JumpNFly 0 #1 November 10, 2002 I've got a big one in my heart. My boyfriend of 2 years broke up with my thursday night. I spent all day yesterday at the DZ, couldn't jump though, I wan't allowed. I do'nt know how to let go. How do you move on from someone whom you love so much. My heart is so broken...I wish things could change, i want so desperately for him to change his mind... I don't think it will ever happen. He said he doens't know if he loves me, and he just feels like we can never make it as a couple, yet he doesn't know if he is making a mistake... Any one got any advice? The key to walking on water... Is knowing where the rocks are Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
f1freak 0 #2 November 10, 2002 I know how hard it is now.... I went through the same sort of thing (my wife decided she didnt want to be married anymore) this year, it really sux... but all you can do is allow yourself to feel the pain and try to remember that everything happens for a reason... now is the time to lean on your good friends... It will get better...Hang in there.... HAVE FUN... ...JUST DONT DIE Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JumpNFly 0 #3 November 10, 2002 what did you do? Just keep your self busy as hell? I've already planned a trip, but not until February, I'm going to go to Z-hills, and Orlando. Train in the wind tunnell for a while, and finish my A while I'm there. I guess I should just find other things to focus on? The key to walking on water... Is knowing where the rocks are Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Brisco 0 #4 November 10, 2002 About 10 years ago, my wife of 18 years said she "needed her space" (I found out about a year later that space = another guy) and left me. I went through all the emotions from soft good-byes to hate and everything in between. There are no easy answers or short cuts to getting through this. All you can do is take one breath after another and put one foot in front of the other and move on. Most of all, believe in yourself! It will pass, it just takes time. It took me a little more than a year to get past it but things will get better and in the long run you WILL be much happier. To quote a C&W song, "There ain't no future in the past" Best of luck! Brisco Experience is what you get when you don't get what you want. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
f1freak 0 #5 November 10, 2002 that is exactly what i had to do.... it was hard at first, no kidding it was really hard... but i can tell you that i am a much better person now and i wouldnt change a thing.... the biggest thing is to remember you have people out here that understand and will help if you need it... HAVE FUN... ...JUST DONT DIE Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jessica 0 #6 November 10, 2002 All these numbers are approximate. Give yourself a week to lie in bed and cry and eat potato chips and watch TV. Call in sick if you have to. Allow a month or two to miss him, where you want him back desperately and you can't understand why he did this. That'll morph into hate. Give that a month or two, but not any longer if you can help it. After that, the wound will have scabbed over, and you'll be on your way to healing. Good luck. I know you don't believe this now, but just from what I know of you through your posts, you're better off. A couple of other tips: Keep yourself busy if you can. Don't drink near a phone. Don't get in touch with him, don't take his calls. If you want to "be friends," there's time for that later. Hugs.Skydiving is for cool people only Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
WFFC 1 #7 November 10, 2002 The biggest thing to try and avoid is over analyzing the whole situation. A lot of it will not make sense, even if an "explanation" is given. It's not you. It's him. Being with friends is the greatest gift and they will hold you up, or pick you up if you are down. Bluez~~~ Michael----- ~~~Michael Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
trfenwyd 0 #8 November 10, 2002 it sucks, but my motto is and always has been...Life's a bitch, drink a beer. Instead of risking diving into bad cliches think of it this way, at least you'll have more time and money to jump. Blue Skies in vino veritas- (there is truth in wine) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jimbo 0 #9 November 10, 2002 I like this better. Life's a bitch, drink 10 beers. - Jim "Like" - The modern day comma Good bye, my friends. You are missed. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Hallur 0 #10 November 10, 2002 Hope you feel better soon, when I feel bad I jump alot. You dont have him holding you back anymore so you cuold maybe take on a skydiving trip.Good luck....Hallur When I stop skydiving is the day that I die!!! Hallur Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skygal3 0 #11 November 11, 2002 some really good responses here...don't think I can help much but to tell you that I KNOW it sucks..(I hate it when people tell me they know how I feel, then tell me I'll be fine...)I'm a pretty sensitive person and it hurts for a bit before I can move on...all I can do is work on me when this happens; find something in myself that will make me happy because if you put yourself in front and love who you are, you will always bounce back. Sounds dumb, I know. You are on a pretty good track though; you have a lot of support here (pm me if you ever need to vent), and you have a love for skydiving, which, when flying, I can never dwell on someone else much!Get out, don't sit inside...do something different. I was a blonde all my life, afraid to ever dye my hair...One Sunday the inevitable sunday blues kicked in, right after being duped (duped, not dumped) by someone, so I went out and became a redhead..I love it! Perked me right up!!! (esp. after seeing his face when he saw me ) I also write letters to the f*cker and never send them. If I die prematurely, oy. I'd hate to see my mother after she found those It helps to release the tension. you're right though. It does feel like an open wound. I always liken the feeling to someone taking a melonballer to my heart. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Scratch 0 #12 November 11, 2002 Quote said she "needed her space" (I found out about a year later that space = another guy) and left me. I went through all the emotions from soft good-byes to hate and everything in between. There are no easy answers or short cuts to getting through this. All you can do is take one breath after another and put one foot in front of the other and move on. Most of all, believe in yourself! It will pass, it just takes time. It took me a little more than a year to get past it but things will get better and in the long run you WILL be much happier. Now that sounds so familiar16 years together on my side, she left 5 months ago...but who's countingI hope the bitch gets a chronic yeast infection. (I am still throughly enjoying my angry phase) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
