ever lose track of a parent?

[kingbunky 3]

my mom left when i was about 4, didn't hear form her again until i was 16. decided i didn't really like her that much so i intentionally lost contact with her again. today, about 18 years since my last contact with her, i get an email.. it's weird. what's even weirder is it was a joke and i was just part of the list she sent it to!

"Hang on a sec, the young'uns are throwin' beer cans at a golf cart."
MB4252 TDS699
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[weegegirl 2]

so lame. sorry to hear that. i hate people who have kids and then refuse to be parents.

[kingbunky 3]

it doesn't bother me at all, just thought it was odd. and you're right, a little lame.

"Hang on a sec, the young'uns are throwin' beer cans at a golf cart."
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[freeflir29 0]

Sore subject for me today. Getting calls from my attorney. Seems her, the judge, and my ex-wife's attorney are having a "meeting" Friday. Gee....that's some real fucking progress after 4 fucking years!!!!!!! Then the dumb bitch asks me if I will settle for anything less than full custody. I don't know....maybe I fucking studdered at some time.


*Must NOT GO POSTAL.....Must NOT GO POSTAL!!!*

[hooked 0]

Maybe she sent it out including your name, to see if she would get a response from you?

I also didn't have any contact with my mother for years and years (my Dad got custody of four girls) and then she showed up one year when her daughter turned 16. She kept in contact after that, but I can honestly say, there wasn't any mother/daughter feelings (on my part anyway) there.

J

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[wlie 0]

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if I will settle for anything less than full custody.

Would you settle for a partially inflated canopy? Duh! It's all or everything baby!


Sending vibes your way dude!
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My other ride is the relative wind.

[kingbunky 3]

that's probably it. she can be devious when she wants to be. oh well, if she's waiting for a response, she'll be waiting ahwile.

clay, hang in there, good stuff can happen!

"Hang on a sec, the young'uns are throwin' beer cans at a golf cart."
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killing threads since 2001

[Keith 0]

Yeah. I have what I like to refer to as a sperm donor - not in an angry manner; you can't cry over something you never had. I haven't had any real contact with him in nearly 35 years - he left when I was 5. Every now and then I get a letter from a new girlfriend of his saying how lowly my father is feeling because his children never contact him. Oh well he should have thought of that before he bounced from family to family. Last I heard he's got 4 families out there and never stayed with one.

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Keith

Don't Fuck with me Keith - J. Mandeville

[Deuce 1]

That's wierd. I get something similar from old friends from my old job. They can't cope with the screwed up way they treated me, but they don't quite have the huevos to stand right up and say "F*ck-you" so I get these little e-mail jokes and chain letters from time to time.

I really think the problem is with the person who did the abandoning not being able to live with their decision. Truly, that's their problem.

[bluefingers 0]

Yip. When my mom moved us from Zimbabwe to SA, didn't hear from my dad for over 4 years, then out of the blue I get a call from some woman telling me she's my stepmom. It didnt go down too well! Anyway, fast forward several years, and we've talked and sorted most of the shit out. LIfe's too short to hold a grudge.
I still don't know why he quit skydiving though - he dodges the question like a pro!
And yeah, email contact is about all it is at the mo - I email every week, and in return I get the odd joke. If I'm lucky a 3 line email.

Kerry

Kerry

[Airhead 0]

Sorry to hear that things are dragging out so long, for ya dude....4 YEARS, tho?!
Yeah, in response to the first Q. About loosing track of a parent: Yes. When I was married I occasionally would lose track of my daughter's father...amazing how people can "disappear" sometimes even in a small town! But, luckily, he ain't my "problem" any more!
Attempting to be congenial, or at least corgial with an EX- or with estranged family- is BEST for your kids (and you) even though it takes MUCHO will power and BIG TIME self-control.

[DTOXX 0]

hmm I have attempted to write this about 4 times but each time is sounded like I was looking for simpathy. Rest assured I am not.
I last saw my "sperm donor" (love that one) at the age of 6. On my mothers 4th, out of 5, marriage I had myself emancipated at the age of 17. Last saw my mother in 1996 at my grandfathers funeral. My wife of 16 years has NEVER met my mother. I do know she lives somewhere in Arizona but...
Surfice to say we are not close.

