My world's been rocked

[Skystorm 0]

Things like this only happens to somebody else and sometimes only in the movies.

Last week I received news that an old friend of mine committed suicide. Then rumours began to surface that he's been shot by his flatmate.
He was left handed but was shot in the right side of his head. The flatmate states that he didn't hear the shot and found my friend dead on the livingroom floor at about 4am. And he was so shocked that he picked up the gun and ran to the neighbours for help. Later someone overheard him and another woman talking and she said to him to stick to his story and all will be well.

The autopsy (sp?) was finished this morning and my friend's flatmate was arrested for murder.

I've known my friend my whole life. We grew up together, went to the same primary schools and later graduted from the same high school. He was the most stunning person. Always laughing. Always helpfull, nothing was too much trouble for him.

How do I work through this? How do I put this behind me and move on? This can't be happening.

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[jtval 0]

I wish there were words to help you through this. I went throught the same kinda of thing when I was younger with one of my friends. we still are not sure of the details!
there is nothing anyone can say to get you through this tragedy but be strong. remember the good times and talk to your mutual friends. unfortunately the hurt, shock and anger will not go away soon.
But I personally feel that you should not bottle it in. try to makesomekind of sense of this and enjoy life for your friend,b/c I believe he will check in on you from time to time! sorry for you loss.

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[Scratch 0]

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How do I work through this? How do I put this behind me and move on?

By remembering him as he was. Do that and a little bit of him will always live on inside of you.
Try treat others as he might have and a little bit of him will live on in the world around you.

My deepest sympathies.

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By remembering him as he was.

Without a doubt. When I go I want people to remember the times I made them laugh. The times I was there for them. Don't mourn death....celebrate life.

[Phil 0]

Sometimes, nothing can take away the pain we feel! Only the remembrance of the good times spend together will help to outgrow the sorrow and emptiness of the moment.

Your friend is dead - you are alive - live your life and cherish the memories.

Sorry to hear you lost a friend

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[mouth 0]

I am so sorry for your loss. Your friend sounds like a great person.

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Lisa

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[Keith 0]

Read this http://fl.essortment.com/stagesgrief_rbdm.htm it has some good info.

I'm very sorry for your loss.

Keith

Don't Fuck with me Keith - J. Mandeville

[homer 0]

sniff sniff sniff I feel for you. I have lost one friend to murder and two to suicide

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[fastmartin2002 0]

i agree with jtval. i had a friend commit suicide in college and it is not an easy thing to contend with even though that is not your situation here it is still terribly difficult to deal with. also, don't rule out receiving professional help. blue skies!

[dove 0]

So sorry to hear of your loss. I've lost one friend to suicide and another to murder (her own mother). It's tough, but all you can do is go on with your life. Of course you will mourn your loss (and the world's loss) but try to concentrate most your thoughts on celebrating the life they led and how lucky you were to have them in your life. All my sympathy to you. Stay strong!

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[Muenkel 0]

Skystorm,

I am so sorry for what you are going through. I am currently going through a mourning period myself. It takes time, but it does get easier. You don't forget the person, you just learn to live without them. Time will heal. It is very raw right now and I am sure you cannot imagine laughing or being happy again. But it will come. Mourning takes time. Be patient with yourself. It sounds like your friend left you with some really good memories.

Good vibes to you.

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Chris

[moodyskydiver 0]

I agree with JT on this one. My sympathies to you and those effected by this tragedy.

"...just an earthbound misfit, I."

[Enrique 0]

People only die when we forget about them! So, take Scratch's advise... remember the good things. I bet you will see him in your good dreams or at 13,000 feet wishing you a fun jump.

I'm very sorry..... things like this make my heart hurt

[ChileRelleno 0]

I too have lost friends,one was stabbed to death at the beach, I was there when the Docs told his brother his brother was dead and met his mom in the parking lot when she finally got to the hospital,she took one look at us and knew. Man that hurt...
The other was in a car wreck, I was rooming with him and his wife and child, they were like family...
I really know how you feel and it sucks! It will workout,let the memories come and let the tears flow if they want to...go to the funeral if you can,it helps. Talk about it to someone close to you.
My sincerest condolences.
Justice will be served either here or the hereafter.

ChileRelleno-Rodriguez Bro#414
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[Skystorm 0]

Thank you all, I appreciate your kind words and hugs. I really need them now.

Things got worst this morning as I was getting ready for the funeral. I was told that there will be no funeral, only a service. They've taken his body to another town, seems like the autopsy wasn't finished. Seems like things will get worse before we can finally say our goodbyes to him.

His best friend isn't taking this very well. He kept telling me that this can't be real, that Elmar (our friend) is going to come around the corner and have a laugh at us all.

And the worst part is that the guy that killed him got bail this morning and even attended the service. In some weird way I feel very sorry for him and I really do try hard not to judge him, but he took a good friend away from me, and I doubt if I would ever forgive him for that.

Thanx again to all.