TheBile 0 #13 November 11, 2002 Your going to get a lot of advice from friends and family which will fall under the category of "Time will heal your broken heart", and unless you've gone through this kind of heartbreak before you will find it difficult to believe them. The world is full of guys who don't realise how lucky they are and you just happened to find one of them. The best thing you can do is to take this time for yourself, surround yourself with friends and family and jump as often as you can. It won't make the hurt go away but it will help you push through it. I know your not going to believe this right now but you will fall in love again, and with a guy who feels the same way about you with no doubts and no reservations. It won't feel exactly the same as the love you had with this guy, but it will be just as strong, just as powerful and just as precious, if not more so. That's the nature of the emotion we call 'love'. Keep your chin up. It's the only way you'll see the blu skies. Gerb I stir feelings in others they themselves don't understand. KA'CHOW ! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JumpNFly 0 #14 November 11, 2002 I can't begin to thank all of you enough. You've gotten me through so far, and I must say that I was doubtful that I would be able to do this. You have all given me hope that I'll be ok. How true it is that skydiving changes your life. My tears still fall, heavily at times, but I keep telling myself something I once heard in a movie... It can't rain all the time...(beer to whoever knows the movie). I wish with all of my heart that you all have blue skies forever... I am honestly so touched and honored that you've all reached out to me like this. I'm still going to need you guys...this is far from over with me... My heart hurts and part of me is gone... I've got to get me back... I love you all!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! The key to walking on water... Is knowing where the rocks are Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Stacy 0 #15 November 11, 2002 I believe that line was from a song in "The Crow." Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JumpNFly 0 #16 November 11, 2002 ok so the next time your at CK's I owe you one. The key to walking on water... Is knowing where the rocks are Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JumpNFly 0 #17 November 11, 2002 its bleeding again, my heart that is. Someone quick, make me laugh before i cry my eyes out at my desk. I don't want this. I want it to go AWAY!!!!!!!!!! and I can't leave work, I was out friday, and i'm losing my mind here...I just keep thinking about all of the things that i'm not going to get to do with him anymore. The key to walking on water... Is knowing where the rocks are Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freeflir29 0 #18 November 11, 2002 Quote Someone quick, make me laugh before i cry my eyes out So...your boyfriend broke up with you, you are sad and vulnerable. Sooo....Uuuuuhhhh.....How you dooin? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
TheBile 0 #19 November 11, 2002 C'mere kid. Let me give you a cyber-hug. Gerb I stir feelings in others they themselves don't understand. KA'CHOW ! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jraf 0 #20 November 11, 2002 Quote Quote said she "needed her space" (I found out about a year later that space = another guy) and left me. I went through all the emotions from soft good-byes to hate and everything in between. There are no easy answers or short cuts to getting through this. All you can do is take one breath after another and put one foot in front of the other and move on. Most of all, believe in yourself! It will pass, it just takes time. It took me a little more than a year to get past it but things will get better and in the long run you WILL be much happier. Now that sounds so familiar16 years together on my side, she left 5 months ago...but who's countingI hope the bitch gets a chronic yeast infection. (I am still throughly enjoying my angry phase) Dude my eyes are still wide open and I cant stop laughing. You wish her well then?Gretchen: take his picture, copy is several times, go to a shooting range and you know...380 special, 357 mag, 9 Luger, 45 acp and definitely finish with an UZI. You will feel much betterjraf Me Jungleman! Me have large Babalui. Muff #3275 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skygal3 0 #21 November 11, 2002 ...just don't tap into a margarita...oog. bad story... my neighbor invited me over for 1 margarita one night, right after the "duped" episode...ugh. By the end of the night I was using the word "c*cks*cker" in every other sentence...infront of a group of people from the country club no less...ah...good thing they were all obliviated at the time as well. I still hear stories though. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wmw999 2,583 #22 November 11, 2002 QuoteGretchen: take his picture, copy is several times, go to a shooting range and you know...380 special, 357 mag, 9 Luger, 45 acp and definitely finish with an UZI. You will feel much better Either that, or just hawk a loogie at it... That said, find something really mindless to do at work. Not that takes too much concentration. Maybe filing stuff that's already sorted, or deleting old emails out of your inbasket. Or just hang out here -- we'll keep you busy! Wendy W.There is nothing more dangerous than breaking a basic safety rule and getting away with it. It removes fear of the consequences and builds false confidence. (tbrown) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JumpNFly 0 #23 November 11, 2002 i'm gonna have to rely on you guys to keep me busy today... Nothing's working right now The key to walking on water... Is knowing where the rocks are Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JumpNFly 0 #24 November 11, 2002 [ So...your boyfriend broke up with you, you are sad and vulnerable. Sooo....Uuuuuhhhh.....How you dooin? ok you made me laugh :) The key to walking on water... Is knowing where the rocks are Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wildblue 7 #25 November 11, 2002 umm... yeah... If you actually came here looking for open wounds, I'll direct your attention to Rotten.com - You should find all the disgusting open wounds you care to look at (and them some) .... you sick freak. it's like incest - you're substituting convenience for quality Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