[Rdutch 0]

Yep lost track of my "sperm donor" when I was about 5. Me and my mother moved a few times, and she diddn't give him our new address or phone#. Sad thing is when I was about 10 I started asking about him, and my grandparent's knew how to find him, but they diddn't want me to talk to him. Now my grandparent's dont know how to find him anymore so theres slim chance. Another sad thing is, He wanted to find me, and he wouldn't get any help from them either.
Chapter 2. I have a 10 year old son. And his mother got married and disappeared about 8 years ago. I have sent letters to her parents many times and no reply. And I cant afford a lawyer so my only option is to keep letting her parents know wher I can be found, and hope that he will ask about me enough for them to let him know where I am.
So not all "Sperm donors" are bad or wrong, sometimes the mother makes the bad decisions and the child ends up loosing out because of it.
Ray

Ray
Small and fast what every girl dreams of!

[Guest]

Reading this thread makes me sad.

I've got a drunk-assed dad I haven't seen or spoken to in 18 years. Last I heard he was bagging groceries somewhere in Austin. I have a half-brother via dad, but I'm afraid to contact him for fear that he turned out like his father.

My wicked stepfather lives in Arizona. He'll see hell before he sees me again.

I stay in email contact with my mom and my siblings.

"The mouse does not know life until it is in the mouth of the cat."

[Michele 1]

I was released for adoption at birth, and never knew my birth parents. When I was 25, I decided it was time to see if I could locate them - not because I wanted a second set of parents (one was plenty, thank you very much), but because I was really curious. Long story short, I found my birth mother, and found my birth father's grave.

My birthmother and I got along for a while, and I met my older sister and half brother, as well as my younger sister, and learned about the twins who'd died at birth (they would also have been my younger "full" sisters). Found their graves as well.

Last time I saw my older sister, she was asked to leave my house. Last tiem I saw my birthmother, she was being looked for by the Orange County Sheriffs and Federal Marshalls. I know they finally found her, because they kept calling me to pass messages along, so I just told them where they could find her. I mean, I had no idea what it was about, and hoenstly didn't want to be involved.

The entire family was very dysfunctional, and I just couldn't deal with it, so I haven't talked to them in about 8 years. And honestly, haven't got any plans to do so.

So yeah, I guess you could say I've lost track of a parent, but then again, I wasn't trying too hard to keep her in sight, either.

Ciels-
Michele

~Do Angels keep the dreams we seek
While our hearts lie bleeding?~

[Guest]

It's depressing when after a life of rootlessness, one tries to locate one's roots, only to find that the shriveled, gnarly tree that grew from those roots has borne rotten, bitter fruit.

Both sides of my family are garbage.

"The mouse does not know life until it is in the mouth of the cat."

[kingbunky 3]

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It's depressing when after a life of rootlessness, one tries to locate one's roots, only to find that the shriveled, gnarly tree that grew from those roots has borne rotten, bitter fruit.

Both sides of my family are garbage.

i guess that goes to show that you become who you want to become and that adversity can be overcome. your environment doesn't have to control your destiny.

"Hang on a sec, the young'uns are throwin' beer cans at a golf cart."
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i guess that goes to show that you become who you want to become and that adversity can be overcome. your environment doesn't have to control your destiny. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
bunky, yuppie skydiver #0013
pork is not a verb.

True, but it's never easy reprogramming oneself.

Love your sig BTW - LOL

"The mouse does not know life until it is in the mouth of the cat."

[kingbunky 3]

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True, but it's never easy reprogramming oneself.

Love your sig BTW - LOL

no, but it is a choice to overcome it. i guess i was lucky, my mother left early enough that myself and my two younger siblings weren't old enough to have any lasting memories of her.

btw, the sig line if something bart was writing on the blackboard at the start of a simpson's episode. some of them are classic!

"Hang on a sec, the young'uns are throwin' beer cans at a golf cart."
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[hooked 0]

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no, but it is a choice to overcome it. i guess i was lucky, my mother left early enough that myself and my two younger siblings weren't old enough to have any lasting memories of her.

Oh, I've been there! My mother also left early enough where my twin and I had no memories of her other than a couple of mandatory visits before my Dad took his four daughters and moved out of state. My older sisters did have some memories, and not really good ones. Then we didn't see or hear from her for like.....must have been over 16 years.

It amazes me, how alike some of these posts are and how far we have come to get on with our lives.
J

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Sometimes we're just being Humans.....But we're always Human Beings.