skreamer 1 #26 October 28, 2002 How did you feel when you landed at Bridge Day? If you were still married you would never have got to make that jump - you would've gone through your whole life never knowing.... You'll meet a woman who will understand (maybe even be a part of?) the things that are the most important to you. Of course one of those things is probably dz.com - poor woman.... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Skyrad 0 #27 October 28, 2002 Hey, know how you're feeling it sucks but it passes (in time). Get out there even when you don't feel like it, make life happen and next thing you know you're having a good time. I was chatting to these two Afrikaaners on the DZ the other day when one said, 'you say you're ex wife, are you divorced?' Me:'Ja' Him:' Ach man......Well you know what they say, its better to have loved and lost...than to be married to that bitch for the rest of your life!' Pearls as only an Afrikaaner can give When an author is too meticulous about his style, you may presume that his mind is frivolous and his content flimsy. Lucius Annaeus Seneca Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
moodyskydiver 0 #28 October 28, 2002 I wish you the best, Zennie. "...just an earthbound misfit, I." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Zennie 0 #29 October 28, 2002 Quote How did you feel when you landed at Bridge Day? Wet. But you're absolutely right. I wouldn't be doing half the fun things I'm doing right now if I were still married. I've gotten rid of most of the emotional baggage. Have some stuff that will linger for a while. But the losing the wife part I'm over. Today it's just been sort of the finality of the whole thing and that "Why did it have to come to this?". But there is no why. Just because. I'm rebuilding. It's both scary, fun, lonely and exciting all at once. It's all good. - Z "Always be yourself... unless you suck." - Joss Whedon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Zennie 0 #30 October 28, 2002 Quote Well you know what they say, its better to have loved and lost...than to be married to that bitch for the rest of your life! BWAHAHAHAHA!!!!! - Z "Always be yourself... unless you suck." - Joss Whedon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Zennie 0 #31 October 28, 2002 GOOFBALL? Oh yeah? Well you're a.... um... well... well I'm not sure what you are, but whatever you are you're that! Quote now lets get high... Sounds like a plan! And I *STILL* have your CDs. - Z "Always be yourself... unless you suck." - Joss Whedon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
rhino 0 #32 October 28, 2002 Good for you Zennie.. Keep your chin up.. Wish you could help me TequilaGirl Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
AggieDave 6 #33 October 28, 2002 Quote How did you feel when you landed at Bridge Day? Wet. Dude, you're not supposed to admit peeing on yourself...--"When I die, may I be surrounded by scattered chrome and burning gasoline." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jraf 0 #34 October 28, 2002 Welcome back to the colorful world of young available bachelors. Bachelorettes, line up! jraf Me Jungleman! Me have large Babalui. Muff #3275 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Rookeskydiver 0 #35 October 28, 2002 BEER! PCSS # 1 Rookeskydiver "Its a Wonka Bar"....."Go ahead Charlie open it, lets see that golden ticket" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
TequilaGirl 0 #36 October 28, 2002 Me too - hang in there.... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
QuickDraw 0 #37 October 28, 2002 LMAO Well dude, as we say over here "as one door opens, another slams shut" All the best for the future Zennie -- Hope you don't die. -- I'm fucking winning Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skreamer 1 #38 October 28, 2002 Quote But you're absolutely right. Sorry people, don't get too many of these - just wanted to see it at the top again. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kevin922 0 #39 October 29, 2002 Quote Glad I could help you out - told you it would be quick....... QUICK? My ass! My ex (girlfriend) was married the entire time we were dating (1 year) I don't think her divorce will EVER go through. She was seperated a year before we started dating. It's quick to get MARRIED .. takes for ever to undo that damn thing BTW - good luck zennie... now you have more time and more money which of course = more skydiving, right? :) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
