Posting Condolences

[Gravitymaster 0]

Just curious about how many of you think a family member would come to DZ.Com to read condolences if you bounced.
Do many of your family members know you post on this site and do you think it would occur to them to come here?

[freeflir29 0]

Family....No......Many friends though. Some that post....quite a few others that just lurk. I'm sure they would like the fact that someone out there gives a shit.

[Thanatos340 1]

Posting condolences is a way for the poster to express their grief. It is not necessarily posted for a family member to see. It is posted as a statement of understanding and/or sympathizing with the family that has lost a member.
Whenever someone goes in, I think most everyone feels a loss and for some it helps to express this feeling and discuss it with others who share similar feelings.

[SkydiveMonkey 0]

I think they should be posted, although I agree with you that it it should be here and not in the incidents forum

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[lummy 4]

when I post my condolences, I do it to express my grief and support for family and friends.
Yes, I would think that family members do read the posts. They may not log into read them personally, but I'm sure friends have printed them out to give to family members


Same thing applies when one of our family gets hurt and is in the hospital. I've personally printed out e-mails and stuff from friends showing support and taken it to the hospital

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[SkyDolphin 0]

I agree with Thanatos340 but also it has actually happened many times in the past that family members have been pointed to forums where the deceased was a regular poster. I have seen posts from family members thanking the skydiving/base jumping communtity for their prayers and thoughts. The most recent incident that comes to mind was the sister of skydiver/base jumper Rob Tompkins from Perris that died a few weeks ago base jumping in Norway. She wrote several posts on behalf of her family on one of the base boards.

R

[freebird 0]

Family well the only family I have is my sister and my husband. My parents do not acknowledge me. (My daughter is too young). I know my sister does not or my hubby.
I do know alot of people on the forum that I have
jumped with though.

No family but like I said I only have two family members capable of posting and they don't

[jtval 0]

well, if by family you mean skydivers I would guess alot. who cares if my blood-relatives read this. they wouldnt know wtf its all about('cept my cousin, she's here already)

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[Galen 0]

It's a nice idea but one thing I can think of:
Would someone's family members use it to bash skydiving if they blamed the sport (you know what I mean) for the persons death? Would they be posting as a community service to warn the rest of us about the dangers of skydiving? They might. Then again maybe it would be a good way for them to vent if we were willing to let them and not get argumentative. Guess you could look at it both ways.

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[smiles 0]

I have written into my will specific info, for my family-how I would like my death, including-if it was bouncing to be delt with.....
My close skydiving family also have this info.

I read post by Errol to CSPA chat in Canada regarding JFTC fatality. I then came to dz.com to look for more information, and hastily did not read Skybytch's previous post regarding the days activities at JFTC.

I posted Errol's info here in talkback feeling that others would appreciate knowing there was a fatality......without having info of name of jumper or info on fatality, maybe should not of posted?????
Did not expect to have condolences as reply to my post.

Why was my post moved to Incidents when there was no information of fatality??

A post could have been written out of appreciation "condolences for Shannon Embry- JFTC" where everyone could reply in talkback, keeping condolences together under one ????

Then the actual incident report written under incidents...???
Maybe need a section here solely for condolences???

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[dropdeded 0]

I like to think that if it was a bounce that takes my life than posting it here ,even though, you people dont know me personally,would bring a sort of understanding that I cant get from even my own family.Skydiving is a part of me that no one can truly understand except a fellow skydiver.
For those that do,no explanation is neccesary
For those that dont,no explanation is possible

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[AggieDave 6]

You know, if I bounced, I would hope someone would mention it here...if anything just to say "well, he was not Clay, but he could sure postwhore..."

That and I've made some real friends here, that I've met with, partied with, jumped with in person, etc.

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[weid14 0]

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Just curious about how many of you think a family member would come to DZ.Com to read condolences if you bounced.
Do many of your family members know you post on this site and do you think it would occur to them to come here?

Speaking from someone who's had a friend leave us, I can assure you the words and thoughts of others do make a difference. We had a guestbook at our website that all of a sudden became a memorial, the biological family was blown away by the words expressed there. yes, it does make a difference.

[mouth 0]

Some people will just never understand.

Condolences are to express your loss whether you knew the person personally or not they were still part of the skydiving family. I would hope that our expressing condolences are mostly heartfelt gestures of acceptance ( it is a way to validate what has happened). Some people obviously don't understand that as such.

Lisa

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