensitive....but then I am generally a B*tch. Good Luck, Lisa -- Hot Mama At least you know where you stand even if it is in a pile of shit. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites mujie96 0 #8 October 2, 2002 Say to hell with him, quit your job, move to Hawaii and spend all your time jumping or on the beach giving thanks to mother earth for a bounty of good...anyway...I need a roommate in December. Big hug to ya. Jess Just keep swimming...just keep swimming.... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites billvon 3,109 #9 October 2, 2002 >My boyfriend and I have decided to live apart for a while...take a > break. Do NOT move back in with the boyfriend. I had a friend who did that and was essentially trapped by a somewhat abusive passive-aggressive boyfriend for months. It was one of the most miserable times of her life. One of my regrets from that time is that I didn't know her well enough back then to offer her a room (I had a spare bedroom.) Ask around the DZ - there's likely someone who can let you stay with them for a while. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Airhead 0 #10 October 2, 2002 AWE, GRETCHEN, SWEETIE... Buck up Lass! I currently live in "one of those" type of neighborhoods. But, It's NOT TOO BAD right, now, though... Remember, things could be worse! Being independent and brave will make you strongerRemember, there are reasons why you aren't together. Figure out what you want, where you want to be and make it happen. You deserve a lot better, girl! I understand: I've Been There & Done That! -Lila. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Cajones 0 #11 October 2, 2002 You learn to adapt in those types of neighborhoods, or you become a victim. Keep to yourself, don't stick your nose into anyone's business. When you walk outside, walk with confidence (brandishing a firearm also helps). If you are walking alone at night, talk to yourself, and picture yourself as one of the "crazy" people you've seen wandering around (brandishing a firearm also helps). Keep a light or two on a timer, so lights turn on and off, even when you're not home - and change the light timers around on occasion (brandishing a firearm also helps). Whenever there is some sort of "commotion" - cops or not - don't go outside and see what's going on - stay inside and peek through a curtain, with the phone close by (brandishing a firearm also helps). Lastly, get yourself a gun, and be ready to use it. If you are not going to be able to pull the trigger, even if it's you or them - get a really big (mean) dog, instead. Dogs are more trouble than guns, especially for a skydiver, but they are an excellent deterrent (brandishing a firearm also helps). The laws of physics are strictly enforced. 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JumpNFly 0 #3 October 2, 2002 hey at least you made me laugh... i could handle all of that except the slut part... :) The key to walking on water... Is knowing where the rocks are Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mouth 0 #4 October 2, 2002 Why did you move out instead of him???? -- Hot Mama At least you know where you stand even if it is in a pile of shit. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JumpNFly 0 #5 October 2, 2002 His house. We didn't buy it together, so it really is his... don't necessarily agree with ME being the one to move, it would have been easier for him to find a place to stay, but it is his house The key to walking on water... Is knowing where the rocks are Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
TheBile 0 #6 October 2, 2002 Sounds to me like the only reason your doubting your decision is because of the neighborhood. Don't go back to his house based on this. It might do more harm than good. I'd rather you fly several thousand miles and stay in my spare room than do that. You made the right decision. All you need to do now is try to improve your residence. Best of luck.Gerb I stir feelings in others they themselves don't understand. KA'CHOW ! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mouth 0 #7 October 2, 2002 OK...so the house is his...so be it. If he were really a nice guy who cared about you HE would be worried about where you are rather than if you are imposing on him. I assume you are not financially well off or you would have found a better place to stay to begin with. So I suggest one of the following options. 1. Find a friend to stay with near where you are 2. Talk to your DZO about staying at the DZ I would suggest telling this guy where to go and how to get off as he seems every insensitive....but then I am generally a B*tch. Good Luck, Lisa -- Hot Mama At least you know where you stand even if it is in a pile of shit. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mujie96 0 #8 October 2, 2002 Say to hell with him, quit your job, move to Hawaii and spend all your time jumping or on the beach giving thanks to mother earth for a bounty of good...anyway...I need a roommate in December. Big hug to ya. Jess Just keep swimming...just keep swimming.... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
billvon 3,109 #9 October 2, 2002 >My boyfriend and I have decided to live apart for a while...take a > break. Do NOT move back in with the boyfriend. I had a friend who did that and was essentially trapped by a somewhat abusive passive-aggressive boyfriend for months. It was one of the most miserable times of her life. One of my regrets from that time is that I didn't know her well enough back then to offer her a room (I had a spare bedroom.) Ask around the DZ - there's likely someone who can let you stay with them for a while. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Airhead 0 #10 October 2, 2002 AWE, GRETCHEN, SWEETIE... Buck up Lass! I currently live in "one of those" type of neighborhoods. But, It's NOT TOO BAD right, now, though... Remember, things could be worse! Being independent and brave will make you strongerRemember, there are reasons why you aren't together. Figure out what you want, where you want to be and make it happen. You deserve a lot better, girl! I understand: I've Been There & Done That! -Lila. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Cajones 0 #11 October 2, 2002 You learn to adapt in those types of neighborhoods, or you become a victim. Keep to yourself, don't stick your nose into anyone's business. When you walk outside, walk with confidence (brandishing a firearm also helps). If you are walking alone at night, talk to yourself, and picture yourself as one of the "crazy" people you've seen wandering around (brandishing a firearm also helps). Keep a light or two on a timer, so lights turn on and off, even when you're not home - and change the light timers around on occasion (brandishing a firearm also helps). Whenever there is some sort of "commotion" - cops or not - don't go outside and see what's going on - stay inside and peek through a curtain, with the phone close by (brandishing a firearm also helps). Lastly, get yourself a gun, and be ready to use it. If you are not going to be able to pull the trigger, even if it's you or them - get a really big (mean) dog, instead. Dogs are more trouble than guns, especially for a skydiver, but they are an excellent deterrent (brandishing a firearm also helps). The laws of physics are strictly enforced. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