happythoughts 0 #40 October 29, 2002 Quote Wish I could say I was happy about that, but I feel like I just got back from a funeral. Can't look back though. Later on, you will definitely want to look back.When my best friend gets down, he tells me what is wrong. I tell him, "Look at the bright side, you could still be married." He thinks about it and no matter how bad it is, "You're right". Trust me. It gets far better. So, so far better. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Pippy 0 #41 October 29, 2002 I am here for you man. Things will get better. Peace, PippyBooYa #1 SAFE IS COOL Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ECVZZ 0 #42 October 29, 2002 Hi Zennie, just wanted to offer a few words of encouragement here. I've been where you are, and at times it was a very lonely feeling. What helped me most was doing the things that I wanted to do, but never could because of the ex. Where there was never the time or money for what I wanted, now there is. When I want to take a trip or do something now, I do it! And what's really nice is that when I have a bill to pay, it's mine...not something she did and "forgot" to tell me. Hell, if I want, I can charge a shitload on my visa for gear or a road-trip and know exactly when it'll be paid off. The freedom of being responsible for only you is worth the price, and in time you'll come to appreciate that. For now, spend time doing things you really want to. Take a road-trip, climb Half-dome, go deep sea fishing....whatever you want to do! Things will pass. Don't second guess why they happened. Re-discover yourself and have fun LIVING for a change! Greg Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Zennie 0 #43 October 29, 2002 Quote I am here for you man. Things will get better. Thanks Pip! Before I get too far into this, I had a big honking 54 oz. mega-margarita at Picos (which for you non-Houstonites, is the best Mex-Mex place on the face of the earth), so my apologies if I ramble... Like I said earlier, this is the wonderful thing about skydivers... we have about the best support network a person could possibly ask for. I can honestly say I've never seen anything like it, and I've done a lot of stuff. It's what keeps me doing this. You're right Pip. It does get better. I've talked to a few of you quite a bit (via PM and in person) about the gory details of this whole journey. For those of you whom I haven't, it's been quite a wild ride. Of course the first phase was dealing with the betrayal and abandonment of a 10 year companion. Blaming yourself, feeling guilty, feeling inadequate, asking "why?". I've managed to come to terms with all that. I took my vows seriously. i was in this for the long haul. I can walk with my head held high knowing I did everything I possibly could to save the marriage. I only filed when I had absolutely no other alternative. So I'm once again OK with my role in this. But in order for a relationship to work, BOTH people need to be committed to it. For whatever reason, she wasn't. Nothing I did or could have done was going to change that. That's just the way it works sometimes. Weird though how you can be with someone for 10 years, and it turns out you never really knew them. Lately, like Greg mentioned, I've been immersing myself into things I hadn't really had the chance to do while I was married... really start getting to know my skydiving friends on a deeper level, working on my freeflying skills at a higher level, taking up BASE, learning rigging. Just doing things for me and my own personal growth... not because I have to keep someone else happy. Sorry if that sounds selfish, and maybe to a degree it is, but especially when you try to save a relationship at any cost, as I did, the cost winds up being yourself. Slowly I stripped myself away during this ordeal. Now I'm working on getting me back. I guess today sort of hammered home the finality of it. I walked out not feeling the despair of losing Liz like I previously had. I've come to terms with that. My feeling was more one of disappointment... emptiness. This was all so unnecessary. All this pain was so avoidable. But there it was. The thought that was at the forefront of my mind was "Why did it have to come to this? How could something so beautiful turn so ugly so quickly?" It's just a goddamn shame. Yet another senseless tragedy. But that's the way life is, ya know? It's easy to cruise through the good times. It's much more challenging to make it through the hard times with your integrity & dignity intact. I like to think I managed to do that, and I take comfort in it. Someday, probably later rather than sooner, I'll come across that someone who complements me (and me her). In the meantime, I'm going to give back to myself things I've denied for far too long. You guys are the greatest. I'm proud to be part of something so special. Now where's my aspirin.... - Z "Always be yourself... unless you suck." - Joss Whedon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Pablito 0 #44 October 29, 2002 Congratz, it was not suppost to mean. Enjoy your new life. Have a great one man. Cielos Azules Pablito "If you don't overcome your fears they will overcome you first" Shady Monkey/6Segundos Rodriguez/AKA Pablito Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
TequilaGirl 0 #45 October 29, 2002 It's not my fault you live in Virginia.......... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
