blewaway5 0 #1 November 4, 2002 Okay folks, here's my weekend from hell. I started a new job Fri, which I lost , Fri. I put on my application that I was refered by my sister, who already works for this company part time, as in on every other weekend. They interviewed me, liked me, and told me to show up Fri. to start full time. At the end of the day someone finally realized I wasn't joking when I put that she referred me and they informed me that although they really thought I was doing well they don't allow family members to work together. That sucked a lot, but it was just the beginning. Sat. night I'm out with friends and we end up getting pulled over by the police. No worries since we hadn't had even a beer yet, right? Wrong. Apparently over a year ago I forgot to mail in the $10 fine on a seat belt violation, so I was freakin arrested for failure to appear, on a SEAT BELT violation. Yep, into the car, down to the staion. Now I'm pissed, but not real worried because how bad can it be, ya know? I mean, it's a seat belt thing. Hmmm, how's a $1,000 bond strike you? Well, I call a bondsman, who charges me $200, and I'm broke, so I call the parents up. Mom and the step-dad are all pissed off, and I'm talking way out of proportion here. Mom slaps me up side the head first thing, right there in front of the cops. Oh well, that's her right. Now we get to Sun. I spend all day cleaning and what not, just basic chores, and then I come into the kitchen in the evening to apologize for them having to bail me out. My step-dad gets pissed off and punches me. Mom has that right, he does not, so I fight back and basically kick his butt. All kinds of happy family drama follows. My question is this...what do you think a 22 year old guy with no money and no vehicle should do? I need out of here, I know this, but I'm not sure how to swing it. Any ideas? Truman Sparks for President Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
AggieDave 6 #2 November 4, 2002 Dude, that sucks. If you were in South Texas I'd come pick you up and get you a beer. Wait for your family to cool down then ask them to sit down with you and hear out somethings you want to say and basically explain to them what you just said here. Ask them to listen with an open mind/heart. Hopefully after a few days to get past the initial shock of "my son was arrested" they will be able to see things in a clearer and more resonable light. Also, before talking to your mom and step-dad, talk to your sister, see what her thoughts are and how to approach it, since she's the only other person besides yourself who really would know how they would react to something. If anything else, good luck!--"When I die, may I be surrounded by scattered chrome and burning gasoline." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
blewaway5 0 #3 November 4, 2002 Thanks for that. Actually, we all did kinda go to our corners and cool off and then come out and try to talk about things, but all it seemed to accompish was a general "I'm sorry it ended up like it did. Gee, we should fix that somehow. Wonder how?" Shit gets old, man Truman Sparks for President Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
AggieDave 6 #4 November 4, 2002 Does your stepdad understand why you reacted the way you did? That would probably be the first step I'd take beyond "the" talk.--"When I die, may I be surrounded by scattered chrome and burning gasoline." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
blewaway5 0 #5 November 4, 2002 oh yeah, it goes way back. He used to woop up on my mom when I was pretty young. I never forgave him, not sure I will, and he knows this. Anyway, when he punched me all I could think was, "Finally, paybacks really are gonna be a bitch." Also, for the sake of objectivity, he did quit that crap a long time ago. He hasn't touched my mother since the judicial system became involved, and I do respect him for changing that part of himself. I just think we are two totally different people and I'm not sure we'll ever see eye to eye on anything. Truman Sparks for President Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wmw999 2,589 #6 November 4, 2002 QuoteMy question is this...what do you think a 22 year old guy with no money and no vehicle should do? I need out of here, I know this, but I'm not sure how to swing it. Any ideas? Sounds like a really crappy situation. The best way out, unfortunately, is to find a job and move out. I don't know if you're in school now -- if so, then it might be hard. If not, then whatever job and whatever roomate situation you can find will let you be an adult to them, and you can't imagine how much that will improve your relationship. Really. There's nothing like not having them involved in your day-to-day decisions and actions to lessen the tension. Wendy W.There is nothing more dangerous than breaking a basic safety rule and getting away with it. It removes fear of the consequences and builds false confidence. (tbrown) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wingnut 0 #7 November 4, 2002 join the military.........lol.... hey it's an idea... a friend of mine couldn't get a job after he got his degree so he was goinbg to joinb up.... but then he found one so he didn't... ______________________________________ "i have no reader's digest version" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
